A conversation about caregiving that explores how people move between roles, when proximity becomes care, and remembering times they’ve needed care, using stories like Eeyore and Piglet.
This week's flying by. Happy Thursday. On Thursdays, we talk about caregiving. All of our buckets in the Cadre sphere are large and porous. We walk in and out of our different roles and responsibilities.
Anila Pooh: How often is the responsibility and the opportunity that we have to care for others around us? The act of being in proximity to where that's. That's a powerful expression of caring for. Caregivers, consider when maybe you need to be the one receiving care so you can continue to give care.
I think that's what Eeyore gives as the gift to Pooh and Piglet. If we're dealing with something that we care about, it should be above all other things, personal.
Jeff: The Tao of Poo and the Tao of Peanuts take the opportunity to look at things in a different way. If live streams your thing, spend some time. If you have something that comes to mind, put it in the community feed.
Well, hey there, Cadre. How are you? Happy Thursday. Happy long week. Or at least it feels like it to me. You may go. Whoo. This week's flying by. I hope you're good. But even if you're not, if you're not good, that's okay, too. It's kind of the cool thing about Cadre, right? We all show up here when we do, how we do, and we coexist with that reality that there are not only many pathways to wellness, but many places where we stop on that pathway, many places where we find ourselves. Wow. Crew. What a crew of people showing up this morning.
GM Johnson, 0922. Nice to see you, Jules. Speak wonder on your second cup of coffee. Oh, my gosh. Speak wonder. Watch out. Actually, world, watch out. Cause speak wonder is on that second cup of coffee. How is everybody? And if you don't have an answer to that question, I promise you, I will still ask it. Cause it's a good muscle to train not to come up with an answer to how you are, but to spend time thinking about how you are and what waters down from that. What do you need? What can you do? What can you give?
What do you need to ask for? What do you need to take? On Thursdays, we talk about. Jeff, nice to see you. On Thursdays, we talk about caregiving. You know, Jules, thank you for your answer of so. So. I appreciate it. If you think about how. Of our. How our livestream days shape out, we have some that are very internal focused, you know, so Mondays is professional development. Saturdays is personal development. Sundays is self care. We have some that are very connected. Tuesdays we talk about building community, right?
How do we. How do we do this world together? Fridays we talk about grief and loss, right? One of those stages of being in relationship with other people and other things. And then on Thursdays, we talk about when that relationship becomes one where we have to. We get to reality, brings us into an alignment where we have to care for others. Now, again, this can look lots of ways. Like, you may think about caregiving in the. How do I caregive for strangers on a. On a rough day in the world? How do I caregive for my loved one who has a life change where all of a sudden they need someone to care for them?
And also, how do we care for ourselves in that situation? All of our buckets in the Cadre sphere are large and porous. Why? Because we don't exist in a bucket. We exist on this big, beautiful planet where we walk in and out of our different personalities and roles and responsibilities that we have. So as we talk about caregiving today, I want you to think about the time that you have been in need of care. I would bet a nickel that at least some of those times you have found yourself in a place of.
As the great thinker, St. Augustine of Hippo would say, you find yourself in curvatuse. In Latin, in English, curved in on yourself. You know, I was moving on through some media this morning, and I came across something that I've come across hundreds of times, and it's this story of Eeyore and Piglet and Pooh Bear. And the story goes that Pooh Bear and Piglet haven't seen Eeyore in a long time. So they go to Eeyore's house to check in on Eeyore, and they get there and they go, eeyore, how are you?
We haven't seen you for a while. And Eeyore says, you know, I'm not that good. I've been sad. I've been. I've been down. I've been out. And then he said, and I don't think anybody wants to be around that. So I have isolated myself again. As Augustine says, I've incarvatuse. I've curved in on my own being, because I think that's where the world wants me to be. So then Pooh and Piglet sat down in Poo's or in Eeyore's little hut, and that is where they sat. And Eeyore said, what are you guys doing?
And Pooh and Piglet said, well, we want to be with you. I think that's a great reminder to everybody today. You know, Anila just shared that Anila couldn't get up this morning. And maybe the most important part of Anila's message here is the sad face or the heavy face. It actually kind of looks like an Eeyore face. You can literally put a little Eeyore body around that face. Anila, how often is the responsibility and the opportunity that we have to care for others around us? The act of being in proximity to where that's.
That's. That's the docket of work for the day to go. I'm going to be close to. I don't know. Think about. Think about the last 24 hours. Have you noticed anyone being in space with you with no clear intention outside of being in space with you? I think it's kind of happening to me right now. All y'all are spending time and space with me, and I'm spending Time and space with you. Did anybody send you a message yesterday saying, hey, guess what? It's a really powerful expression of caring for. Anila says Eeyore was 100% the Pooh character I identified most with.
It only clicked recently how each character represents a different mentality. Yeah, Anila Pooh, the whole Christopher Robin world is the an earlier generations version of Inside Out. I've been doing a lot of comparison work between those two worlds. Yeah, it's, It's, It's. It's pretty amazing. And Anila, I'm an Eeyore as well. Amy says I'm often Eeyore. Amy, the thing I love about your comment is you. You put Eeyore into an archetype. Right? So rather than saying I am Eeyore, you said, I am often E, or meaning we.
We take on different roles within our roles. If you are the caregiver, like, if you are the one who is. Who is being taken care of, that doesn't mean you are always existing in the same opportunity or in the same space or the same exchange of energy in that relationship. And caregivers, here's my strong statement to you today. You being a caregiver doesn't mean that you are always the one giving care. And actually, if you go, well, I kind of am, then I'm going to invite you to consider when maybe you need to be the one who is receiving care so you can continue to give care.
Go back to the Eeyore Pooh Bear, Piglet story. Pooh Bear and Piglet are the ones who sat down next to Eeyore. So we go, oh, look at them caring for Eeyore. But I wonder, did Piglet and Pooh Bear need the invitation to sit down and to be still and to be with other people, knowing both Pooh Bear and Piglet? Yeah, I bet that's exactly what they needed. But guess what? They don't have the gall and the guts that Eeyore has to actually do it. Piglet's always worrying. Pooh Bear is always thinking and being curious and going what and where?
And oh and ooh. And trying to fit in correctly. They needed Eeyore to say, hey, you know what? I am sad. I am depressed. I don't want to do anything. Whoever says that with confidence and clarity for others to hear, I'll tell you, I am not afraid to say that. Feelings are a big part of how I exchange energy and do my work in this world. I shared in the community feed yesterday, three words on a screen. It says it is Personal. And taps into my favorite movie of all time, you've Got Mail, where Tom Hanks says to.
Says to Meg Ryan, like, ah, like it. It. It's just business. It's not personal. And Meg Ryan claps back and says, all you're saying is it's not personal to you. It is personal to me. And all of a sudden, Meg Ryan stops Tom Hanks in his tracks. Because Meg Ryan says, if we're dealing with something that we care about, it should be above all other things, personal. I think that's what Eeyore gives as the gift to Pooh and Piglet. Pooh and Piglet show up. It's like, hey, are you okay? And Eeyore goes, no.
Next question. And Pooh and Piglet respond to that. Lots of morsels today, y'all. But I'll tell you, those morsels came from Anila's emoji and Amy's use of the word often. And Jules, so so. And speak Wonder's second cup of coffee. And all y'all who are here who haven't typed on the screen, guess what? You right there as well. Yes, Jeff. The Tao of Poo. All of the Tao books are amazing. There's the Tao of Peanuts book. It takes the opportunity to look at things that we care about in a different way.
And, Jeff, I think that's part of what we're. Part of what we're doing here in Cadre. As we always say, Cadre is a collection of professionals and peers fostering a community with resources to show the world that there are many ways to wellness. That book. If you don't, if you've never read Tao of Poo or Tao of Peanuts or that whole collection, everybody, Ooh, go get them right now. They're great to have on your shelf. Jeff. You couldn't have wrapped this up any better, my friend. Y'all check out the lineup today.
If live streams your thing, spend some time. If pre recorded content's your thing, where you're like, I really want something about X, Y, or Z, or if you have something that comes to mind, here's my invitation for you today. Anytime you go. Mmm. I have an idea. Where do I share it with? Put it in the community feed, please and thank you. You have something to give. And as Augustine of Hippo Incarvatuse curved in on himself, and then through accepting where he was and the opportunity to receive energy and grace and all those things, he uncurved on himself.
And guess what? He was able to give what he got because what he has is enough, y'all. I'll see you every day, whether you like it or not. We'll talk to you later.
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