Cadre Today and Family Ties

Well, hey, good morning, Cadre. A little later than normal, but here we are, your Cadre today to kick off this Thursday and the opening act for Speak. Wonder who will be bumping in live in about 30 minutes. So how are you doing today? I hope you are doing good. We have more and more friends in the Cadre sphere every, every single day. Hey, Mel, how are you? Good. Good morning, my friend. Yeah, more and more people walking in for the first time. Van Will, nice to see you. Amy, how's it going up in the Elk river today?

Jules, nice to see you everybody. I really hope you're doing great. And if you tune in with me, I bet all of a sudden you start going, oh my gosh, he said it again. He hopes you're doing great. But I really do. Phil, nice to see you. Our intent here is to help you feel good, help you feel better, help you feel be happy. 2025, that's, that's what we're here to do. There's something powerful about connection with other people, especially sometimes people you don't know yet. That's what I like to call strangers.

So as we continue to expand the Cadre sphere and to welcome more and more people in, always remember that our hope for you is greatness and the things that you need to sustain and support that greatness. But also, if you are less than great, if you're pretty darn not great, if you're pretty darn awful today, know that that's okay too. It may not feel like it, nor should you try to make it feel better than it is. Feel what you're feeling. That's why we have feelings. Think your thoughts. That's why we have thoughts.

But be reminded by that voice that says, hey. When you place yourself in an atmosphere with peers and professionals who are creating resources and bringing them together, all knit, all glued together with connection and community, something powerful is happening. So on Thursdays, we often talk about the big lift, the big lift of caregiving for others. And I did a segment on the telly yesterday about one of my most favorite made up words. I like making up words. Hey, Luke, nice to see you, my friend.

And that made up word is luscious, lessish or lessishness. It's a good like, like tongue twister. Warm up if you're going to go sing a song somewhere or give a speech. Lessishness is what happens when you lose yourself in the selfless and the selfish moments, right? Do the math. Take self out of selfless, you're left with less. Take self out of selfish, you're left with ish. Less plus ish. Less ish. C. you made up a word. Good job. What does it mean? Well, it means this. When we don't place ourselves in both the selfish and the selfless moments, we're left feeling less ish.

Think about it. Culturally, we're not supposed to do things for ourselves. We're supposed to always be thinking about others and doing for others and doing for others and doing for others. Guess what? Doing for others is amazing and great. But when we get on the plane, what do we hear? Put your mask on before you help others. Why? Because if you don't get your mask on, you not going to be able to help others for very long. Life goes the same way. If you are constantly giving to others as a caregiver, you may struggle with the guilt or the shame or simply the practicality of finding time to do something for yourself, work harder at it.

I'm not saying that. That that's easy. No, I'm saying, like, I understand it's really, really hard to find those moments or to give you the thing that. That your body's asking for. But I'm also. I also know I'm speaking to the choir here, preaching to the choir here, where I know you understand the importance of. Of taking care of yourself. So this is just one of those little reflecting moments, saying back to you what you say to yourself all the time. Make sure you take care of yourself today in the little ways and the big ways.

Just like I say, we have feelings because they're meant to be felt. We have thoughts because they're meant to be. Thunk that intuition is doing things on purpose. So when all of a sudden your body says, hey, we need rest. Hey, we need cheeseburgers. Hey, we need to go pick up our favorite snack from the gas station. Do that thing. Because then your body will go, hey, they're listening to us. And then your body will go. Here's how we navigate all the stress and the curve balls and all the things that we have to do in life.

Give yourself the things you need. Short, simple today, y'all. Check out the one and only Speak Wonder coming at you in 24 minutes. You always got a great lineup on Thursdays. And if you're popping in, there's not someone live. Find some prerecorded content. Leave leave a message. Your contributors will reach right back out to you. We love being in contact, y'all. I'll see you tomorrow. Have a good one. Bye.