What’s Holding You Back? Discover the Secrets to Personal Growth 🌱

Doctor Jessica Green. And I am joining you on this wonderful Wednesday. This week has been full of excitement. It has been full of joy. And as we are waiting on some others to chime in, Good morning, Jules. I want you, which we always do, but I want you to rate yourself on a scale from 1 to 10. You know, again, 1, we call it our quote unquote, hot mess express. Where this week has had some hurdles, it's had some concerns. Good morning, Dr. Davis. Where we feel like, oh, my gosh, which way am I going?

How am I moving to 10? Where it has been an awesome week and the best is yet to come for you. And then as you're rating yourself, I also want you to put in there any emotion or feeling that we're having now. It needs to coordinate with our rating scale, but I want you to tell me how you rate yourself on a scale from 1 to 10, and then I want you to add an emotion. So, Jules, we're at three. So self care, personal accountability, and personal growth is definitely going to be one, one, even three or some of our goals to be able to get above that 5.

But yes, as we're waiting for some others to come in, I definitely want you to rate yourself on a scale from 1 to 10 in that emotion. So if I think about myself, this week has been busy with work, but today I get the opportunity to hear one of my wonderful and fabulous friends, Michelle, speak at a Women and Wine Wednesday event. So she is going to talk about personal growth. She's going to talk about her journey from who she was to who she is now and who she's becoming. So I'm excited about that.

And then this Saturday, I will be teaching a continuing education opportunity here in South Carolina with some other clinicians. I'm excited for the collaboration. I'm excited for us to share best practices so we can grow as a professional. But again, be mindful and making sure we're taking care of ourselves. Dr. Davis said she is a seven and she is feeling hopefully, and we are definitely going to keep that momentum going. So today, as we talk about personal growth, we're going to highlight the seven ingredients that we need in order to, you know, again, move from where we are now to reach those personal and professional goals.

So whether you're navigating change, coming back from a setback, or just feeling stuck, I definitely want to make sure that you have a pencil or pen, a notebook, or if you are in your vehicle, I need you to be mindful of your surroundings. But I want you to make sure after this is over that you save this video so you can come back to it and replay it. And Jules says she is frustrated. And with that frustration, we just have to make sure we are not allowing others to control our actions and making sure they're not bringing out the worst of us.

So I'm hoping we can change that frustration into something even more positive. So we're going to talk about again the seven ingredients that support real lasting growth, personal growth, and not just that surface level growth where we say, oh my gosh, okay, let's get better or less me, but the things that impact our mental health and impact our self worth. So the first is self awareness. I want you to write this down. Self awareness and self awareness is definitely the foundation. And you can't grow if you don't know what you're working with.

You know, how can we work when we don't know what we're working with? So I want you to take time to check in with yourself and ask yourself a couple of questions. I want you to ask yourself, what am I feeling? What's that emotion? What's that feeling? And it may even be a behavior. Why did that trigger me? What brought on that trigger? Was it a person, a place or a thing that brought that trigger? Because what this does, it creates emotional clarity and it helps you respond, not react. Because sometimes when we respond, it's not going to be that, that positive response, it's going to be negative.

And what we want to do is focus on what will happen and that way what may happen, being proactive as opposed to being reactive. So the second is goal setting. So when we talk about goal setting and growth, growth needs direction. It doesn't mean you need a five year plan. But even asking yourself, what's one thing I want to improve this month, what's one thing I want to improve in the next two weeks? This gives you a roadmap to figure out who you are and where you're going. Because sometimes we start this journey, hey, this is what I want to do, I'm excited about it.

But then we ask ourselves, what does it look like? And we cannot tell you what it looks like because we have not created that roadmap of how we're going to get there. The third is resilience. So when we talk about resilience, growth is not comfortable. For some of us who might have mentioned in private practice, from a full time position that had benefits, etcetera, Going into private practice was growth for us, but it was not comfortable. And when we Think about resilience. It's the emotional grit to sit with disappointment.

We sit with that pain or even that failure, and we still choose to move forward. We do not allow that vulnerability to get the best of us. But we see vulnerability as a positive. We see it as, yes, I'm fearful to make this jump, but I have to be courageous at the same time because we have fought hard for this moment. For my parents, it's that moment where our kids are graduating high school and they're graduating and they're going into that world. We're excited for them, but we're fearful at the same time.

But we have worked hard for this moment. So I want us to see vulnerability as a positive and definitely not a negative. The fourth is going to be that mindset shift. So a growth mindset reminds you that you're not stuck, but you're still learning and knowing that things are going to change. A lot of things change. And how we respond to that setback and how we show up on a daily basis determines if we, if we're focusing on our ability to shift that mindset from negative to positive, where we're not looking at how it went wrong, but we're taking a look at those things that went right, having that sense of compassion and making sure we're focused on the things that we're grateful for in that moment.

So the fifth is consistency and discipline. So they are not glamorous, but they're everything. So doing the work, even if you feel you don't need to, or we feel like it's not working, it's how we show up in how we maintain that sense of being. Our authentic self becomes real. So I need you to continue to keep showing up for yourself because if you have children, they are relying on you to show up and remembering that we can't be everything to everybody. We have to make sure we're taking in that self care and taking care of ourselves.

Sometimes as parents, sometimes as leaders, we find that difficult because we change our schedule for someone else. But when we talk about those personal ingredients, allowing ourselves to grow, we have to make sure we're taking care of ourselves. So the sixth one is reflection and feedback. So I want you to pause, but then I want you to reflect and ask yourself what worked for me this week? Or even what do I want to do differently? Because personal growth requires us to stop and it requires us to listen and it requires us to especially listen to ourselves.

Number seven is support and connection. You don't grow well in isolation. You know, before we always talk about our personal board of directors and those individuals who help us grow. So whether it's a therapy, whether it's a mentor, even a close friend, those connections create accountability. They create encouragement, and then they also create healing. So I want you to personalize this. I want you to think about one area in your life right now. You know, it may be your job, it may be your relationships or even your self confidence.

And as we talked about those seven ingredients, I want you to think about which one you feel as if you're missing. And even if you want to put in the chat, even if it's one that's not listed here, but it's an area you want to focus on. I want to focus on accountability. I want to focus on self care. I want to focus on those boundaries, being able to say no, not having that inappropriate guilt, not feeling as if we're letting anyone down, not feeling that sense, as if we're being selfish, but we are taking on some self care, doing what I need to do and doing those things that are in the best interest of me so you can be successful.

It may be consistency. It may be starting a day, you know, with one positive habit. It may be self awareness where we may want to start journaling at least five, you know, to 10 minutes in the morning or in the evening, or it may even be reaching out and texting a friend, texting someone who sits in your personal board of directors. And when we think about personal growth, personal growth doesn't mean reinventing yourself overnight. Personal growth may even be doing those things that we used to do that we stopped doing just because we're in a new season of life.

Maybe we became a parent, maybe we became a wife, and those kind of took over and then we forgot who we were. But it's about aligning with your values, listening to your needs, and choosing the right next step. Not for anyone else, but for you. So I want you to take those seven ingredients and I want you to think about how you can implement them and use them weekly, monthly, or even every two weeks to make sure we are being our true, authentic self and we are bringing out the best of us. So I appreciate everyone joining me for today's reset.

And if this episode resonated with you, I want you to share it with someone who's also on that growth journey, figuring out who they're, who sits on their personal board of directors, what can they do for self care. And I want you to remember that these recordings on Cadre, you can catch these recorded content by Searching at healing with Dr. Green. You can search by maybe something that you're looking for, whether strategies to help manage your anxiety, strategies for personal growth, strategies for parenting.

But these videos and this content is available for you 247 and also I want you to make sure you continue to follow me at healing with Dr. Green and as always, continue to be courageous, continue to have compassion, continue to build connections, and continue to be true to yourself. Because you do not have to be perfect to grow. You just need to be present. And until I see you next Wednesday, I want you to continue to keep choosing you.