Shannon discusses creating outward-facing cliques in groups, drawing on her experience directing a singing ensemble recovering after loss. She also introduces contributor Jen Varale and an evening sober-living conversation.
Shannon: Good morning, Cadre. This is your reminder that we hope that you are great. And exciting thing coming up this evening, you're gonna see a new contributor, Jen Varale. Jen will be having a not somber, but sober hour later this evening to kick off Jen's time here in the Cadre sphere.
I recently took over the direction of a. very established singing ensemble. I presented to them the idea of the outward Facing click. The longer that you're a part of that thing, the less it is about you and the more it's about the people who are not there yet.
As the new person, I create a perspective that currently doesn't exist. Literally, the theme of their conference is family. The opportunity I have is to courageously and curiously walk in thinking that I have something to provide. Both of them have to enter with a willingness and a curiosity.
I want you to consider today the groups that you are in. How do you impact those people who are not here yet? If you feel on the outside, can you go ahead and walk in and say, hey, I am here. That's how we build community.
Well, hey there. Good morning, Cadre. How are we doing? I'm getting a little early live streaming today. I'm on my way to deliver a keynote for a group for their convention. All around the idea of enoughness, which I talk about every Saturday morning right here in the Cadre sphere. But as you know, we Cadre today every single day. So this is your good morning. This is your reminder that we hope that you are great. Be happy. And Marisa, but we also remind you that if you're not great, that that is a.
Okay as well. You may go. No, but I want to be great. Yeah. What's our journey to being great? Jules? Chris Fortman. How are y'all? We hope that you're doing good, but we know that a lot of times we aren't. And this is the place that no matter where you're at, on the up and the down or in the between, that spending time with one another. Hey, Shannon. Oh, all the good morning sunshines. Which I need right now. Cause the sun. We've beat the sun today, y'all. So, yeah, no matter where you are and what you're doing, here's a moment to add a little bit of momentum to you feeling a little bit better today.
So Tuesdays, what do we often talk about? We talk about this idea of how do people exist together. And exciting thing coming up this evening, you're gonna see a new contributor, Jen Varale. I. I always remember her name this way. Jen Verale. That's how I remember how to pron Jen's name. And Jen was like, that's perfect. I'm stealing that. I'm using that. I'm like, good. So this evening, Jen, who spends so much time talking about having a full, fun, vibrant life sober. So Jen will be having a not somber, but sober hour later this evening to kick off Jen's time here in the Cadre sphere.
But community. You're gonna see Dr. Leslie, you're gonna see Betsy talking about Betsy's rules of engagement. But you've always know that I'm going to talk about this idea of. Of creating outward facing clicks in your world. I recently took over the direction of a. Of a very established singing ensemble. And they've gone through some turmoil and some big trauma. Their. Their founder and their original director sadly passed away during COVID And they've been in this space, like, who are we and how do we move forward?
Because we've always seen ourselves as. As within that person's sphere and direction. So I presented to them the idea of the outward Facing click. What is the outward facing click? Rather than a click that's facing inward and saying, we are the ones who are in all around this thing that we love? Because at the end of the day, clicks are formed around an idea that people love, an idea that people rally around. That's the reason why it faces inward, right? But when it faces inward too long, it becomes impossible for people to become a part of it.
It becomes impossible for other people to influence it and to help it grow. So the idea of the outward facing clique is the longer that you're a part of that thing, the less it is about you and the more it's about the people who are not there yet. That sounds pretty harsh, but for people who love something, that's their heart, they want to share it with other people. They want to experience it with other people. So for a moment of going, okay, if it's not going to be about me for this moment, but about the person who is new here, how would that change the way we look at the thing?
What else would we see? What we learn from that new person? Well, I'm about to walk into a room of a couple hundred people as the outsider to deliver a message on enoughness. I am the outsider, and in that space, what do we create? Well, as the new person, I create a perspective that currently doesn't exist. Literally, I'm walking into a room with my perspective on a group of people who have shared experience and a shared perspective. Literally, the theme of their conference is family. This group of people who have shared mission and purpose and come together to literally be in physical space with one another.
Their conference messages, family. Family. And I'm not a part of that family. The opportunity I have is to courageously and curiously walk in thinking that I have something to provide, that I have something to give, something to reflect upon them. So the outward facing click has two main characters, those who are inside and those who are outside. And both of them are doers. Both of them have to enter with a willingness and a curiosity and a bravery to think that they can impact one another. I want you to consider today the groups that you are in and the groups that you are not in yet.
Like Shannon says, right here, Cadre Sphere is a click, right? Everybody here who's like, oh, I'm here, you're up early, and this is where you're choosing to spend your time, you already kind of get it right. You go, mm, this is something that I really appreciate and I know and I understand my importance and my role in it. How do you face outward? How do you impact those people who are not here yet? How does it feel for me to say, if you've been here for a while, it's now a little bit less about you and a little bit more about the people who aren't here yet?
But also consider those groups that you are on the outside of. Sometimes that click is actually outward facing, but we go, oh my gosh, they are perfect. They have everything. They don't need me. They're scary. And in reality, what they're hoping is the opposite of that. They're going, wow, that person over there, I really hope they want to be a part of what we're creating. They're simply waiting for you to walk in. So when I walk into this room in a little bit, I'm anticipating that they want me there and that's going to allow them to go ahead and embrace message, to embrace me, to embrace newness, to embrace the person in the room who hasn't been there before.
So team Team Click Cadre, can you face outward today? Or if you feel on the outside, can you go ahead and walk in and say, hey, I am here. So now what? And then we keep going. That's how we build community, y'all. Betsy, Dr. Leslie, Jen, Verele will all be here later today. But if those times in your schedule don't line up, jump on in. Watch some pre recorded watch live after it's been live and if you are around tomorrow morning, the one and only Ms. Shannon Paul, one of my besties and I are going live in the Cadre Today interview studio.
7:30am Central Standard Time, 8:30 Eastern, 6:30 Mountain, 5:30 Pacific or wherever you are on this planet. Six hours later in London 1:30pm In London. Wherever you are, go ahead and tune on in. I'll see you soon, everybody. Have a good one. By.
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