What’s Holding You Back? Discover the Secrets to Personal Growth 🌱

Hello, everyone. And today is Winning Wednesday. This is Dr. Jessica Green. And today we're going to focus again on personal growth. But before we get started, I want you all to share in the comments, tell me how your week has been going. Whether we're giving it a one word spin, hot mess express, or we're giving it an 8, 9, or even a 10, where it has been a wonderful, wonderful week. And I tell you what, for me, I'm definitely going to give it a 9, 10, because this weekend, the past weekend, I should say, I was able to share some, some Mr.

And my nephews who are 9 and 10, we took the golf cart over to the beach and we were over there for a couple of hours. And those couple of hours that we were there, you know, it felt like one hour or two hours because we had such an amazing time there. And I, as I was sitting there, I'm thinking, you know, I just sit here and practice mindfulness in this moment, just because it was so peaceful, you know, there was a, it was a little breezy, but, you know, thinking about, okay, let me focus on my five senses.

What are some things that I can see? What are some things that I can taste? You know, what are some things that I can feel? You know, taste, touch, feel, smell, you know, using our five senses. But it was such an amazing experience. But it also reminded you the importance of gratitude, the importance of being thankful for those things that we do have and not those things that we may not or do not have. When we talk about having a Winning Wednesday, today we're going to focus on how to set and stick to career goals and then being able to create some actionable plans and some steps to move towards that growth.

So when we talk about career goals, maybe you have a dream job in mind, or maybe you just know you want more. And being able to know that you want more allows yourself to build that momentum and to grow more. And when we talk about growing more, not just emotional, but we talk about that sense of stability, we focus on that sense of purpose. And if we're going to be real in this moment and be transparent. Setting goals is easy, but the hard part is sticking to them when things get tricky, when things get hard, and being able to build that resilience with you.

For myself, when I decided to go into private practice, it was a major goal for me. And best believe setting that goal was easy. But the tricky part was doing that legwork and being consistent with it. And if I gave up on myself, I know I wouldn't have Been where I am now. So allowing yourself to have those goals and maintaining and having that sense of consistency. So good morning. Dream big. So if you've ever started strong and then we lose that motivation or we feel stuck or we let fear talk us out of going something that we really, really want.

So today we're going to take a look at and walk through some simple things and simple ways that we can be able to set career goals that will actually stick. And plus we're going to participate in a quick activity to create that action plan, set those goals and reminding ourselves, okay, I have these goals, but what can I do to get there and to make sure they are reasonable goals and things that we can do. So sometimes why do those career goals fail? So let's be honest, answering this question, I want you to answer this question in the chat, right?

And you can actually use a hand emoji if that works better for you. But how many times have you set a goal, we felt excited about that goal and then bam, nothing happens. And for a lot of us, yes, that does happen where we've set a goal, but that consistency is not there. So these are some reasons why this happens. Sometimes we set day goals, we may say, I want a better job. So instead of saying I want a better job, I want you to change your mindset and think of it a different way. I want you to consider saying, I want to apply to three jobs this month.

The second thing is sometimes we focus on the big end result instead of breaking it down into smaller manageable parts. And this reminds me of remembering that this journey is not a sprint. It's going to be a marathon. And we're going to have to break those huge goals into smaller parts. And, and then when we break them into smaller parts and reach that goal, I want you to be able to celebrate whether it's something small, where we're getting that, you know, ice cream or cookie, or we even going to Starbucks for our favorite latte.

But I want you to make sure you reward yourself no matter how big or how small that goal is. And then third, we let fear and self doubt creep in. We tend to ask ourselves, what if I fail? What if I'm not good enough? So I want us to reframe those thoughts. And when I say reframing those thoughts, we're going to look at a three step career goal plan and this is going to be a quick exercise. And if you are somewhere where you can write it down, I want you to grab a notebook and if you're not In a position where you can write this down, then I just want you to think about this.

So for step one, we have to get specific. So instead of I want a better job, I want you to say I want a management role in marketing within the next six months. Because with that one you know what you want, but you're also giving yourself a time frame. Keep in mind we have this time frame listed. But if you do not get it within those six months, it's okay. Because with this goal we can rewrite it and add more time. But the goal is to make sure that you are consistent and the goal is to make sure that you continue with that motivation to keep going.

So instead I want more money, I want you to think about saying I want to earn 10% more by the end of the year. So again, there you have those details in there, you know what the goal is and then when are we going to get there? So step two, I want you to break it down. So I want you to think about what are three small steps you can take and even in this week, this month towards that goal. So I want you to think about three small steps that you can take to reach that goal. Maybe it's going to be updating your resume, attending a network event with individuals that are in your industry and even taking it a step further and having a coffee chat with two individuals, two different events, but two individuals where you're able to have that informational interview with them, where we can have those one on one questions and have that intimate setting.

But whenever you ask these individuals, make sure you have the date, the time and the location and we're sticking to that time. So if you say 30 minutes, make sure you stick to 30 minutes because their time is just as worthy as yours. Also maybe consider taking an online course to build your skills in that particular industry. So those are just some things that we can do when we talk about taking those small steps. So step three is set a next action for this week. So when I say that, I want you to think about one thing that you can do within the next seven days towards reaching that goal.

Maybe it is updating your picture on the resume, maybe is adding some additional skills on your resume or updating your current job or even some awards that you received. So that's something that we can do within the next seven days. So I want you to write it down, I want you to say it out loud and even if you have to put it on a sticky note on your bathroom mirror or that mirror in your room and I say the bathroom mirror because, you know, we're at least going there once, twice, or three times a day.

That gives us that frequent reminders in the morning and then before we go to bed. Okay, these are some of my goals that I have for myself, and it makes it real. So now that we've got a plan, you may ask yourself, how do I stay on track? Which is definitely, again, one of the hardest things to do. So how can we stay on track? I want you to think about accountability. So that's going to be telling a friend, telling a mentor about your goal, and when we share it with those individuals, make sure they are worthy to hear your story.

So when I say that, it's someone who we tell them what's going on, our goals, and they tell us what we need to hear, not what we want to hear. But then they also don't share it with anyone else. They make sure they keep it within that circle and give you ideas that will help motivate you and take you to the next level. The next thing will be to track your progress. Keep a simple checklist or journal. And again, making sure that we celebrate those small wins, those moments when we feel that built momentum where we get excited.

The next one is to give yourself some grace. We will. Good morning, Jules. Yes. And have at least three affirmations on that bathroom mirror. That's right. That's right. And you know, just as you said, giving yourself some grace. Yes, we're definitely going to hit those setbacks, but we don't quit. We adjust. Because progress isn't about perfection. Progress is about consistency that we keep going. And I love how Jewel said the bathroom mirror because, you know, we get up in the morning, we're just like, oh, my gosh.

Ah, the day is going to be horrible. It's going to be a long day where we defeat ourselves before we even get started. But we walk into that bathroom and we see those affirmations listed, you know, And, Jules, if we have to play, you know, Whitney Houston's I'm Every Woman while we're in the shower getting dressed so we can build up that momentum and get excited about the day. We do that to make sure we have that sense of empowerment, but also so we can be our best self. So these small actions, I want you to repeat them over time, because when we repeat them over time, they lead into big results.

So here is your challenge. Do one thing this week that moves you closer to your career goal. Now, again, it does not have to be huge, but I need you to just take action. And also remember that your career isn't something that just happens to you. You have power over your own path and the hardest part is just starting. So if this live stream helped, please share it with a friend who's working towards something big. And also a reminder to follow me on the Cadre app and you'll see some recorded videos where we talk about family and parenting, but then we also talk about mental health in the workplace.

And as always, be courageous, build connections, have compassion, and remember that you got this.