Cadre Today and Bold Followership

Well, hey, good morning, Cadre. How are you doing today? Seriously, how are you doing? I hope you are doing great, my friends. And if you're like, who's this guy? He's not my friend. I like to call people who I don't know yet people I don't know yet. The world may call them strangers. I like calling them people I don't know yet. And right here in the Cadre sphere, we have this really wonderful way to even though we may not see each other, even though we may be have names that may not represent our first and last name, right now we are moving people from people who do not know each other yet into people who do, whether that be friend or acquaintance or influence.

All of these things are your little daily dose of something that makes you feel better. Good morning. Good morning. 1% better. Nice to see you, my friend. Mondays in the livestream world is all professional development focused. So if we think of the relationship between professional and personal, I like to think of it this way. Saturdays, when we do a lot of personal development work, that's working on who we are. Hey, Marisa, nice to see you. Mondays, professional development, that's when we talk about what we do, professional development, what we do, personal development, who we are.

And of course, those things work hand in hand. But you're gonna see a wonderful lineup, including Luke, who just walked in the room. Hey, Luke, nice to see you, my friend. Luke will be in about a half an hour, and then throughout the day, you'll see a lot of people talking shop, talking about how we move into our location, our profession, our job, our 9 to 5, our contract, our consultant, our coach, or whatever we are. We'll walk into that place again and again today with consideration of how do we do it in the way that is most potent, most clear right now.

So a little bit about me. My graduate work. My graduate work is all around. Well, it's a leadership background focused program, but I took the focus of followership rather than leadership. If you walk into Barnes and Noble, you can find billions of books on leadership. You can find about 3 on followership. And if you think for a second in your Life, you spend 95% of your life in the seat of follower. If you're a good leader, you spend 95% of your life in the seat of follower, in the seat of listener, in the seat of highly curious, in the seat of I'm here to help.

In the seat of observation of where are we going? Because as Derek Sievers says in Derek's TED Talk, how To start a movement, it's three minutes long. Pull it up. It's the best TED talk in the world. Not only because it's three minutes long, but super powerful. But Derek says in that TED talk that it's the first follower that turns a lone nut into a leader. Right, A leader leading nobody isn't a leader. I know a lot of people who are going to go, I'm going to go forge my own path. Yes, forging your own path is a really, really hard thing to do.

Getting people to follow you down that path is even harder. So I talk about idea of followership, and not passive followership, not, okay, I'm not the leader, so I'm going to follow. But bold followership. How do we, in ourselves, but also within one another, inspire active, bold, fruitful following? I got an easy one for you today. Easy and understanding. Kind of hard in action because culturally we aren't encouraged to do this. But how often do we hear about the relationship between hearing and listening?

We hear it a lot. It's like, hearing is one thing, but listening is another. Getting people to hear you is one thing. Getting people to listen is another. It's always set up that way. I like to think about it in the ownership standpoint, not how do I get someone to hear me. It's like, no, how do I hear other people? How do I listen to other people? I'll tell you, I spend a lot of my work in consideration of what other people say and do. Now, again, I'm often the person in the front of the room with the clicker, you know, leading the presentation, moving through the facilitation as a teacher or a coach or a consultant, or maybe I'm being the director of the choir or the ensemble or the cast.

But all of those roles, if I'm doing them as well as I can, it's 90% of me going, huh? Okay, let's listen, let's observe, let's reflect back. Edith Wharton says, if you've spent any time with me, you've heard me say it many, many times. Edith Wharton has this quote that light is shared in two ways. From the candle and from the mirror. From the candle and the mirror. So often we think we have to be the candle. Take a look. I'm the light. I'm the light. I'm the light. Most of the time, what people need from us.

Hey, Newland, nice to see you. Most of the time, what people need from us is for us to be the mirror, for us to reflect back, for us to go, okay, so what I'm hearing is it's a hearing statement versus. So I've been listening. And it seems to me that allowing people another voice in their process, that's how we follow y'all. C. you led. You led the way. And I go, I amplified where you were going rather than leading the way. Can you amplify where people are going so they gain in clarity and confidence and joy and all the good stuff?

1% better says, love that Ted talk, love the groove, can't help but smile. That's the goal, y'all. Every time you bop in here into the Cadre sphere, our hope is that by the time you leave, you go, mmm, yeah, I'm feeling. I'm feeling good for a moment, for a second. Retraining the synapse of the brain to go, you know what? I'm on my side. And there's a lot of people who are, too. Y'all have a great rest of the day. I'll see you tomorrow morning. And our interview this week. Rachel Logan, social worker, 7:30am on Wednesday, talking about inner healing, we'll see every day.

But make sure Wednesday, 7:30am is on your schedule and we'll go ahead and get into the interview. Talk to you later.