A host reflects on family memories and caregiving while discussing how his tech-savvy mother uses ChatGPT to create cartoons and stay connected. He shares stories about first concerts and supporting aging parents' independence.
Bob Greene: What was your first concert? Newfie lover Sue: Neil Diamond at the Metrodome in 1986. Robert: My mom has found Chat GPT. How are your older relatives navigating technology today?
But everybody, I'm glad that I'm here. I know what I know and I care about you. That's the heart of Cadre goofy Lover. My mom at 78 is the most tech savvy person that I know. If I can give you a gift, that gift is my time or my perspective or a story.
On Thursdays we often talk about caregiving. One of the best gifts that we can ever give is the willingness to slow down enough for, for them to get what they need until they're ready to. Sometimes caregiving is not doing for but it's walking alongside asses.
The Minnesota Timberwolves won the first round playoff series versus the Los Angeles Lakers last night. No matter where you are at today, everybody, I hope you have a good one. And if you are caregiving for others today, perhaps the best thing you can do is to play a little Cracklin Rosie.
Ain't no more gold Taking it slow motion no. Good morning, Robert. Speak. Wonder how y' all doing. Chris Fortman. Good morning, my friend. Okay, we'll hit the pause right before Neil drops down for the pre chorus. Neil Diamond. Cracklin Rosie. Happy, happy Thursday morning, everybody. How y' all doing? What was your first concert? What was your first concert? Newfie lover Sue I already know Robert's first concert, but my first concert was Neil diamond at the Metrodome, 1986. 1987. Way too many people in the best ways possible.
And I was very, very far away and I fell asleep because Neil diamond would do literally three and a half hour concerts back then. And I was only five or six years old, but I was there with my mother, Dan Fogelberg. Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes. Newfield lover Sue I played Neil diamond this morning because it was my first concert, Ian. Because my mom loves Neil Diamond. You'll see in the community feed I just posted a moment ago. Be so bits. Good morning. That my mom has found Chat GPT. She has. I haven't, but she has t north.
For those of you who have older relatives, whether it be parents or grandparents or aunts or uncles or whoever, how are they navigating technology today? I'm curious. Do you have parents or grandparents who are using, oh, Gordon Lightfoot. What was it with names back then? Right? The Fogelbergs and the Gordons and the Lightfoots and the Humperdincks and the Manilows. It's also good. But yeah, my mom is using Chat GPT. And you'll see in. In the community feed that I shared a couple photos that she turned into cartoons featuring my mom and my dad and my oldest pup, Hamilton.
That's what we're going to talk about today. But everybody, I'm glad that I'm here. I'm glad that you're here. I know what I know and I care about you. That's why I show up every day, because I'm glad that I get to spend time with you. Those are the first two. I'm glad I'm here. I'm glad you're here. I know what I know. I have my experience, I have my knowledge. I have my stumbles, my failures, my successes, all the things. And I care about you. So if I can give you a gift, and that gift is that gift is my time or my perspective or a story, I'm going to do that.
Those 17 words, I'm glad I'm here. I'm glad you're here. I know What I know and I care about you. That's the heart of Cadre goofy Lover sue at 63 I have used ChatGPT. Yeah, my mom at 78 is the most tech, I'll say it two ways. The most tech savvy person that I know and also the most tech enslaved person I know. My mom can't exist without having her iPad in hand to capture things, to share things, to communicate with others. On Thursdays we so often talk about caregiving, our ability to offer some support, space, access, agency amplification, all the things to other people.
And I am in a stage of life where I get to caregive for my parents who are still relatively independent, which is a big chapter of caregiving, right? Sometimes. How often do we think it's, if it's not the, the icky, ugly, hard life alter life changing life, stopping life ruining chapter of life, that our mental state or our caregiving nature or our grief that we're experiencing or our development that we're moving through isn't enough? Well, if you know me, enoughness is the beginning, the middle and the end of everything I ever talk about.
But I'll tell you, there are times that my caregiving of my parents gets to one of those chapters where you can see that they're going the way that I know the world doesn't seem to compute anymore or I feel like everybody else knows what's going on, but I don't. In those chapters with those people that you care for and it may be with the younger or the older, the peer, the colleague, the neighbor, the family member, the loved one, the enemy, One of the best gifts that we can ever give is the, the willingness to slow down enough for, for them to get what they need until they're ready to.
What is it? Slow down? To go fast or. Yeah, I'll tell you. Even though my mom lives in the tech space, there's a lot of times she doubts herself because she's 78 years old, never went to college, her knowledge is very much experiential knowledge in the field knowledge. There's times that she really doubts herself. And the knowledge that I give her is, well, mom, how do you think it would work, mom, if, if it was intuitive, what would you do? And 90, 97 out of 100 times she figures things out on her own.
But she needs a person to go, I don't trust myself right now or I don't have the confidence that I'm going to walk down the right pathway right now. In those moments, I think we learn one of the most fruitful actions in the caregiving relationship and that is the slowdown to speed up or speak. Wonder gives another variation here. Hurry up and wait. And and I would I would add a third part to that. Hurry up and wait so then you can empower others to to move forward. Because guess what? Sometimes caregiving is not doing for but it's walking alongside a**.
So that's the bit for today. I'd love to shout out the Minnesota Timberwolves for winning the first round playoff series versus the Los Angeles Lakers last night. I know for those of you who tune into Cadre today regularly Thursday mornings. I'm normally sitting at the buttered tin in St. Paul, but Luke, Luke zipped out to Los Angeles yesterday to go ahead and watch the Timberwolves win the big game last night. So Luke, if you're tuning in, go Wolves. If you're a Minnesota fan, go Wolves. If you're if you're not a Minnesota fan, ha ha ha ha ha ha ha.
No matter where you are at today, everybody, I hope you have a good one. And if you are caregiving for others today, perhaps the best thing you can do is to go ahead and slow down be with and then watch them speed up a little Cracklin Rosie to play you out into the rest of your day. My Rosie Jo, you got the way to make me happy. You don't hear a lot of Vasey voices anymore, do you? Lose your soul by woman you get me. Sing like a guitar honey. Crack me donkey running on. Play it now, play it now, play it now my baby Crackling Rosie out.
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