Me Time ✨

Hello, Hello. Happy Sunday. Hope you are having a stay. Jean here calling in from Minneapolis all bundled up, also hopeful that you can hear me. Hello, Becky's. How are you doing? Hello. Speak wonder. Hello, Lindsay. Hello, Jules. Can you give me a little like a heart that you can hear me? Because if you can't, then I'm gonna go outside. There might be a little background noise, so I want to make sure it's not too much. Happy Sunday. As you are coming in today, I am going to simply invite you. Good morning.

Good afternoon. Arctic Eerie. I'm gonna invite you to type in the chat. Something different today. I am going to invite you. I love the blue cards, by the way. If you're willing to type into the chat today a mantra for the day, going big. What is your mantra for today? And here's why I ask. We have so much space to talk to ourselves. Did you know that the person you talk to the most in the any given day is you? We talk to ourselves more than anybody else in an entire day. How crazy is that when you think about it?

But we do. We have all this chatter that happens in our brain. So today on me time, I wanted to talk about our thoughts, the stories that we tell ourselves, and affirmations. So if you have any affirmations that you would like to use or that you rely on, I'd love to know what it is, please type it in the chat. Now, I'm sitting today in one of my favorite coffee shops. One step at a time. And here's what's funny. I don't drink coffee. Well, sometimes I drink coffee, but only if somebody buys me one on accident.

And then I am too kind to not drink it, so I drink it anyway. But Jules says, you got this. I love this speak. Wonder says, one step at a time. So we go to these coffee shops, right? We go to these places of familiarity where it's the cheers. Maybe they know your name or maybe you just feel comfortable. You have your spot in the window or you have a favorite chair. Like this coffee shop I really like because it also has, like a little fireplace in the middle. So I'm a little. I'm a fan of the fireplace.

I don't know if you could see it. But I also like sitting outside and being able to see the light. I like having the light. But what I love about coming here is it's familiar, right? I get the same oatmeal. Sometimes I get a muffin or a matcha latte and I find comfort. And when I have those places of comfort, then I can allow my brain to relax a little bit, and I can rely a little less on maybe a mantra, an affirmation, but I can rely a little more on the comfort of the space that I'm in to really support me.

Now we're going to walk and chat, because I did order a matcha latte, and I think it's done now. So in these places that we go to find the opportunity to be comfortable, to find that space, to create that habit, and those habits are what shape us, right? It's those habits that we use and rely on. And we have these habits in our mind now, where mantras come into play and why I'm bringing them into me time today. Hi, Ana. I'm bringing mantras into today's conversation because yesterday, as many of you know, if you dialed in before, I'm training for a marathon, and yesterday was the longest of the runs before I get to start to tape it.

And it's cold in Minnesota right now. It snowed yesterday, so I was on a snowy run. And on that snowy run, I debated whether or not. Like, I literally looked for flights to try to go to a different city that would be warmer. But it's super bowl weekend, so all of flights were super expensive, and I couldn't go anywhere, and so I had to stay here in Minnesota. And it snowed, and then I. It was like, so that's no vanilla. So I did my run outside. And when you're running and training for a marathon, you have a lot of space and time.

The only person out there that you can talk to if you're training by yourself, which I am, is me. And so for four hours yesterday, I got to be in my head. I listened to music, but I rely on mantras to help me get through those times. So, Jules, you put in there, you got this with wonder. You said, one step at a time. Another affirmation. I am an instrument of peace in my sphere of the world. Gosh, speak, Wonder. You always have such grace of words. But using mantras is really nice way to help change the story that we have in our brains.

And I don't know about you, but some days are just really hard, right? And some days we don't show up maybe feeling our bust, or maybe we're doing or working on something so much that we start to question our worth or our value or our ability to do whatever it is. You know, an example could be. I just even use the example yesterday, with training for this marathon, I was getting so in my head because it was cold and I was running slow. And then I was doubting whether or not I'd be able to finish the race.

And all the stories that we tell ourselves that aren't even true. Before I even got to the place of running, the story I was telling myself was, it's too cold. I'm never going to be able to make it. I'm not going to do all the miles that I have to do. It's icy. It's slippery. And I had this whole story I had about what it was. And at one point I stopped and I said, okay, I'm not there yet. Like, I haven't hit any of the miles that I need to get to yet. So I can't tell myself whether or not I can or can't do it yet because I'm not there, and I haven't even started and I haven't tried.

And so yesterday, my exercise was equally as much physical as it was mental. Telling myself that I have the possibility, the opportunity to get one more mile, check in with my body. A friend of mine, we are mentors to students who are in college, and we had a text chain yesterday where one of them shared a phrase or a mantra that they were using and all of us typed in, and we shared each of our mantras with each other. And it was a really nice way to just see how each of us thinks differently about difficult situations.

Speak. Wonder puts in here another affirmation that she struggles with. Wait. Weight fluctuates, your worth does not. And I love that. So it's finding the phrases, finding the mental mindset that we can rely on. Because, as Isaac mentioned when we started, we talk to ourselves more than any single person in a day. So our thoughts matter, our mindset matters. We tell ourselves, like, Ana, you say that in here. We tell ourselves untrue stories all the time. Getting better at catching and changing the narrative.

Exactly. It's not about whether or not you're gonna talk great to yourself all the time. It's about what happens when you catch yourself. Is the story going to serve you? We have 14, 40 minutes in a day. Now, granted, we're gonna spend, if we're lucky, seven or eight hours that day sleeping, resting. But the rest of the time, we're awake. And so I have found that, starting to write down a series of mantras that I can come back to. I did this exercise with another friend of mine yesterday, and they sent me 10 mantras that they've been working through.

Now, maybe on a given day, a mantra that you use today doesn't work. Maybe you sign up for. I get these mantras from this email called Moon Omens. They do a lot of Moonology. And every day they send me just four sentences and I read those four sentences and if I like them, I put them in a note on my phone and I go back to it several times in a day. And if I don't, then I just let it go because not all it's going to hit. You know, you can just wake up really crabby and you just need something needy to get you through.

So it's really important that we find that opportunity to catch the story. Becoming aware of the story that we're telling ourselves is the most important thing. The second most important thing is what happens next. So when we find ourselves having Oster syndrome, moments where we don't believe that we are enough for whatever it is that we're doing. So I'm a spin instructor. You can see my sweaty, messy hair. There are days that I get up on the bike and I question whether or not I should be there.

I don't know if I'm good enough or I'm enough that day. And when we can catch that, if I'm having that thought, how many other people of the 40 people in my room are having the same thought as me? So sometimes even if we share it with somebody, then we can start to change that story. Jewel says she has a deck of cards that she uses and the card that she drew. Today, I am a boss calling shots and making things happen. Yeah, there's so many. Even if you go to like Target or Walgreens or Paper Source, you can buy little boxes that have little mantras or little sayings in them, and you can draw them out.

You can get different ones sent to your phone, or you can follow different things on Instagram or social media. And so finding some of those can be really important. Becky says at the end of the day, I still get to be me and they have to be them, and that can't be easy. Right, Becky? That's beautiful. So ways to just find some phrases that can help us get unstuck so that we can start to change the narrative. It doesn't mean that. And I've said this before, I'm definitely a Pollyanna person, right?

Rosy colored glasses and all. But I'm also realistic. Not every day is going to be a great day. Not every thought is going to be a great thought. And we aren't always going to be able to flip the script. But just like Going to that familiar coffee shop that they recognize your name, they know that you get a matcha latte without sweetener. And if they make it wrong, they remake it, which is what happened. We go to those places for habits. We go to those places for familiarity. Sometimes we go to be seen even though we're kind of unseen, right?

But that habit is what brings us comfort. And so if we can start to rely on the habit of finding and catching when we're in the thought spirals that bring us down, and we can start to create a thought spiral or a thought pattern that is more expansive, that's when we can start to rewrite our story. Because every day we get a clean page, we wake up crabby or on the wrong side of the bed, or we wake up bounding with energy like the Energizer Bunny. We always get a fresh start every single day that we woke up.

It doesn't mean that the problems that existed when we went to sleep the night before gone. It means that we had a fresh opportunity to lean into it and see how we move that dialogue. So my mantra today, or mantra that I put yesterday, was dream it, believe it, achieve it. But today, on this day where my body just feels tired and my mind is such a doer mindset, that's how I sob, it's how I move. Today, my mantra is be at peace with rest. Because that's what my body needs. That's what my mind needs.

And I'm not great with just sitting still. But when I find that urge to just get busy for the sake of being busy for today, I'm just gonna get comfortable being at peace. Becky. I love that. Attack the day or it will attack you. Anna Jules daughter pulled a card, says I refuse to let anyone else dictate my path. I think that one's a perfect way to end. Today you get to choose. You get to write your story. You get to write a clean page. So find a mantra that works for you. Find one that can get you out of your thought spirals.

Maybe take 15 minutes today and just write a series of mantras. And maybe that can be your platform for the week. So that at any point in time, you can look back to your page and see what mantra is going to work for you. So with that, I just want to tell you all that I love you. I hope you all have a beautiful Sunday wherever you are, Whether it's hot, sunny, cold, snowy, cloudy, just know that you are loved, you are here, we're in it together. And share your mantras. With the world, share them with each other.

I'm gonna pop out into the comments and I'm gonna start a conversation about mantras. So if you're willing, I'd love to see what you put out there, too. Or if you have any emails that you sign up for, or if you have any card decks that you buy. Post a photo. Let's share it with everybody. Let's see what everybody has to say. Have the best day. We'll see you all soon.