A talk about how the words just and only shrink language and how removing them strengthens expression and presence, illustrated with everyday examples and a childhood diving‑board story about enoughness.
The word just is a sneaky word. When we remove the words only and just, our potency increases. It's the first tenet of enoughness, right? That your words are enough.
No matter how much time you have today, don't just it. Relish in it. Make the most out of it, because it's the time you got. How does a song sound different if you remove the word just dance? Talk Dan later this afternoon.
Happy Saturday, everybody. Don't imagine you're too familiar and I don't see you anymore. What a good Saturday morning, too. I always forget to visit. Billy Joel. Kristen Grimes. How are you, my friend? And then the soprano sax comes in. Update. What a great day. Tune. And what a great day. I hope it's a great day for you. If it's not a great day for you, know that you are still incredibly worthy and capable the way you are. Notice I removed the word just. We'll talk about that in a second. But, hey, I'm glad I'm here.
I'm glad you're here. I know what I know, and I care about you. Those 17 words are the way that we say good morning here at Cadre today. Because that's what we're doing here, right? We're not bringing you the right answer or the magic pill. We're not bringing you the expert or the person with 70 billion followers who for some reason is the one who holds your truth. No, we're bringing together people who are glad to be together and who have experience and are willing to share it because we care about one another.
Boom. That's it. I'm glad I'm here. I'm glad you're here. I know what I know, and I care about you. The word just. It's a sneaky word. Think about the song we just listened to. I love you just the way you are. Why don't we say, I love you the way you are? Think about Nike. Just do it. Why don't we say do it? Just minimizes that. By definition, just is a. It's only right. That's another. Another tricky word, right? Only in. Just. If we look at those two words, they secretly deflate us. Just and only.
Secretly put us in a smaller box. Just and only sucks the air out of the room. It's the first tenet of enoughness, right? That your words are enough. Your honesty. How often do you see the words just and only sneak into your language? And I'll say, if you don't spend time noticing them, you will. Now you'll see yourself saying things like, hey, I'm. I'm just. Just doing my best, or, hey, I only have a little bit of time or a little bit of energy, as opposed to, I'm doing my best. I got a little time.
When we remove the words only and just, our potency increases. Our clarity shines like a diamond. I'll tell you the story that made this make most sense to me. When I was a little kid, I Was standing on the high dive at the Brooklyn center community center, and all the kids down in the deep end were saying, just jump. Just jump. But for me, it wasn't a just act. If I jumped, I would be validated. I would be enough. If I could figure out how to jump, all of a sudden, I would be manly enough. I would be right.
So they were saying, just. Just do it. Because for them, it was a just act. For me, it wasn't a just act. It was an everything act. I never jumped off that diving board, partially because I didn't want to. But I still think if I would have heard someone say, jump if you want to, if part of me that actually wanted to do so would have, because no one else, including myself, the voice inside my head, was minimizing that act. Jules says the infamous word just how often I now remove that word. My reports.
Boom. On the phone. Yeah, it's a good one. Hey, it's just me. Hey, it's me. It changes everything. Robert. Good morning, my friend. Speak wonder. Nice to see you, everybody who bopped on in. It's always fun when you watch the flutter because you know that you're not alone. You're not alone, y'all. Whether you have five minutes, five hours, five years. Grayson. Nice to see you, my friend. No matter how much time you have today, don't just it. Don't only it. Relish in it. Make the most out of it, because it's the time you got.
So whenever you hear a song like Just the Way youy Are or perhaps just dance, how does it sound different if you remove. What? If you remove the word, Just give it a listen. Yeah. Kristen, right? Ken. Ken brought to the forefront so much of enough, right? Hey, Luke. Good morning, my friend. As we play it out, listen to this song, but hear silence Rather than just coming on up, y'all. Kristen will be jumping on in a little bit with some food. Talk Dan later this afternoon, y'all. You got communities.
You got the feed. Dance. It'll be okay. Dance, right? It becomes a proclamation, becomes a charge, rather than, hey, just dance. No, Everybody dance, dance, dance. We'll see you later.
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