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Hey, good morning, Cadre. How are we doing? I hope we are good. Little jazz in the background to get your morning started. Let me remind them of my promise. Give me back my family. Remind me of my promise. I am king of the world. A little Jason Robert Brown. Jason Robert Brown writes a lot of musicals, but he's a. He's a singer, songwriter, from the piano, really phenomenal musician. So that's where we started this morning. How are we doing, Cadre? How are we? If you go, God, I don't know how to answer that question, or I don't know if I want to answer that question.

Give yourself the space and the time to decide how you answer that question. Because if you do, you'll get to know yourself a little bit better. Hey, Jules. Hey, T. Brown. How are y'all doing this morning? I hope that you are great. But even if you're not, even if you're not great, you are still absolutely living this life. Be a bits. You're still doing the thing you're supposed to be doing. You're riding the wave, the goods, the bads, the highs, the lows, the moments of clarity, the moments of unclarity.

That's exactly what we are passionate about helping you do right here in the Cadre sphere. You know, on Wednesdays, we often talk a lot about that big bucket of mental health or mental well being or caring for this part of you. I want to go ahead and go back to our Cadre Today interview yesterday with Paella because it's been floating with me. Have you ever had that happen with you after watching some Cadre content or something's kind of stuck with you and you go, huh, I'm thinking about that. You know, yesterday, Paella talked a lot about forging a pathway that makes sense to her in life and how early on in life she did what, you know, she kept saying what you're supposed to do, what everybody does, and, and, you know, in life it's like, oh, you're supposed to, you know, think with your head and not with your heart.

You're supposed to, you know, go, go to school, to go to college, to get the job, to do the thing to do. And she got to the place in life where she said, you know, I started making decisions that seemed counter to what I was supposed to do. And she started talking about, you know, her current chapter and she's like, I think I'm like an educator. Like, I know there's influencers, but I don't want to be an influencer. I want to Be an educator. And all of these words kept being kind of resting places within the conversation.

Moments where you could see, see her. And the listeners really consider words as if, here's the, the thing that stuck with me, as if those words had a built in meaning. You know, there's a moment where I picked up my, my bottle during the interview and I was like, you know, like this, this isn't, this isn't a, a water bottle unless there's water in it. You know, if I would, if I would fill it with, with sand and then maybe put a candle in the top of it, all of a sudden turns into being a candelabra.

How often do you take the meanings of words that either history has placed in them or other people, or maybe your family or your loved ones or your friends or your neighbors or your age group or any other person or people? I'll say to you, you know, if someone said wellness, would you define that word in the way that makes sense to you, or would you define it in the way that you think it's supposed to be defined? If you hear the word influencer, you go, oh, well, there's influencers. And I go, there is an error where that word didn't, didn't get used as often as it does.

But all of a sudden, culturally, or maybe there was one person who said, haha, I'm going to claim the word influencer to mean this thing. Then all of a sudden everybody started going, ah, an influencer is this thing. I don't know. To me, an influencer is someone who influences. Who are those people? Every single person on this planet, every single butterfly, every single wispy in the air that makes you go when it hits your face, every little breeze that maybe blows a hair out of place. So you go, everything in existence influences every other thing that exists in my mind.

An influencer is everybody. So rather than saying, oh, I'm not an influencer, I go, yeah, I, I have influence. That's one example. We have about 79 billion other examples of words, of concepts, of ideas, of emotions. Like if you said happy, what does happiness look like? Do you decide what happiness looks like for you, or do you go, ah, this is what happiness is supposed to look like. And I'm never like that. So apparently I'm never happy. Maybe you're a person who doesn't, who doesn't externally emote or smile, and all of a sudden you've been trained or taught to go, wow, there must be something wrong with me.

Maybe you really appreciate people. But you don't like spending a lot of time with them. So all of a sudden you go, oh, I'm broke, or I'm not nice, or I'm not a people person. I'll give you a little secret into my world. I don't like spending a lot of time with people. It's really hard for me to spend time with people. That's why I really love things like social media. Every time people put social media down and say social media is ruining the world, it makes me a little sad, because social media has provided me a pathway to do something I really love doing and that is connecting with people.

I don't like spending time with people, like physical time. I don't like going out to the restaurant. I don't like being in groups. I don't like long day events. I don't like traveling with people. I don't like staying with people. And like, even the people who are closest to me, I struggle with all of that. My sister got grounded. If you saw earlier this week, on Monday. Today's Wednesday. On Monday, my sister got grounded on her connecting flight from Cedar Rapids, Iowa, heading to Rapid City, South Dakota.

She got grounded in Minneapolis in the afternoon. She's like, ah, my flight got grounded. You know, Delta's giving me a hotel room, but I was wondering if you'd want me to stay with you. And in my head, I'm going, like, no, I don't want you to stay with me. Not at all. But I'll come pick you up at the airport in the morning and we can get breakfast. Like, that was our compromise. I'm grateful for my sister for going, how dare you don't want me to stay with you and spend more time with me. But also, she acknowledged me today.

I invite you to acknowledge you. What do you need? Who are you? How do you operate? How do you define the words and the terms and the emotions and the way that you show up in the world in a way that is healthy and happy? I'll tell you, and I'm not one who often goes, here's the way that I do it, as if you need to do it too. I'm not saying that. But I'll tell you, in my world, my fulfillment, my joy, my success has come from me going, here is who I am and here's how I best operate. And if everything else allows, because we all influence one another.

Hey, Hamza. Nice to see you. We all influence one another. If it works out for me to be in my best place, in my most grounded space, in my most pure authentic space I will always, for the sake of me and for the sake of the world in which I live in place myself there knowing that that's when I'm going to be able to give my best stuff. So words are vessels ideas and concepts and emotions are things that you get to learn about yourself and how they present and what they mean. If you do that work today in little ways if you do that work every day two things are going to happen.

You're going to get to know yourself better and better and better. Second thing is everybody else is going to get to see a purer, more confident, more healthy, more sustainable, more on your side version of yourself. So as you go on with your day today take some time to go huh? What do I want? Where am I? How do I see myself in this world and see what happens? We'll talk to you later. Why are we punished for wanting to explore? Why am I.