Cadre Today and Family Ties

Hey, Cadre, how are you doing? How are you? How are you? How are you? It's funny, I found it looks like a 50 cent or 50 cent pound piece in my backpack yesterday. You ever find things in your backpack or purse when you clean it out, you're just like, where'd this come from? I'm really trying to figure out when this showed up. Hey, Craig. Good morning, brother Kelly. How are you, Jules? Be happy 2025. Oh, be happy 2025. What a great. What a great checkpoint. You know, I always say at the beginning of live streams for Cadre today that I hope you're doing great, but also if you're not doing great, I hope you know that that is pretty okay too.

It may feel better to feel great than to feel not great. But knowing that feeling great is not the prerequisite to do really great things in this world is a really big reminder. A lot of the world says we always have to be performing at a certain level or we have to be doing more and more and more every day like, go, go, go, go, go. And sometimes that's true. We are doing that. But. But what if we're not? Intuitively we go, oh, gosh, I have to curl up. I have to get smaller. As opposed to saying, hey, right now, here is my capacity.

And the greatest performers in this world aren't stronger, harder, faster, deeper, better, better. They are. Here's my current capacity, and I'm going to work in that current capacity to accomplish what I can. You know, in sport, we call that ready position. Ready position is to say, I'm ready to do what this moment is providing me the opportunity to do with my internal levers, like the things that I can do and the external levers, the world that I am maneuvering. So whenever you're here, I hope you're doing great, but it's okay if you're not.

That's what we mean. This is Cadre Today, your checkpoint. Whether this is your first day in the Cadre sphere or your thousandth day in the Cadre sphere, to go, huh? So what's the opportunity within this world? What are those external levers that I can bring my internal levers to to. To get to ready position? So things to know. You have so much opportunity to mosey around the Cadre sphere, you'll see live streams like this every once in a while. Normally about once a week, you'll see a Cadre Today interview with me and a contributor.

So tomorrow, 4pm Central Standard Time. Hey, Marisa, nice to see you, my friend. 4pm Central Standard Time, 3pm Mountain Standard Time where Kristen's located in Denver. And we're going to be having a little happy hour conversation about how community, connection and growth can help support and foster wellness. Kristen is a registered dietitian, a wonderful systems change person. Looking at the information running at each of us and going, huh, is that true? Is it completely true? Is it accurate?

Is it infused with things like shame and guilt and maybe misinformation or confused information to go, so what do I do with this? So sometimes we use interview like we will tomorrow at 4pm you have prerecorded content so you can think of it like a library. Let's say you're looking for information on, on personal growth or on depression or on parenting or like we often talk about on Thursdays being a caregiver. And then also you have a wonderful community feed. You know, my buddy Craig here put into the community feed sometime recently I saw it cause it was at the top of my stream.

Hey, what can you do today to incrementally get better? You know, as Craig's screen name says here, 1% underscore better. Right? That's Craig's world to really look at. How do we look at growth in scalable ways? And then I also saw a message by Steph Todd who talks a lot about parenting saying hey, are there any really good book series that anybody knows for 5 to 10 year olds? All those different ways to communicate and to dive into a world where what is Cadre doing? We're bringing together professionals and peers to foster a community with resources to show the world that there are so many ways to be.

Well, pretty cool. Okay, so I mentioned on Thursdays we often talk about the idea, the reality, a lot of people's reality of caring for other people. Now this may be in a really full time kind of way. Like your life may revolve around those people in your family or maybe not in your family that you care for, care give. But it may be also you thinking in a broader aperture. It's like, hey, how do I care for those people around me in those moments when I can care about the people around me? So I'm going to let you into a little information I don't always share.

A while back I got this really great idea for a Pixar screenplay and I'm working on it. It'll probably be a children's book first but the name of the, the name of the movie is Holy Buckets. I'm from Minnesota. So we say things like that something's going wrong. Rather than saying, oh, sometimes we say holy buckets. So, but it's a literal interpretation of the two words, holy buckets. The main character, Scoop, is this little green bucket. And him and all of his friends and co workers work at the quarry.

And their job is to go down to the quarry, fill up with rocks, and to carry them out. Well, Scoop is the bucket who does everything for everybody all the time. And people go, scoop, Scoopy, dude, you need to take care of yourself, Scoop, you're doing too much. Scoop, it's not good to be always doing. And of course you go, this is why I love Pixar. Because you. You can look at it from an adult lens and go, oh, my gosh, I know that person, or, oh, my gosh, I am that person. And also, it's never that simple because Scoop is always pushing back and saying, am I doing too much?

Because I don't feel like I'm doing too much, because I'm finding that I have the energy to do these things. Scoop remains positive and joy filled. You don't see Scoop get burned out. You don't see Scoop being taken advantage of, even though Scoop's going, wait, should I not have helped out in that situation where I had the agency, the autonomy, the capacity to help? All of a sudden, at the end of the movie, there's this big storm coming, and there's this deadline that all the buckets need to reach, and every other bucket goes, nope, I'm not going to keep going because the storm is coming and I'm not, nope, I'm not going to put myself in a space of stress or danger.

So I'm just going to say, get me in trouble. Tell me I'm not working hard enough. But Scoop keeps going, and all of a sudden, the rain is falling, and then there's an avalanche. The rain softens the soil, and Scoop gets buried in this avalanche. And all the other buckets are standing at the top of the quarry looking down, and they're worried for Scoop. But they're also kind of in a I told you so, buddy. You're gonna get to a place where you can no longer do what you do. You're gonna burn out. And as Pixar often does, there's this really poignant moment where everybody, especially the adults, can go.

And all of a sudden, the dust settles in the quarry and you see this little green bucket that you've been following as your protagonist throughout the story, crawl to the top, and Scoop is alive. But Scoop has holes in Scoop's bucket. And all of a sudden, although the other buckets are doing there, I told you so, because Scoop can no longer fulfill Scoop's purpose. Scoop is a bucket, and Scoops got holes in it. Buckets are supposed to hold stuff. And if a bucket has holes in it, is it still a bucket?

It's a broken bucket. It can no longer do its purpose. Well, the rain starts picking up, and it's a downpour. And Scoop fills up with water because even though it's pouring out the sides where there's holes, rain is pouring so fast that Scoop fills up. And the last scene in this movie, the last moment, is you seeing Scoop with a smile on Scoop's face as the dust is washed away. And even though Scoop is having water pour out of its broken parts, Scoop is overflowing. It's that message, because I know a lot of you caregivers out there going, I give everything that I have, and I'm broken, and I'm busted.

But I still kind of feel full every morning. Because you're living your purpose. You're doing your thing. You're doing the thing that only you can really be doing in this moment. Post credits all of a sudden, you see Scoop repaired back into place, and Scoop is training and teaching other buckets how to understand its purpose and to live in it. So, holy buckets. Can't you just see all the little kids carrying around their little. Their little bucket characters that they bought at Target? Yeah, Scoop turned into a sifter.

Right, Jules? So, hey, caregivers out there, see Scoop's message. You may go, I'm broken. I'm busted. Because I always have to give, give, give. But what's filling you up? It may be in the face or in those moments where the person or people you're caregiving for see what you're doing, or if they don't see what you're doing, if they don't appreciate it. Every moment of every day, you know that you're providing a better life for somebody. Y'all look at the lineup today. You're gonna see opportunities to be in the space of.

You'll see our friends from St. Croix Hospice. Hi, friends from St. Croix Hospice out there. You'll see some experts from Saint Croix Hospice bopping into tomorrow, our friends from Minnesota Autism Center. You're going to see them bopping in today. We always have such wonderful friends coming in to share their magic with you. So have a great day. We'll see you tomorrow morning. Bye.