Cadre Today and Family Ties

Hey there, Cadre. Happy Thursday. How are you? I really hope you get in the routine of when someone says, how are you? You think about it. You think about the different ways you can answer that question. You think about how are you feeling? How are you thinking? How are you being, how are you doing? How are you paying attention? How are you being aware? And you know what, if you're like me, and you may be, or you may not be, both are great, you may never actually come up with an answer. I don't know how to answer that question ever.

I've never, I've never been able to answer that question very well, very consistently, very quickly. But the act of thinking about how are you doing? Is a really, really good one. Speak wonders on the second cup of joy over there. And I am on my enjoyable bubbly beverage of the morning. I love the taste of a bubbly beverage when I'm heading in to hold space for other people today. I will be leading a four hour session on some leadership development team work today. Hey Jules, nice to see you my friend.

And it's a perfect day for me to be holding space for other people because it's Caregiver Thursday and this is Cadre today. So what can you depend upon me to expand the aperture of what we often think of as who belongs, who deserves to listen on each day of the Cadre? Often we think maybe caregiving is reserved for those 50 million plus unpaid caregivers who are caring for their children or their parents. When something presents that invites them to be, that encourages them to be, that forces them to be a full time caregiver for someone in their sphere.

But I invite you to think when are all those times that you either have the opportunity or the necessity to caregive for people who are not you or maybe not even in your house. Today I will be holding that space for 15 people who I guarantee you are not super, super, super excited to be coming and sitting in a hotel ballroom to talk about how they do what they do rather than allowing them to simply do what they do. Good morning, KR Strand. Nice to see you my friend. Later on today because and Speak, one of you queued this up perfectly.

We know that one of the mediums that we share information in the Cadre sphere is through live streams, right? So throughout today you will see other individuals, including the one and only Speak Wonder here popping in in the live in Speak Wonder. Today we'll be talking about confetti in the grime. I love that the confetti more than the grime But I don't know. If you ask me, I kind of like confetti more in the grime because it's easier to see the confetti in the grime than it is to see the confetti in the non grime.

Okay, so here's my thought today. I'm going to be walking into a hotel ballroom in a few minutes here to prepare a space to make it feel a little less like a hotel ballroom and more like a potential space for people to have something remarkable happen. So when they enter back into the world, something happens differently. I'm a big fan of the TV show House. It was the TV show starring Greg Laurie. He played an eccentric diagnostic medicine doctor who was really hard to work with, but was really, really good at figuring out things that no one else could figure out.

Well, once he had a patient, and this patient refused to work with anyone other than him. And she said this. She said, life is made up of rooms, and who you spend time with in each of these rooms is the worth of your life. Because House keeps going, why do you. Why do you want to work with me? There are other great doctors. Why do you want to work with me? Why won't you leave me alone? And she says, because I'm supposed to spend time with you in this room. Like, the value of this moment for both of us is what we get out of our exchange with each other.

I think that's the opportunity today for me. These 15 people I'm going to be holding space for. I'm not going to be the one giving them the stuff, but I will be the one encouraging them to see what they can gain from each other. These 15 individuals have worked with each other as the senior leadership of a very established organization. The average tenure of these 15 leaders is over 15 years, and that's on the lawn. Like, those people who've been part of this organization for over 30 years, they know each other as much as, you know the two old books on the mantle know each other that have never been taken off and are covered in dust.

They have an opportunity to have their lives be changed today by who they share a space with. So caregivers out there. You may be at a place where you go, what do I have to give? And you may be like, I don't have anything to give. There's something that happens when people share space together, whether it be a car ride, whether it be a kitchen table, whether it be wherever. Honor that space for whatever it's worth. It may not be worth a lot but it's worth something. Y'all have a great day, and we'll see you tomorrow.