Prepare Your Leadership

Hello. Hello. Happy Monday, everyone. Cadres fear Give it a minute here. Let people join. Hope everyone's having a great Monday so far up here in Duluth, Minnesota. It's foggy, cold and rainy. Very typical weather here for the fall. Hello, Jules. Welcome. Just talking about how it's cold, foggy and rainy up here in Duluth, Minnesota, which is now get into that cold fall weather of Duluth, where people don't tend to come up and visit. Unlike the seasons changing when it's beautiful. You're getting over that hump now.

Yes. Did I say good morning or good afternoon? I Forget. I. It's 12:02 for me, probably good morning for some people. Good. Good afternoon. Well into the afternoon for others. So I'll just take this time for cold and drizzly here too. So. Good. Yeah, it's not just me. I know a lot of the Midwest has experienced that right now cold and drizzly weather. So I want to take the midday today and use it as a reset start of your work week. Back up and going again, kind of a Monday reset. And I want you to think about three things of three.

So starting with three emotions that you're feeling currently. You know, it could be emotions, could just be feelings too. Like I'm feeling kind of cold. So feeling cold just kind of strengthening your awareness of what you're feeling currently right now. Midday, morning, could be a little tired. Maybe you need that second cup of coffee or third or fourth. No one's judging here. So once you get you kind of how you're feeling, your three feelings, what are three intentions you have for the rest of the day?

What are three things you want to feel? Three things you want to see. Just some words. So if you're feeling cold, maybe you want to feel warm. So maybe you have to put on a sweatshirt. If you're feeling tired, maybe you want to feel energized. So maybe it's, you know, you need to take a. Take a break and take a walk to regain that energy. What are three intentions that you want for the rest of the day? And. And then three gratitudes. What are you grateful for? Maybe something over the weekend or a good start to your Monday or something you're looking forward to.

What are three things you're grateful for right now? And I just love this framework of the three things of three. Cause it's small, but it's yet powerful. And when looking at the research, as I look at research within workplace and teams on emotions, when you look at the research with these three things that can have profound impact on Your well being over time and also in the short term. So another aspect aligning with intentions is the idea of identity and what are your values? And I'll start off with I value coming into a room and I like the statement of value and joy creation.

So if I can come into the room and create value for people, make them think a different way, make them, have them, give them skills to behave in a different way, if I can create value for some people and if I can create joy as well when I enter that room, whether it's just coming from me or something that you know, creating value that can bring joy to the other person or sometimes in a coaching role, I won't always bring joy in the moment, but by giving the skills or increasing the abilities of people I'm coaching over time that will create joy.

In the short term it might not create joy at all. It might be frustration because they, because they didn't want to hear that. But over time that joy will be created. And having identity or value system for yourself is very important. They've done research on values and they found that for well being and mental health it can lead to increased happiness. And when looking at religion, they wanted to know why are people who believe in a religion more happy? It's. They found that it dwindles down not to the religion itself, but it's to having a value statement that they can return to something that they know what is right and what is wrong, what are they striving for, what are they striving to be?

So it's important to have a value system for yourself and you can do that by going on via Strengths is a great value finder where you answer a bunch of questions and they kind of say, well these tend to be your values and you can work from there deciding on what kind of values or identity do you want to strive for. And I talk a lot about the AIM model which is awareness, intention and then make it happen when dealing with emotions in the workplace. So having the awareness of the emotion and then the intention of what do you want to do with this emotion?

How do you want, what do you want to change or what do you want to use it for? And then making it happen, what do I need to do for that intention? And it's important to have that grounded identity or knowledge of your values with this AIM model. So your awareness of the emotion, what is the emotion? Can you label it? Why am I feeling this emotion? What's the situation? What caused the emotion is all awareness and then the intention comes from what do I want to do with this emotion? How do I want to maybe reframe this emotion that comes from the identity piece and your values?

You will know what to do with this emotion if you have a grounded identity of your values and who you want to be. One reflective activity I like to do is who in your life have you looked up to and how did they act? What were their values? And that can give you an idea of what values do you want to have. And so when you're dealing with an emotion, having that identity piece can help you deal with it. And it's not to say you shouldn't feel the negative emotions also. So if you. I like to, in a sports metaphor, if you're on a team and you lose, you shouldn't just not feel sad.

You're going to feel sad. But when you want to, what you want to do is figure out, what does that sadness tell you? It often tells you if you're feeling sad, it means that you lost something that was important to you, you lost a game that was important to you. If you sit there in the sadness and lament, you're never going to not feel that sadness again. You're going to go to another game and feel sad. But if you can use that, that despair, the sadness to fuel your growth, to improve for the next game, that's what you want to do with that intention piece.

You don't want to just not feel sad anymore. But how can we use the negative emotion to fuel our growth and development? If you're in a conflict with somebody, maybe you feel frustrated. And I'm not saying that frustration is a bad thing. All emotions a good thing. So you want to use that piece of frustration in a healthy way. So identify. Why am I feeling frustrated with this person? Maybe it's because I didn't give them the materials needed to do their job, or. Or maybe they don't have the training to do the job when I thought they did.

So that frustration piece can then provide insight into how can we make something happen in a healthy manner. So by knowing kind of your identity value creation, you can figure out that intention piece and help you reframe emotions, reframe situations, work healthy and negative situations to help you improve, you know, overall find joy and improve relationships. So, yeah, that's kind of identity values. And I just wanted to talk about that today. Seems like a very relevant, at least in my life as I've come across it a lot the past week.

So I hope you have a great rest of your week. Thank you. Jules for joining me live. And I hope you and I thank everyone who watches this later for joining me. Hope you have a great rest of your week and stay warm if you're in a cold area. Bye, everyone.