Cadre Today and Family Ties

Well, hey, Cadre, how are we doing today? I hope you are great. I really hope that you're doing swell. But if you're not, I want to remind you that that is okay as well. You know, I was having a conversation this morning about things that are changing. Things in the world that were one way and now are a different way. Hey, T. Brown. Hey. 1% speak wonder. How are y'all? Marisa, nice to see you, my friend. BE's a BITS crew. Jules, nice to see everybody filing in to our shared table. Our. Our wonderful place of meeting.

So as I was saying, you know, as. As we think about, you know, a world that's ever changing, that's ever shifting in. In those moments, it's so easy to get to the place where. And I lost my train of thought because Luke just came up next to me, so I don't remember what I was saying. So I'm just gonna sit here and be uncomfortable for a second as I try to remember my train of thought. And the epic frozen lake. Does Lake Erie freeze over? Speak. Wonder. Superior never actually gets to. Gets to that place, but Superior is.

Is the big mama of the greats. Oh, got it. Wayne. Nice to see you, Wayne. As we think about what comes here and the reminder every single day that I offer that, you know, if you're not great, that, that's. That doesn't change your capacity to be in the midst of the stuff, right? You may. You may be having to change your perspective of what is. What is good or what is I am doing okay or I'm ready to go get. I'll tell you, it's been a long time since I felt ready to go get a day. And I won't shy away from that.

I'm not a be better everyday person. I'm not a stronger, harder, faster, deeper person. I am capable of doing something even if I don't see that or if the metrics change for how I thought that was. So every single time as we sit down here, how do we look at the value of this thing? There may be days you come here and you don't feel like you can settle that. You can have the aha moment. What if that was okay? What if that was the place where you can go, yep, I am. I'm not my best. I'm not seeing myself as capable in those moments.

What would happen if we saw we were still probably going to be on the other side and going, huh? There is some good stuff within that. You know, on Thursdays, what do we talk about often Our relationship with other people. You know, Tuesdays we talk about building those relationships. Thursdays we talk about how do we. How do we care for those relationships when all of a sudden we become the one who has when others don't. So, like, you saw me right now kind of lose my train and kind of ramble. And maybe that's counter to you.

It's like, oh, normally JC has. Has clarity and has perspective and has maybe you think of it as positivity or joy, and maybe right now that's diluted. What about those people that you care for that look to you for, for that clarity or for that confidence when they are in this state? And you may also be questioning yourself? Quite often, that's when we lose the perception of magic, a perception of capacity. You know, what do they say on the plane, right, hey, put your mask on first. Which is a fancy way of saying, acknowledge that you are not infallible.

You know, acknowledge that you don't have everything together. Acknowledge that you don't have this amazing capacity to always rise above. Nope, you actually need oxygen first if you're going to do anything. So, so often this role of being in the caretaker seat is going, yeah, you know what? Either A, I may not have anything to give right now, so I need to take care of myself, or B, even if I don't see what I have to give, your presence, your being the cog in that system is very much the thing that other people depend on.

You know, again, I lost track of time and I was three minutes behind the 30 after the hour. And that's very not normal for me. I'm normally at 29, I'm signing on. So at 30, all y'all who are here can be like, boop. And here's the time. Guess what? I was three minutes late and y'all were still here. So what does that say to me? Yeah, the way that I show up in any moment is actually probably good enough for the world not to burn down. And for those people who you care for, when they're not able to be the way that they would want to be or the way that you need them to be for you not to lose your stuff or to feel the extra stress, we so often set up humanity to be incredibly fragile.

It's like, oh, if you do this, this is going to be the thing that ruins your life. If you eat this, this is going to be the thing that leads you to having your arm fall off. Actually, no. Here's the passing thought. 14,000 years ago, before we started Industrializing and farming and all of these things. Like the human being is set up to be about 90% in our rest digest, 10% in fight flight. So our nervous system, right, we're designed to be constantly in a rest digest like every other animal you see on the planet, right?

There's a bunny who lives in my front yard. I never see the bunny doing push ups. I never see the bunny eating organic foods. I never see the bunny, like, whiteboarding, like, here's my 1, 3, 5, 7 year plans. No, the bunny goes, mmm, I'm hungry. I'm gonna eat some food. I am. Oh, the sun's rising. I'm gonna wake up, I'm cold. I'm gonna shiver. To go ahead and release some of that. That coldness. That's how we were designed to be. 14,000 years later, in 2025, a lot of science shows that we exist.

90% fight flight, 10% rest digest. And a lot of people goes, this is the problem. This is the world. We need to get rid of phones and forks and plastic bottles like we need to xyz. And in reality, no, we are incredibly. We are incredibly malleable, flexible, dexterous, resilient. We can exist in 90% fight flight. Now again, that may create more moments where we feel less grounded. We're still very, very capable of existing in really big, beautiful ways in those moments. Update. Lake Erie is 80% frozen over.

Ice fishing huts everywhere. The amount of. The amount of cars I've seen go through the ice and trucks in Minnesota just because the ice isn't icing as much as it used to, but now it's like 10 below for enough days in a row. So all those cars are coming out right now to speak Wonder, y'all, Luke is eating his breakfast. And then you'll be seeing Luke. No, because it's Thursday. You won't be seeing. See, I'm out of normally. I see Luke on Mondays. You won't be seeing Luke today outside of, like, seeing Luke right now and his aunt sweatshirt.

But here's the reminder, everybody. Cadre is the place where you get to be who you are, when you are what you are. And hopefully you see that from us too. Because if you do, you have that reminder of going, ah, this isn't the place to figure it out. I don't think that place exists, actually. I know the place doesn't exist. This is the place to go right now. Where am I? What do I have? And how do I live in this moment doing the things that I feel called to do? So keep doing those things. Now, I'm gonna get back to my convo with Luke and invite y'all to get back to your work, your play, your rest, your fight, your flight, your rest, your digest, your coffee, your bacon, your tofu, your fruit, whatever you got.

Y'all. I will see you tomorrow. And hey, if you haven't yet, watch back the interview I had with Gene yesterday. It was fantastic. A wonderful, light moment. It was fantastic. Yeah. All right. Y'all have a good one. Bye. C. boom.