Host reflects on acknowledging present conditions and working with what one has, balancing planning with in-the-moment needs, and shares a brief story about bundling up to visit a delayed sister.
It is officially negative 3 degrees here in Bloomington. The best thing we can do for ourselves is to acknowledge where we are with what we have and to honor that. The only power that we really have is working withwhat we got.
Tiffany: We need to give ourselves what we need in order to operate. No one's ever won without first thinking that winning was possible. To go see my sister, I had to bundle up. What if I hadn't given myself what I needed in the moment?
Well, hey, good morning, Cadre. How are you today? Let me take off my gloves. Let me take off my face mask. I'll pull my hat up a little bit. How are you? I hope you are great, Cadre. As you can see, the sun is shining, but if you could see the thermostat in my car, it is officially negative 3 degrees here in. I think I'm in Bloomington. Maybe I'm in Edina right now. Hey, Steph, Nice to see you, my friend. I hope it's at least a little bit warmer down south, but I know the whole country is kind of in a.
In a deep chill this morning. As you saw. I had to take my face mask off. I had to go ahead and take my gloves off to hit start, but then I put my gloves back on because it is chilly, which is a really great image for how I think we approach the work that any day presents. I'll talk about that in a moment. But first I want to say I hope you're doing great. And if you're not doing great, know that that's okay, too. May not feel like it, but life goes like this. And the best thing we can do for ourselves is to acknowledge where we are with what we have and to honor that.
Not to make it better than it is. Not to say that everything's great if it's not, but to say, hey, here is what we got going right now. And working from that place is always. And I don't use always as a word frequently, but it's true, right? The only power that we really have is working with what we got. Now, again, thinking about what will be in the future that may provide some motivation and some excitement. Thinking about the past and what we've learned, where we can grow and go. Incredibly important and powerful.
But we have this moment right here. Yeah, Jules, I was going to ask if you popped in, what's it like up North? Negative 33. You're not reading that wrong, everybody. That's what happens in the northern parts of our lovely, lovely state of Minnesota here, where me and Jules both reside. As I was mentioning, me having to go and take off all my garb to go ahead and live stream with y'all today. It's a really good image on how we do the work that each day presents. So often. We get into the hyper plan mode of here's how things are going to go.
We need to make sure it goes this way. Planning. No one's ever gotten anywhere without having an idea of where we're going to go. No One's ever won without first thinking that winning was possible. No one's ever navigated the curveball that presents without considering the thousands of possibilities that could present. At the end of the day, when we get to the day at hand. So when we get to today, to this Monday, to this January day, to this, whatever's going on in the world today, we need to give ourselves what we need in order to operate.
Right? So my sister, who lives in Iowa, but her work often brings her to South Dakota, she was delayed in Minneapolis at the airport last night. So she's late to work this morning. But because she got delayed here, I was able to go ahead and stop in and see her at the hotel. And we got breakfast. I had some fruit and some turkey sausage, and we got a great picture. We had some great conversation. But for me to go see my sister, I had to bundle up. I got all the layers on. I got my gloves on. Oh, I got my New York.
I got my one New York marathon glove because the other ones got lost. I always love this glove. Right, so it has all the five burrows on the fingers. So you start in Staten island, then you run to Brooklyn, you run to Queensland, go to the Bronx. Well, actually, after Queens, you go into Manhattan for a bit, then you go to the Bronx and then back to Manhattan. Okay. There was my distraction moment because I saw my glove, but I had to put all these layers on in order to go see my sister. Why? Because it was really cold.
But what if I hadn't given myself what I needed in the moment? What if I hadn't given myself the addendums, the audibles, the resources that I need to go to go do the thing I need to do today? I would be less ready, I'd be less supported, I'd be less clear, focused, grounded to do those things. So what do you need today to do? The thing you need to do today, there's no bonus point if you go, ah, I'm not going to give myself those things. Give yourself the things you need. Do you need the extra five minutes?
Do you need the Mountain Dew? You need to play the song on the radio. Do you need to go, you know what? Today's not the day to do that meeting. Because if I do that meeting today, I'm going to show up in the wrong state of mind, and then we're not going to be going in the direction that we need to go now if you're going. Yeah, but they need me to show up in the way that they think that I'm Going to show up? No, they need you to show up ready to execute in the way that you're going and growing. Becky's straight up.
Exactly right. Not controlling your child and letting him destroy your mother's kitchen and pots and pans is another form of control, right? Getting to the place of going, hey, right now I need to let X happen in order for Y to become possible. I always love learning that from parents. And, Becky, you just raised it. You see, the parent who provides the space, the autonomy, the freedom for their kid in the grocery store to dance around, to scream, to cry, to be in the moment at hand takes a lot of courage for that parent to go, all right, how is everybody judging my parenting right now?
But to go, hey, kid, I'm on your side. I know what you need. I know what you're going through. Or even if I don't know what you need or what you're going through, I'm acknowledging that this moment, you are communicating to me what is needed. So I have a great picture with me and my sister from this morning. I'll share it in the community feed afterwards where we are both bundled up. Hey, Tiffany, Nice to see you, my friend. Hey, everybody, check out Tiffany Norton's content right here in the Cadre sphere.
If you need a great dose of honesty, clarity mixed with humor and care and a speak the truth quick mentality, Tiffany is a joy right here in the sphere. Like, in that moment, I didn't know Tiffany was gonna show up, but all of a sudden I saw. I was like, ah, this may be the tool that you need today. This may be the glove or the face mask or the. Or the coat or the hat. Cadre offers you those things. So, everybody, whether this is a day that you're thinking about your work, your family, your. Your play, your fun, your future, your past, your present, what do you need right now in order to do that thing?
Give yourself those things and the world will benefit from you doing. So, y'all, tomorrow, you won't see me in the morning or as early in the morning. You're gonna see me at 10am Central Standard Time. Me and Paella are going live in the Cadre Today interview seat. We're going to be talking about forging your own path. So 10aM Central Standard Time, 11aM Eastern. You can do the math around every other time zone, but we'll be in the interview seat tomorrow at 10aM Y'all have a great day. We'll see you later.
Stay warm. Bye. Oh, I didn't have to take my glove off to go.
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