What’s Holding You Back? Discover the Secrets to Personal Growth 🌱

Foreign world. This is Dr. Jessica Green, and I'm going to call today Wellness Wednesday because we're going to think about those positive things that's going to happen today, but then also focus on our personal growth. So today I want to talk about something that's important when we think about personal growth. Hey, Becky, thanks for joining. Phil, good morning. Thank you all for joining. And we're actually going to wait on a little bit more people to come on board before we start talking about breaking free from our limiting beliefs.

I should say, Jules, good morning. Thank you for joining again. So we're going to give everyone a couple more seconds to join. I'm here in Myrtle Beach, South Carolina, and the weather has been amazing. And I am so happy because it snowed here last week and we had a lot of ice, and that was hard to handle, you know, for our South Carolinians. So we're glad we were able to make it through the week. The kids are back in school, so my parents are like, yes, get them back in school. So this week has been amazing because it's been great weather.

So when we talk about personal growth and limiting beliefs, I want to focus on how they affect our mental health. So I have a question for you. Have you ever told yourself, I'm not good enough, I'll never get this right, or I just don't have what it takes? So you can write in the caption if you've ever had those moments, whether it's at work, it's at home, where we felt like, man, even how hard I tried is still not good enough, or I just don't have what it takes. And if you're nodding yes to this, best believe you are not alone on this journey, which again, we call personal growth.

So we all have these limiting beliefs that hold us back. And honestly, they mess with our mental health. And more importantly, we have to realize those effects and knowing our worth and knowing our value. So let's talk about how to catch them, how to challenge them, and then break free from them so they do not affect who we are, our growth, and who we're going to be. So, all right, so here's the deal. Our brains are really good at believing the stories that we tell ourselves, right? And if you keep thinking I'll never be successful, your brain goes, all right, cool.

Let's make sure that that's true. So we start thinking about those unhealthy coping strategies, those unhealthy and negative self talk. And with those, if we continue to do that and we continue to Keep that vicious cycle. It increases our sense of self doubt, increases our stress level, and also increases our anxiety when we're focusing on what may happen, but not what will happen. So I've been there, and I'm sure many of us have been there as well, where we felt stuck. We were second guessing every decision that were made and we're afraid to even try because we've convinced ourselves that we are going to fail.

Now, that belief was never actually ours, but that belief came about based on our past experiences, other people's opinions, and our own fears. You know, for me, I was too afraid of vulnerability where I had to focus on and say, hey, you know what? I was made for a time like this, so I cannot be fearful. I have to be courageous and hit this head on many times. We're also too afraid of those perceptions of others. Here's what changed everything. I realized I don't have to believe every thought that I think.

So how do you stop believing those beliefs? So first you got to catch them. The next time you hear yourself thinking, I can't do this, I want you to pause and take that deep breath. I want you to ask yourself, who is saying this? Who told you that belief? And if it is a fact or is it something that we're fearful of. Nine times out of 10, it's just an old story playing on repeat in our heads. And guess what? You came and write that story. You are the only one who can write that narrative. So here's what helped me and trust me, we talk about it being a sprint, a marathon and not a sprint, which is definitely true.

Because this moment for us when we're talking about personal growth, it did not happen overnight. So there are a couple of things that I want us to remember. I want us to flip the script. So instead of saying, I'm not good at this, I want you to try. I'm learning how to do this. A small tweak in our language could, can have such a big impact and it can change the narrative and how we move forward. I want you to find proof that you are capable. Think of one time you did something you thought you couldn't do.

So that's going to be proof that you can grow. And we're not worried about perfection, but we're focusing on that progress. I want you to talk to someone. Whether you're talking to a therapist, a friend, a mentor, or even a sponsor. Sometimes we need someone else to remind us of our worth and our value so we do not forget that. So I want you to think about your personal board of directors. So your personal board of directors are going to be at least three to five people. And these people are worthy to hear your story.

And when I say they're worthy to hear your story, whenever we talk to them, it stays between us. If I send them a text message and they have the read receipt on their phone, they see my message. They reply and say, hey, I can't talk right now. Give me five minutes, and I'll be able to text you or call you back. Those are individuals who are worthy to be on our personal board of directors. So I want you to think about three to five people that are in your circle that when you contact them, they will tell you what you need to hear, not what you want to hear.

So this is what I want you to remember. Breaking free from limiting beliefs isn't about pretending life is easy. It's about realizing you're stronger than the doubt that's in your head. So here's my challenge for you today. I want you to catch one limiting belief. I want you to question it, and I want you to rewrite it. Now, just one. Because we have to remember, we cannot eat an elephant with one bite. It's more of again, marathon as opposed to a sprint. And we're making that movement towards personal growth, and you'd be surprised how powerful that can be.

So if this hits home for you. Yes, Jules, it is definitely. We have to know our value, know our worth. And if you find this heading home for you, I want you to send it to someone who needs that reminder that they are capable, just like you. Thanks for listening. And remember to always be courageous. Have compassion, build connections, and be true to yourself, because guess what? You deserve it.