A short reflection on self-care that frames it as being on one’s own side, explores how outside forces change inner state, and suggests turning toward others to find a small, restorative thin space.
Jules: My hope is that you remember that life goes like this, alright? If you're doing great right now, enjoy it, tap into it. And if you're not doing great, know that that is okay too.
What is self care? The act of being on your own side. What on the outside is affecting your inside? If you ask that question, it then allows you to go, huh, Something is changing my state, which intuitively says I can maybe do other things.
Care invites you to take a little bit of focus off yourself and focus on someone or something else. Spending time with someone else is a really great way to find that thin space. Tomorrow, Care and Pete Brommelkamp will talk about building a healthy workplace culture.
Well, hey there, Cadre. How are we doing today? I hope that you are doing this, doing good, thumbs up. I hope that for you. And if you're not doing great, know that that is okay too. My hope is that you remember that life goes like this, alright? So if you're doing great right now, enjoy it, tap into it. If you're not doing great right now, give yourself the moment of perspective to go, wow, I jumped into Cadre, which means I'm on my side, which means I'm curiously looking at the world and going, huh, what can I learn from this?
Or what do I need right now? Jules, I hope that you are having a nice morning. It's kind of chilly where I am, but as you can see, it's sunny. And if I lower my face to where the sun hits, you can see that my eyes change color today. I think they are gray. It's so interesting. Princeton Middle School. Jules. I. One of my coaching clients lives in Princeton and their kids go to Princeton Middle School. What a small world that we live in. Hey, it is Sunday here in the Cadre sphere and on Sundays we talk about self care.
What is self care? The act of being on your own side. The act of going, huh, what may I need right now? You know, if you're like me or a lot of people that I've spoken to in the last couple of days, people have been feeling like this, been feeling unsettled, been feeling like they can't sit still. Someone said to me yesterday, it's like, oh, I just checked, Mercury's in retrograde. You know, I know that the movement of pressure and energy in the universe plays on us. I don't know anything about it.
It's not something I've ever dived into. But it points to the fact, right, a lot of times we always try to go, huh, what on the outside is affecting my inside? I think that's a really great question to ask. What on the outside is affecting your inside? If you ask that question, it then allows you to go, huh, Something is changing my state, which intuitively says I can maybe do other things, to continue to change my state to a better place. Which is all kind of what self care is talking about. What do you need right now?
To be full, to be grounded, to be clear, to be happy, to be whole, to be safe. All of those things. Well, in my own life. Sundays for the last couple of weeks have been a day of being a guest on a podcast. You may be like, whoa, tangent. No, hang on, I'll get there. So And I have another podcast I'm gonna be on this afternoon. This one's kind of kind of fun. It's these two comedians whose podcast is all about talking about people's kind of bad work stories throughout their life. So it's like they go through a person's resume and they go, hey, tell me about this job.
Tell me about this job from the time you were very little to the time you're very, very present at your current age. And of course, they're comedians. So it's fun, it's light, it's something to listen to and consume at your leisure. But I love being in conversation with other people because the second you're in conversation with other people, you have to listen, you have to respond. You move into states of empathy and sympathy and compassion. You move into moments of passion and an argument. And all of a sudden, the things that are happening to you from the outside that are affecting your inside have a little less power because you're finding what we always talk about at 8:00am Central Standard Time on Sundays, and that is the thin space.
The thin space is quite easy to find comparatively, when you have someone else that you are finding it with to listen to, respond to. Care invites you to take a little bit of focus off yourself and to place a little bit of focus on someone or something else. So I'm a dog person. Whenever I feel unsettled, Willow and Hamilton and Jefferson are my number one medicine. Whenever I'm having a busy day of having to do or think or complete, I look at my schedule and I go, oh, but I get 10 minutes here to check in with this person.
Or I have this coffee date, which is going to allow me to output in a different way. So this afternoon when I go on the Awful Service podcast, I'm going to get a little bit of break from whatever's going on, whether it be the craziness of the world, whether it be the craziness of what's going on internally as me as an individual. If it's Mercury doing the retrograde dance, spending time with someone else is a really great way to find that thin space. So let's say you're driving around the world from St.
Cloud to Princeton and then maybe back up to north later on today. Or maybe today's one of those days where you just have too much free time and it drives you nuts. Well, guess what? You have tools, tactics, resources, professionals and peers. You have all of these different opportunities that you can find right here in the Cadre sphere to bring yourself back into the moment that you're in, being where you are with what you have and honoring that. That is the headline of what Finding the Thin Space is all about.
What currently is. Nourish yourself with that today. Y' all have a good morning, and I will see you tomorrow. And hey, also tomorrow's coming up. Me and Pete Brommelkamp, Chro of TPI Hospitality, will be talking about building a healthy workplace culture right here in the Cadre sphere. 3:30pm Central Standard Time. Have a good one. Bye.
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