Embracing the Messiness of Spiritual Recovery

So the question for all of you, here's my question. What happens when our spiritual recovery and our spiritual life looks messy? What does that mean for you? When things look messy? And also from a perspective of being respectful of the spiritual trauma that other people go through, when we see something that we think is messy, how can we maybe overcome that thought, Overcome the thought that other people's messiness might just be something we don't understand or maybe haven't started a process of understanding or relationship with that other person?

And I'll get into a story around that in a bit.