JC greets Cadre, reflects on alone time, holiday softness and gratitude for feeling sad, and shares personal stories about a lonely year in Massachusetts and how solitude shaped his sense of well-being.
Hey, Cadre. How are you doing? I hope you're good. Spending time with other people, spending time in thought and consideration is always beneficial. You change the state of the people around you, and I'm one of those people. We're showing you that there's lots of ways to be well.
A lot of times during the holidays, I get really reflective and really soft. Sad is one of those feelings that I am grateful to feel from time to time. Have you ever had a time when you've had to feel something other than what you were feeling?
Your body may stop communicating as loudly or as clearly because it may feel foolish. Listen to yourself, y'all. Have a great Friday ahead and I'll see you tomorrow morning.
Hey. Hey, Cadre. How are you doing? I hope you're good. Maybe you tuned in to see Dr. Charryse this morning just a half an hour ago, and if you did, I'm sure that you are better because of it. Spending time with other people, spending time in thought and consideration is always beneficial. Buddy, how are you, my friend? Oh, my gosh, it feels really good to on a morning to be able to know that. That your buddy is around. Jules, you are my buddy. Buddy, you're my buddy by definition. By name, you are my buddy as well.
Nice to see the rest of you moving on in as well as you ticker on in. Sometimes it's hard to go ahead and see everybody, but I'm really glad that you're here. Why? Because you change the state of the people around you, and I'm one of those people. So if you're doing great, that's awesome. If you're not doing great, if you're not doing well, I know that that's okay too. My name's JC and every morning I have the opportunity to. To wish you good morning, spend time with you right here in the Cadre sphere.
What are we doing at Cadre? We're showing you that there's lots of ways to be well, and one of those ways is to show up like you're doing and to go, huh? So I wonder what's here. Literally about two minutes ago, as I was opening up the Cadre app, I saw Steph Todd's post on alone time. I got to read like 7% of it. And I saw in there that Steph's like, over the last 20 years, I spent a lot of time alone. And this was my response. It was that I, you know, during the holidays, people always ask, oh, so what'd you do for the holiday?
Or, hey, what are your plans for the holidays? And my answer is normally over the last about 11 years or so, it's, you know, I don't. I don't got a lot of plans, and that's by choice. I've really fallen in love with having alone time or having non plans, and that kind of directly correlates to something else, and that is there's a lot of times during the holidays that I get really reflective and really soft and really a lot of times sad. And I kind of like that. Beezer bits. Nice to see you, my friend.
Happy Friday. Sad is one of those feelings that I am grateful to feel from time to time. I'm not a, you know, a dramatic person. I'm not a Woe is me. Person I'm not. But there's something about sadness. You know, 11 years ago, I'm a Minnesotan through and through, y'all. But for one year of my life, exactly one year, minus one day, 364 days, I lived in Boston, Massachusetts. Well, I live In Lawrence, Massachusetts, 24 miles north of Boston, because it's where I could afford to live with my three dogs.
But I moved there to be in Boston for work, and it was a really, really lonely year. The following years, I got to move back to Minnesota, but then I was traveling for work for the next about three years, and, like, traveling, like, a lot. And there was a lot of lonely time and a lot of sad times. I have playlists that. That are like my Boston playlist there from the time I was in Boston. And there was just something about a lot of those songs. I was like, I wanted to tap into feeling sad. You may go, well, why would you want to feel sad?
My real answer is, because sometimes I'm sad. I think the world invites us to go, okay, feel happy, feel positive, feel motivated. And those are all good feelings to feel, too. But if you ever felt like you need to hide what you're feeling because you're supposed to be feeling something else, maybe, maybe, maybe in. In chat, if you got your hands free, or later on today if you're watching this on pre record or. Yes, throw those hearts. Have you ever had a time when you've had to feel something other than what you were feeling?
Like, the world asks you, hey, how you doing? And they seem to be really hoping and really wanting you to be happy. So you go, oh, you know what? I'm doing okay. Or you lie and you go, yeah, things are good. Or you kind of hide the sadness amidst the happiness. Well, I'm really busy. Or lots of stuff's going on, but you know what? Things are gonna be okay. Have you ever been in that state? When people ask me, well, why would you want to be sad? Why do you like the moments when you're sad? My answer is always, because that's what I'm feeling.
Two favorite quotes of mine. Bertolt Brecht, an old theater playwright from, like, the 1600s. Once Bertold was asked the question, will there be music in the dark times? And Berthold said, yes, there will be music about the dark times. I love that quote. You know, when I saw that quote for the first time, I was a depressed college student, 2001, and I was sitting in the hallway of the. Of the old stinky Building on South Campus where my voice lessons were at the University of St. Thomas. I was sitting in the kind of the pleather chair outside of my voice teacher, Dede Jorstad, who I'm still friends with today on the Facebook.
I was sitting outside her office, and on the little corkboard, there was a quote of Bertolt. Will there be music in the dark times? Yes, there will be music about the dark times. I love that quote because Bertolt, through the little clipping with thumbtack, was telling me, hey, feeling what you're feeling is what you should feel. Here's one more passage. It's from the book of Ecclesiastes. So we're in the Knights of Hanukkah right now. So I'm going Old Testament for a second. In the book of Ecclesiastes, there is a passage, ninth chapter, that says, in essence, where the tree falls, that's where it is.
It's like, jc, duh. Like, if the tree fell where the tree fell, of course that's where the tree is. But how often it's like, think about the human. The human is sad, but is walking around a world where the human has to be happy. Where is the person? Is the person sad? Is the person happy? Is the person where they are? Is the person where other people think they're supposed to be? Being where you are with what you have and honoring that, it's kind of the secret to life. Secret of life. It's a James Taylor song.
It's really pretty. Like most James Taylor music, it's also kind of sad. I invite you. I invite you to be where you are with what you have today. And if someone says, hey, how you doing? And if you're feeling sad or frustrated or angry, I hope you share the answer with them. And they may go, oh, why? Give them an answer? And the answer may be, because that's what I'm feeling. And it may leave your voice like that. Ah. If I take out the words that didn't sound sad, it sounded like I'm answering the question.
I'm acknowledging who I am and where I am and what's going on with this, buddy, I'm right there with you. At the end of the day, if we feel what we feel physiologically, we start trusting ourselves. If we tell ourselves, don't feel what you're feeling, we go into a little bit of fight flight. We go into a little bit of, wait, am I on my own side? Am I listening to myself? And if the answer is no, you know what's going to happen. Your body may stop communicating as loudly or as clearly because it may feel foolish.
It may feel like it's not going to be listened to. Listen to yourself, y'all. I hope you have a great Friday ahead and I'll see you tomorrow morning. On the weekends, I'm here at 8am Central Standard Time. And of course, weekdays, just like today. 7:30am Central Standard Time, y'all. Buddy, Beezabitz, Jules, Luke. Have a great one. And even if you don't, that's okay too. Talk to you later.
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