The Thin Space

Hey there, Cadre. How are we doing? My hair is Sunday morning hair today, but as you can see out of the windows, it's pretty bright out there. Why? Because we got a little bit of snow. Finally. So where are you? How's it going? What is up for you today? Whatever it is, as you maybe type it in a chat. How you're doing, where you're going, what you're doing. Hey, Jules, no matter what that is, know that our hope is that you are doing well. That you're floating above, that things are easy peasy Mac and cheesy, y'all.

But if they're not, guess what? It's okay too. May not feel like it, but you are always in this journey. I love saying hey, Shannon. I always love saying life is a verb. It's not a noun. Meaning when maybe someone says, hey, how's life going? They're not. Well, maybe they are. But answer the question from a space of in its evolution, the pinpoint that you are in. How is it? Maybe practice some, some non attachment with your answer going to say, wow, right now things are. Things are absolutely crazy.

Or you know what? Right now I'm really frustrated and their response may be oh no. And you may feel like oh no. But remember, right, the moments of feeling better or feeling worse, of doing good or not doing good, all of those things are. Are always in evolution. You are a verb, Jules. I'm glad that that cup of coffee has found you. And I hope that mom's living room is. Is a wonderful little space to be right now. So on Sundays we so often talk about taking care of yourself. That sounds different than self care, right?

Right. You may go. It's like, well, I'm always doing things to take care of myself. I'm eating when I'm hungry, I'm resting when I'm tired, I'm giving myself some space. When I'm cluttered, I'm giving myself things to think about when maybe I'm angsty or needing something to be nourished by. Taking care of oneself sounds less expensive than self care. I invite you to think about it that way today. How are you taking care of yourself today? And it may not be like getting a massage, it may not be like going on a six week sabbatical to Bali.

Like that sounds like self care culturally, right? But if you take self care and put it into the taking care of yourself realm, then all of a sudden you may go, you know, I got something stuck in my teeth. I'm gonna go brush my teeth. That is Self care, y'all. Hey, here's the tidbit for the day. I found myself on two plane flights yesterday. I was on a plane for maybe like 8 hours yesterday, stuck in a plane. And I don't mean stuck, because it's like, oh, I'm stuck at a plate. But no, I'm like, literally sitting in this big metal tube and I can't go anywhere else and I have to keep my seatbelt on.

So I'm literally stuck. All of that. The moments when we're stuck, the moments when we are where we are, that's when all of a sudden the mind starts going, the imagination starts pouring and the emotions start emoting and the panic and the anxiety starts panicking and anxiety. And also the other side of that, the peace shows up. I often think, you know, and I hear quite often, you know, people go, it's like, I'm not good at resting because the second I try to rest or the second I try to do something for myself, that's when all of a sudden I can't get my mind to turn off.

It's not a prerequisite to turn your brain off to go ahead and care for yourself or to rest or to be nourished. Actually, it's quite the opposite. The moment we take rest, the moment we give care, is most often the time that our body goes, oh, cool, now we can deal with and sort through all of this stuff that we've been holding onto and putting lower on the priority status list. So my invitation for you today is if you cancelled your class at the gym today to stay home and chill, you may go. And now I want to relax, but my brain is saying, do this stuff, or it's thinking about the stuff that isn't, Isn't nourishing or isn't calming.

Give that stuff the moment that it's due because it's been waiting. As Jule says, I find sometimes the small things are what I need more than the bigger take care of things. Oh, a thousand percent, A thousand percent. A thousand percent. Right now. I was supposed to be running. I was registered to be running the Disney marathon right now. And so often in marathons, people look at the finish line as the. As the moment that counts. If they don't go to get to the finish line, every other moment prior to that is wasted.

First of all, that sounds like an awful way to do life. To have one moment be the indicator of goodness or badness. But second of all, I'm sorry, I love all the moments prior and post the finish line more than the finish line. The preparation, the self care, the taste of the water when you're thirsty, the taste of the snack on the side of the road when all of a sudden someone says, hey, do you want to. Do you want a Twizzler? And all of a sudden the body's going, yes, I want a Twizzler. And it tastes like the best Twizzler you've ever had.

So, Jules, you're right on the small things are always what your body's asking for. Why full circle? Because we are a verb. We are not a noun. Meaning in each moment of our progression, we need the breadcrumb. We need Reese's Pieces that Elliot lays down for ET to know where to go next. Y'all, I hope what you're finding in the Cadre Sphere is not anything prolific or profound or life absolute, shaking, earthquaking profound. I hope what you're finding is the breadcrumb that you need, the Reese's Pieces or the Elliot who's laying the Reese's Pieces down for you.

Because you are the breadcrumb. You are the Reese's Pieces, and you are the Elliot for so many other people. So do the little things. And every once in a while, if you can do the big thing, do the big thing, y'all. Plan it out. Give yourself the big thing. But today, think about the little. All right, y'all, we'll see you tomorrow. But stay right here as long as you need. Just as you sit down with a cup of coffee and you savor it, savor the Cadre Sphere whenever you need because it's always piping hot.

Have a good.