Get To the Root with Rachel Logan

Hello Cadre. Happy Wednesday. I am Rachel Logan your get to the root counselor and I'm here. I'm outside about to go into the grocery store in preparation for Thanksgiving. But I wanted to hop on because we've been talking about self care. And so before I dive into my notes, I want to know, how have you been caring for yourself? I know this is like one of the busiest times of the year, so I want to know how have you been taking care of yourself? Last week we talked about who are you listening to to give you some wisdom and have family over or go to visit people's houses.

I want to give you a scripture. Colossians 4:6 says, Let your speech always be gracious, season with salt so that you may know how you ought to answer each person. I'm going to read that again. Colossians 4 and 6 says, Let your speech always be gracious and seasoned with salt so that you may know how you ought to respond or answer to each person. And I was thinking about salt because, you know, when we're cooking Thanksgiving food, we like for it to taste good. Like I low key, want to be like Betty Crocker, okay?

I want my food and my desserts to taste amazing. And so when we're cooking, we're seasoning a lot of our foods with some kind of salt or rosemary or barley or thyme or you name it, we're seasoning, right? We want our food to taste good. So when we think about self care, Thanksgiving and being around family, we have to be intentional with our speech. We have to be intentional on how we respond to people. And this is important because either your gatherings are amazing and it's filled with love or sometimes people can be petty and you like, look, I don't have time for that.

And so what really happens is that the outcome of your gatherings, the outcome of your family gathering is based and rooted in your self care. And if your responses is seasoned with salt, let that sit with you for a moment. Let your speak. Let your speech be seasoned with salt. Let it be gracious. So how do we do this right? When sometimes we might be around family members that may get on our nerves or they may bring up topics that you're not comfortable with. Well, listen, I have three things that you can do and that you can incorporate starting today as you are preparing.

Number one, we have to remember that self care is preventing risk or damage, right? So risk to your mood, damage to your relationship. So we have to go in knowing that no matter what, I'm going to care for myself. And I'm going to do that by one radically accepting people for who they are. Radically accept people for who they are. I know we want to go in wishing and hoping that people would change or things may change. Your energy could be different. Maybe you may be grieving a loss of a loved one and so they're not there.

This, this Thanksgiving, we have to begin to radically accept life for what it is. And I know that's a big pill to swallow, but we do. Once we radically accept, that means it's not the norm, it's not what I desire. But if I accept it, I won't judge and I won't criticize, and I won't be wishing for something that can't come true right or isn't true at this present moment. So, number one is to radically accept. Okay. Number two, determine in your mind what topics are. Are on or off limits for you.

Okay, radically accept which topics are safe and unsafe for you. So within family gatherings, sometimes, you know, they bring up memories, old things. Maybe there might be bringing up politics in the current election, the current election that we just went through. And you have to make up in your mind what is safe and what is unsafe. What is safe and unsafe? What topics are okay for you. And so think about this because you're caring for yourself to avoid damage or risk. You have to determine beforehand what topics will you or will you not participate in, and what will you do if they bring up things you don't feel comfortable talking about?

You can go get you another. Bless you. Peace out.