Monday Motivation: For The Love Of God, Change It Up.

I love you, babe. Good morning, Cadre family. Good morning, Cadre. Let's give it one second while we all load up here. Hope everybody's having a great start to their Monday. Happy Monday to you and yours. Hope it's a good start to your day. We had a kind of a unfortunate little event here at our house over the last 48 hours. My son Cameron has been a little ill, so it's life, life in the big city. But he was up quite a bit last night and with 103 fever, so that was no good. So there's a little bit of, you know what I mean, things under the eyes today.

But it's, it's, it's, it's part of life. You got to do what you got to do. So, yeah, he was kind of up from, you know, 3:00, 5:00, you name it. And so, you know, you just, you just get through it. You just get through it. But happy Monday to everybody. Happy. Hope it's a good start for you. I want to talk about something today that I think we fail to realize. I think we fail to realize. Right. Like, I think sometimes we use our personality as an ability to say, like, to verify your actions. So I'll give you an example.

Like, well, I'm, you know, the jealous type. Or I, you know, I kind of like, I'm quick with my tongue or I'm this, or I'm this. Or I'm this. And what I'm trying to say today is like, I think you can easily change that habit. So I'll give you an example. I have been to several dinners before, right? I've been to several dinners before where a name of somebody gets brought up. Okay, A name of somebody. So I'm at a dinner, there's four of us, and it's like, do you know so and so? Right? And so we're sitting there having dinner.

Do you know so and so? Oh, yeah, yeah, I know so and so. And like, it's almost uncomfortable when I'm speaking highly of somebody and then immediately somebody else later is like, well, I didn't really get along with them. I didn't do this. I didn't do this, and I didn't. This. They, they were this, they, they said this. There was this. You know, it's, it's so, it's, it's very interesting how quickly some people can talk bad about somebody else. That's just, that's just one example, right? And I've, I've seen that many, many, many of Times like you have your own actions and you have your own habits and you have all your own things that you human being that you can switch.

But what I'm trying to say is I think those behaviors, those intrinsic behaviors, like I'll use jealousy, you know, you know, my wife gets three months off literally every year, right? She's done in June and about August, September, she, she's off. And I'll, I'll be the first one to admit it. Like I was jealous in our first early years of marriage, right? Like it was like year one, year two, year three. And I'm like, she gets, she gets summers off. She does this, she does this. But like I have completely changed my narrative completely.

There's the educators in our system, they deserve time off more than anybody. They work around the clock, the nine months and towards ensure our kids are safe. All the things. Oh, and by the way, then my wife leaves work for those 90 days and literally takes on our whole kids responsibilities of activities or otherwise. And meanwhile, my thought was jealousy. So if you take a step back and you think about your thoughts and your actions, they can become your habits, especially if you take action, right?

And so I've immediately switched that, I've switched that, like I said year one, year two, year three to. I am so grateful that my wife has summer off and she can go run the kids and she can enjoy the summer and she can do. And she can do, she can do, right? So I've changed the narrative. When I'm at dinners and something like this were ever to happen, I immediately like, it's almost like I pause and I'm like, whoa. Like this, I don't know if this is somebody that I want to be around. And so you know, you just, you kind of like, you immediately start to like switch your own actions then to go like, is this for me?

Is this for me? Right? And it's, it's the same thing with just kind of how I live my life at this point. You know, I want to be around individuals that inspire me, that motivate me, that drive me continue to be my best me. And that's where I spend my time, that's where I spend my energy, that's where I spend my money. That's what I do. If you look at over my last two, three, four years, right, where am I spending my time, where am I spending my money and what do I value, right? If I'm, if I'm at, if I'm at a coffee and we're at a coffee and I'M meeting somebody for the first time, and they start in about their company and what a garbage company that it was and how difficult it was for working for this company and this agency, and da, da, da, da.

I'm like, whoa, red flag. Get me out of here. Get me out of this coffee. I want nothing to do with this. And I think what you're going to find is when you find some absolutes for yourself, too, not only will you change your own habits, you're going to start to see things pretty quickly in other people as well. And, you know, one of the things that I'll be, like, very blunt if I'm working in business, and I think I'm right, like, sometimes I have this way of, like, putting my flag in the ground, right?

I put my flag in the ground, and I'm like, I believe in this. This is what I believe. This is what I believe. This is what I believe. And sometimes that can get even a little bit heated from me. I believe that, and I know that about myself. So what I'm really working on is to stop and pause, is to just stop and pause. And what I found is I'm kind of freaking some people out. Just kidding. But like that, I stop and I sit there and I just kind of, like, take it in and go, all right, let's hear all the different perspectives.

What facts exist? What are the analytics behind it? What's this? What's this to say? Like, you're not always right. Like, it's. You're not. And so how can you ensure that you're doing right by all parties? One thing that Josh says is looking past what we feel we are lacking into what we have. That's a very, very, very good point. Speak Wonder says these folks are Eeyores in our lives. That they are. And what I'm saying is, I think we all have an Eeyore. I think we do. I think I know I have many Eeyores, but how can I stop those habits?

And it could be something as loud as an action as I'm taking of caffeine for me. I know if I drink caffeine, I will not be my best self. I know that I will be a little bit ornery. I'll be edgy. At the end of the day, it'll be tough for me to sleep. I know that I've lived this life long enough to realize caffeine doesn't serve me, so it's hard to switch that habit. But I am right off to decaf, Doing decaf. I try to remember everyone has their own opinion and I don't have to agree with them right on the money.

But again, I think this is a good check in with ourselves and a pause with ourselves. When you think of those words like jealousy, envy, despise, frustrated, angry with, I really, I really encourage you when you're feeling those feelings, to ask yourself why, to ask yourself really, like, like, why am I feeling this? And instead of like your initial first minute reaction, your initial first minute reaction maybe is to jump in the conversation and, you know, tag team up on the person or do xyz, maybe you're best served to just pause and think about it and say, you know, I really had great interactions with them.

I, I, I really, I really appreciated their vantage. I don't feel the way you feel because it's super simple to agree and to nod and keep moving. It's, it, it, it is courageous to stop and pause and go, hmm, that's not actually how I feel. I feel actually very different than that. And I had a wonderful working experience and my time at XYZ company was phenomenal. And that boss was great. Like, it's, it's okay to like, collectively have to discern and have a little bit of dissension between our thoughts and feelings, especially with human beings.

So I encourage you. And I tried to use a few different examples, both in work today, both in my real life, personal, something as simple as caffeine. But to say, like, there are many habits about myself that I don't like and there's nobody in the world that's just going to magically appear and say, hey, we're going to switch your behaviors tomorrow. Hey, Luke, like, you know, no more caffeine today. Like, that doesn't happen unless you're in like a state hospital or something along those lines. So it's on you, it's on you to make change.

It's on you to push your chips in and go, I don't like how I interacted there. I don't like humans. Humans are very problematic. And that's okay. Speak Wonder. We are, but I think we can, I think we can choose to get better. I think we can choose to be better. I think we can choose to find, find new things. I think we can try to show up differently. And I, and I think that's still, we are worth the conversation. Of course we are. 100%. We are. Great perspectives today, Josh. I loved it. Speak Wonder.

Thank you, Jules. Excellent as always. I know. I saw a bunch of other folks pop in and I Hope everybody's having a wonderful Monday thus far. But again, one of my. One of my dear friends, Tony Hoffman, you know, always says the same thing. Your thoughts become your actions. Your actions can become your habits. So. So in order to change your thoughts through your ultimate actions and then forming habits, you have to take a pause between thought and action. Right there is this magic. That is the magic.

And if you can pause and go, not today, not today. I'm gonna try that one a little bit different. Give that a try today. I guarantee you your mind is going there right now. And there will be a moment today that this will hit, I promise. Have a wonderful day. Take care, everybody. We can choose to be better, and we can also accept when we stumble. Heck yeah. Stumbling isn't permanent. No way. Josh, great perspective, man. I always love hearing from you. You're a one of a kind man. You're a great person.

Thanks, Anna. It's always good to see you on. I appreciate you so much. You have no idea. Take care, everybody. Have a great Monday. And I really, really, really want your brain to go there today. During these moments of when you know you're in habit mode, when you're in habit mode, I can see when you can break that habit. Maybe it's, I struggle with my mom, I struggle with my dad, and my first instinct is to immediately go blank. How do I switch that up? How do I switch that up today? See if you can do it.

I'm just using that one as an example. Could be a boss, could be a colleague, could be a friend, could be a brother, sister, husband, wife, partner. All good, right? Everybody go, absolutely. Dominate your Monday. See what new habits you can form this week, okay? Take care, everybody. Bye.