Dr. Leslie Davis explains why we can tend to get into cycles of dramatic or toxic relationships.
When there is chaos in a relationship, there's the adrenaline rush of I have to fix something. Another reason why we experience or we crave chaos and addiction is what's called the stress reward cycle. So you might create or crave the chaos because you know what's coming next.
So when there is chaos in a relationship, there's the adrenaline rush of I have to fix something, I have to fight for something. And that fight or flight feels like something may be positive, even though it's a negative experience. And another reason why we experience or we crave chaos and addiction is what's called the stress reward cycle. So think about times where you may have had an argument with your partner or any relationship, and in the moment, the chaos doesn't feel great. But what happens after that?
There's reconciliation. And in that reconciliation, there might be a gift, there might be a hug, there might be whatever reward there is that you consider reward. So maybe it's you get more time with the person that you were feeling disconnected from. Maybe you get a gift. Maybe you get really just recognition. Maybe it's just the attention that might be the reward from. So that stress reward cycle is rewarding to you. So you might create or crave the chaos because you know what's coming next.
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