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Hey there, Cadre. How are you doing on this Thursday? Well, you know what? It may come as a surprise to you, but I hope you're doing great. And it may also come as a surprise to you if you're not doing great. I hope you know that that's okay, too. Right? No matter what's going on, no matter where you are, it's Thursday, and you are alive. You are well, well enough to be here. And this is your opening act to Speak Wonders livestream. Coming up in 30 minutes, everybody. Right from the banks of Lake Erie.

So, Marisa, Speak Wonder. Nice to see y'all this morning. My name's JC if we've never shared time and space together before, thank you for the opportunity to spend some time with you right now. It truly is a gift. On Thursdays, we often talk about family stuff and caregiving stuff. Oh, and Ms. Shannon Paul's here, too, y'all. You got the whole Thursday lineup kicking in right here right now. This afternoon, Michan and Paul will be bringing you a little bit of comedy to navigate through the chaos.

You know, I often bring up the idea of having mantras to move throughout your day. Mantra translates from Sanskrit into English loosely as vehicle of the mind. Right. So, like, if you have a little phrase or a little idea that you carry with you, that's the thing that you can navigate through your reality with. Almost just like Ms. Shannon uses comedy to be the vehicle to move throughout life. Life is a verb. It's not a noun. Life is not. Here is your answer, but here may be the thing you need to hear right now to continue to move.

So coming up in 28 minutes, you got Speak Wonder and. And coming up in a few hours, you got the one and only Ms. Shannon Paul. So Thursdays, we often talk about caring for those people who, either through biology or by choice or by situation, we end up having really big impacts on such big impacts that you may go, wow, this person is dependent on me for some or for all of their existence. Well, we are in the midst of the holiday extravaganza, where so many different holidays and so many different traditions all around the world are kind of weaving and paralleling one another here.

So quite often with that, there are things that we do. Oh, I love this for sure. Comedy is the fancy crackers of life's pate. Pinkies up, y'all. Well, yesterday I opened up the. So my parents, I moved them down to Florida every six months, and then every six months, I move them back up to Minnesota. So my mother leaves a bag of goodies at their house in Minnesota that I then go pick up when I'm checking on the house. And then that's our holiday celebration when we open up the bag of stuff. Stuff.

And in that bag of stuff, there are often. My mom loves to give gifts, so often she tries to find other things that. That would maybe be liked by me. Something to know about me. I'm not a big gift person. I don't like giving them, and I don't really like getting them. So, you know, as me and my mom were messaging back and forth this morning, she's like, oh, did you like this game? I'm like, no, I don't play games. She's like, oh, did you like this. This printed pajama pant that I got you? I'm like, no, I don't like wearing clothes with.

With words on them because I'm a speak the truth quickly person. And again, recalibrating. And then I brought up, like, oh, Mom, I spritzed my new cologne for the first time this morning. Every year for 30 years, my mother gets me a bottle of cologne for the holidays. So I, as an old millennial, I feel like the old millennials are the last people who truly wear cologne. Like, you know, it's like I have my little. My little glass tray with all my little cologne bottles, and each day I pick up a different one.

And I. That's the way that I know that I'm ready for the day. And it's in that moment that I think my mom remembers. It's like, oh, that's right. Here's our thing. And that's when I say, hey, mom, here's our thing. Gift giving, I think, is. I liked translating it or thinking about it as the evidence that we understand the power, the potency, the clarity within the relationships that we have. All right, I saw someone on the Instagram yesterday share that they were passing down their mother's tradition with their offspring.

And they said, I'm so grateful that my mom's traditions are easy. So this little child, the mom took a picture of their child doing the tradition, and the tradition was putting cloves into an orange. So, like, decorating the orange with. With little cloves. And again, you can go, okay, what is the value of an orange with cloves in it? And my response would be, it is the evidence of the relationship. It is the way that we say, here's how we see one another. Here's how we remember one another. And that's what my little clone tray is in my life, you know, I know that my mom is going to continue to, like, buy other things to try to find, like, the next thing.

And I think a lot of us do that, right? We go, okay, I need to find the magical gift, or I need to now, again, she also loves buying gifts. So even if the. If the gift doesn't, quote, quote, mean a lot to me, I know it means a lot to her. So even after I said, nope, not going to wear those pants, I'm not going to play that game, I was like, but I'll bring these gifts back to you once you get back into. Into town, and then you can re gift them. She's like, oh, that's great. I'll think about other people who would use those gifts.

And I go, exactly. So I'm going to share a picture in the community feed in the. In the caregiving community of me spritzing my clone for my first time this year. It's. It's a Yves Saint Laurent cologne. And funny enough, she always tries to get different clones. And as. As she's aging over the last couple of years. Actually, about over the last six years, there's been some duplicates. I've gotten this clone now for the fourth time. But this morning, she's like, ah, is. Is that a new cologne? I was like, nope, but it's a good one.

She's like, oh. And I'm like, no, it's a good one. So when I share that picture in the community, go ahead and let me know what your. What your traditional gifts are with your people. And remember that they are evidence of that relationship. They are the way that we say, hey, a million years from now, and people open up the history book, they're going to see this little artifact. It may be a clone bottle. It may be an orange with a clove in it. It may be a pair of pajamas. It may be a necklace. It may be a picture of you with your person.

Because maybe your gift is time or maybe it's music. Share those with each other. Speak. Wonder says, I grew up doing the cloves and oranges thing. So pungent and sweet. Great air freshener. Yeah. You know what I want to do? Speak, Wonder. I want to put the cloves in the orange, and then I want to boil a big pot of water. I want to drop the orange in the water because I think with the cloves and the. And the. And the orange oils and just like, whoa. Reminds me of, like, a Bath and Body Works three Wick candle, y'all.

You know I love me some three wick candles, y'all. I hope you have a great day ahead. I'm gonna be back tomorrow and every other day to go ahead and say to you whether this is your first time in Cadre or your millionth time in the Cadre sphere, you are exactly where you're supposed to be, how you are, whether you're great, whether you're not great, whether you know the answers, whether you don't know the answers, whether you know what you're looking for, or whether you're looking for a community to go.

Huh? In the midst of this space, I got everything that I need, y'all. 21 minutes until speak Wonders in the house. Boop. We'll talk to you later. Bye.