Cadre Today and The Outward Facing Clique

Well, good morning, Cadre. How are you? I love a mindful clap in a song, and Barry Manilow knows how to put a mindful clap into a song. May I just say, how are you doing? There's an arctic blast coming right through the middle of the country. Robert Newfie lover, how are you? Doctors Don, nice to see y'all this morning. I hope you're doing great. I got a little empty space in my hat. Must be my. Got to put my brains in this morning. But I hope you are doing well. If you're not doing well, if you're not doing great, know that that is a.

Okay, too. What we always say here in the Cadre sphere is that, right, our goal is to help you feel better, not to be perfect, not to say, here's the answer, because there isn't one. Right? There's many ways to be in. Well, there's not do this, don't do this. There's, hey, who are you? What's going on? What's your history? What's your reality? And here's all these different ways to consider where you may want to go next. So we bring together professionals and peers and knit together resources and to foster this community, to be in space together.

Hey, Phil. Good morning. Newfie lover. How are y'all? Newfie lover, I will tell you, Jeffy really loved the call out that you provided yesterday. Jeffy is a big spirit, but, yes, is a little camera shy. Hey, on Tuesdays, it's one of my favorite days here in the Cadre sphere. We talk about building community. It's one of my favorite things to do in the world, but it's also one of my favorite things to talk about because I think people get really nervous around the idea of their potential to impact the people around them.

So they kind of make themselves small or they go, okay, well, I can't do it this way, so I need to do it this way. In reality, we have a lot more power to impact then we want to acknowledge, and we have more power to impact than we want to give ourselves credit for. And when we're not giving ourselves credit for it, it doesn't mean that that power goes away. It simply means we aren't acknowledging it. It's like we're holding the hose midway through, and the hose is just going everywhere. And we're going, see, I don't have control of the hose.

And I go, yeah, because you're not holding it at the end. So what happens if we hold the hose at the end? We can direct where that flow is going and how we can impact those people around us. Good morning, Jules. So today I want to talk about information. Information. Everything is information, right? I took a call, a class in my grad school program that was literally called Information. Well, it was called technology and Information, but it was about how do we share information with one another.

In other words, how does everything in this world get shared? It was fascinating and too big for my brain quite so often that I had to continue to increase my aperture. So I want to talk about information today because community stops growing when we limit information from ourselves and from those people around us. So often I'll sit in a group of people that I have the opportunity to impact and influence and direct, and I will see that they are struggling with connecting with one another and with the greater world as widely as they possibly can be connecting with one another and with the world.

And it's within these moments that I go, hey, let's take some time to talk. Not about the current task we're working on or about any small bit of information or business pertaining to us in terms of what we're doing together, but let's talk about who we are as people, the lives that we've lived, and the end. That's the task. That's what we're going to do. And all of a sudden, we take time to do, to do that. People get time within our business, time within our meeting, time to get to know one another.

Now, again, quite often, these are people who know each other very well, who've spent a lot of time doing the thing that they're there to do together for a long time. And after getting to talk about who they are as people, the lives that they've lived, I'll often say, okay, any profound thoughts or inspirations that you've had from this time of getting to very mindfully and focusly talk about who you are as people with one another. And they'll say things like, you know, I've known these people for 5 years, 10 years, 15 years, 20 years, and I've learned things about them in the last 20 minutes that I've never known before.

And they'll go, that feels really good. And someone else will say, you know, we've worked together for a really, really long time. But it wasn't until we've done this exercise that I really thought about how big of an impact we can make on this world. And then I stop and I go, so what changed? Like what? What changed? Because you just shared, okay, so you became closer to one Another and you're sharing that you can now impact other people, people outside of this group, more so now than you could before.

So, so what's really changed? And all comes down to information. They have more information, information about everything, you know. The title of this live stream says the outward facing click. This is a concept that I started creating back when I was working with, with young people as a youth director, I would always say, because especially in the young people world, that's where, you know, click is where a lot of people, when people are young, that's when clique is first experienced. This idea of this inward facing, there's the in group and the out group.

And you know, clicks are often seen as this negative, mean, icky group of people that you don't want to be a part of, but you kind of want to be a part of. And, and it's an inward facing group. So I'd always say it's like, hey, how do we create an outward facing clique, A group that, that you want to be a part of and that other people want to be a part of because there's something special there, but a group that sees the world and invites others to be a part of it. So rather than there being walls that there's doors that are open and windows that are, that are shiny and clear and clean and in this idea of the outward facing click, what opens those doors, what turns people outward?

It's information. You know, so often when we look at the world, when there's close minded groups of people or hard groups of people to break into, or groups of people that seem to have a hard time seeing other people, most of the time they have a lack of information on other people. Right? We see it all the time. You know, we'll see people interviewed on TV and it's like, hey, why do you have the belief on this group of people that you have, you know, and the, and the interviewer will go, well, do you know what this group of people, X or Y.

And the person being interviewed will go, it's like, well no, I didn't know that. And all of a sudden you can see that, that their perspective changes. Information is powerful. So if you are working on growing community and knitting people together, it's not as hard as you may think. Invite people to share more information about themselves with one another and to gain more information about things outside of themselves with one another and watch what happens, y'all. Tuesdays is a special day because it's the day that is today and that is the opportunity that you have to live fully to do what you want to do with the energy that you have and the opportunities that you have.

So go do what you want to do today. I will see you tomorrow as we talk about mental health. And on Thursday morning, 7:30am, me and Dr. Jessica are going to be right here talking about boundaries. So have a great Tuesday ahead. Stay warm if you're in the middle of the Arctic blast. We'll talk to you soon. Have a good one. In between the people, they all look the same. Oh, only the names have been.