The host explores how the words great and okay shape expectations, probing where adequacy and enoughness lie. He reflects on everyday roles and argues that operating at okay can still meet responsibilities and hold value.
Every day I hope you're doing great, but if you're not, that's okay. Words naturally have some power. Think about the words great and okay. Great insinuates maybe a higher level of goodness than okay.
T. North: Where is the line of good and adequate? He says we are capable of doing so much at an okay level. North says this concept of enoughness has been a life changer. Reach out with your questions, concerns, fears and desires.
Good morning, Cadre. How are we doing today? How are we doing? I hope you are doing great per usual. And also per usual, if you're not doing great, here's your daily reminder that that is pretty okay as well. I want to go ahead and think about those two words today. Great and okay. You know, every day I hope you're doing great, but if you're not, that's okay. Words. Words naturally have some power. 1% better. How are you, my friend? Jules, Nice to see you. Besides, crew is bumping on into the space.
Words have power, right? They're empty vessels. Like, if I was going to ask you what this is, what would you say? It is Cool. If I asked you what this is, what would you say? This is good morning to you all as well. So if I bring the up together, you may go, that's a salt shaker, and that's a. That's a pepper shaker. But what if they were both empty and I just picked one up? What would you call it? I feel like most people call it a salt shaker as opposed to a pepper shaker, but in reality, there's not salt or pepper in it, so it would be a shaker.
I guess it's my point, right, that words are purely vessels. It's not until we place something in them that. That they take on the identity that we know them as. Like, salt shaker, pepper shaker, water bottle, Right? So. So when I say something like, hey, I hope you're doing great, but if you're not, that's okay too. I think it's important to, for a moment, think about the words great and okay. Great insinuates maybe a higher level of goodness than okay, which is here. So let's go with that and okay is.
But my question for you today actually is, where is the line of good? Like, where is the line of, you know, this is adequate for me to do what I'm doing with my life? I think so often we go, great is the line of adequacy. So okay is below the line of adequacy. So anytime we feel okay, we feel less capable, less worthy, less ready. But in reality, we are capable of doing so much at an okay level. If this is the level of adequacy, the level of, like I like to say, enoughness. Then all of a sudden, we look at our capacity in that moment with a lot more value and worth.
If we need to be great in order to be adequate, it's a really hard life to live if we can be here at okay and still going. You know what? Being okay is more than enough to go ahead and care for the people in my life to go ahead and accomplish that task that seemed mundane, but it's wearing down on me. It's enough to go ahead and have a voice in the meeting on Thursdays we talk about caregiving and that shows up in a lot of ways. You know. I am the music director of a cast of a, of a musical at a local children's theater right now.
We open next week. I'm the artistic director and visionary for a senior rock ensemble that it's a non profit that uses music, rock music to empower and give voice back to individuals. 62 to 90 years old. I get to sit here and chat with you every single day. I have a lot of opportunities to be someone who gets to care for other people. And I tell you a lot of days I'm not great. Like true, but if I need to be here in order to have impact and do the thing that I do, I miss out. But the world definitely misses out.
Like the world that I'm attempting to have impact on misses out. I think we all feel that 1% better says, Ah, I want to be okay with being great and great with being okay. Exactly right. We, when we go, you know, if we camera check and go, what is possible right now? What can I do right now? That's Sports Psychology 101, right? The best doers of sport are the ones who get to ready position first. In other words, they say this is my opportunity right now and then they do that. So as you think about those people that you care for, care about, maybe the weight comes off your shoulders a little bit when you go where I am, my level of adequacy to be enough.
What if it's here? What if it's like bottom of the barrel? You still have worth and you still can do. T. North says this concept of enoughness has been a life changer. Thank you so much for the way you have affected my life. Hey T. North, guess what? Thank you for the way that you've affected my life. Because you have. Right? There's something really scary about thinking that we don't have to be great in order to be impactful. I drove my parents back from Florida this back weekend, this, this past weekend.
I have so many people at all times that I care for and care give and so often we go, how do I do it? I don't have it today you do. I think you just need to consider that this is not a salt shaker. But this is a shaker. Words matter. Great. Is what you make out of it. Okay? Is what you make out of it. You are really what you make out of your current situation. And that's not a pull your bootstraps, bootstraps up comment. That means what if you wrestle to think that in each moment you being on your own side is worthwhile.
Y' all, I'll be back tomorrow morning per usual 7:30am Central Standard Time. I'm trying to think. We do have a live stream, a Cadre Today interview next week. I think maybe me and my brother, Luke Wetland, founder of Cadre, jumping in together for conversation. But I'll go and get that up in here soon. Reach out. Let me know your comments, your questions, your hopes, worries, fears, concerns, desires, whenever you got them. Because I love connecting with y' all. We'll talk to you later.
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