What’s Holding You Back? Discover the Secrets to Personal Growth 🌱

Good morning, everyone. This is Dr. Jessica Green. And today has been a busy Wednesday. I just snuck out of a meeting so I can join you all today. And a good friend of mine mentioned, she said, hey, today is Wednesday. You know, we're halfway to Friday. And I could not agree more with her. So when we talk about personal growth today and our ability to continue to be courageous, have compassion, and build connections, it definitely includes that sense of personal growth. So before we even get started, as we always do, I want you to rate yourself on a scale from 1 to 10 about how your week has been going thus far.

Jordan, good morning. Jules, good morning. Good morning. Glad to see we have so many coming in, and we're going to rate our week as they continue to come in, but I want you to rate yourself. So for me, I am feeling about a 7. Last week, the COVID bug hit me. Yes, it did. And I was down for the count. I could not talk, but through medication, through meditation, I am here. And I am so excited to be doing so much better. So much better. So today, we are going to dive into personal growth, but we are going to take a look at those secrets that we can utilize not only today, not only this week, but definitely for a lifetime.

So today we are going to break down the five secrets to mastering personal growth, and we are going to use simple, practical takeaways that you can use again, not only today, but every day. So if you are in the car, I want you to listen, because always remember. Oh, Jules is a strong eight. Remember. This content is readily available for you through the Cadre app. So if you are listening and you are driving, if you were listening and you're taking that morning walk, I want you to listen. Then I also want you to replay this episode.

Good morning, Maria. Good morning. Those of you who are at your office desk, if you're somewhere where you can write this information down, go ahead and grab your pen, your pencil, your paper, your cell phone, in the notes app, and make sure you jot down these five secrets. So secret number one is going to be embraced. Discomfort. And use it as a sign of growth. So when we think about growth, it rarely happens in your comfort zone. Right? Discomfort signals that you're evolving, whether you're starting therapy, whether you're setting goals, or you're learning to say no and set those boundaries.

So what I want you to think about was, when you feel resistance or fear, I want you to pause and ask yourself, is this discomfort a sign I'm growing? And if the answer is yes, I want you to lean into that and not lean away from it. Because sometimes when we get discomfort or that sense of being uncomfortable, we tend to avoid it, you know, in fear. But I want us to embrace it and I want us to lean into it. So, secret number two, consistency beats intensity. So I'm gonna say that one more time. Consistency beats intensity.

So when I say that if we think about those massive changes that happens, those massive changes are not built overnight. It is the daily, the quiet, being persistent, and those persistent habits that change your life more than burst of motivation. So what I want you to think about with number two is choose one small habit this week. It could be five minutes of journaling. It could be drinking more water. Or even those positive affirmations where you're affirming yourself that today is going to be a great day.

I got this. Today is going to get the best of me. And I want you to do that on a daily basis. We spoke about before having those affirmations on that bathroom mirror. Because that bathroom is a place we travel at least twice a day when we wake up in the morning and then when we go to bed. So when we wake up in the morning and we see those affirmations on those colorful sticky notes or those car. That car writer markers that we use in our vehicles, it allows us to remember our strengths. It allows us to remember our personal growth.

Then remember that we have the day to be the best of us. So secret number three. I want you to learn to unlearn. And you're like, oh, my gosh, Jessica, what are you talking about? I want you to learn to unlearn. So for some of us, some of the things that we have going on or some things that got you here, sometimes those things don't take us further. And it's those moments where we feel like we are stuck. So when I say unlearn, I want you to unlearn the rules that no longer serve you. Like needing to be liked, overworking to prove your worth or prove your value, or shrinking to fit in where we are trying to figure out that sense of fitting in as opposed to that sense of belonging and you out and not being that person that everybody else wants you to be.

So you're shrinking yourself to fit in with a group of people. And I tell you what, as adults, we tend to do that more often than we realize. So I want you to write down one outdated belief, and I want you to replace it with a healthier truth. For example, if you say, I must please everyone, I want you to Think about it this way. I want you to think that I'm allowed to prioritize my needs. So again, we're shifting from I must please everyone to I'm allowed to prioritize my needs. Secret number four.

Protecting your peace. Like it is a full time job, not a part time job, but a full time job. You are not required to stay in spaces that drain you. Those spaces where you get that sense of fatigue before you even get there. That space where you're looking around in a parking lot and you see that person's vehicle, then you're like, oh my gosh, today is going to be a long day. This person is here. Where we've already defeated ourselves before we've even gotten started with the day. So peace isn't passive.

It's something you build, it's something that you protect and it's something that you have to maintain. So I want you to think about your peace and I want you to audit your energy. Who or what leaves you feeling anxious? Who or what leaves you feeling angry? Who or what feel makes you feel empty inside? And I want you to set one boundary this week to reclaim your peace. Because sometimes we're around people, places and things and we have to realize it's okay if we outgrow them. We're not saying we're any better, but sometimes we outgrow people, places and things.

And we have to know that's okay. Because you are reclaiming your peace. Yes. Maria. Maria says she will not sit at tables though that do not have a seat for her. That is correct. And having that, that sense of belonging, that sense of feeling needed, and especially those tables, making sure they're aligned with your character in who you are. So the last one, secret number five. Make self awareness a daily ritual. So growth starts with knowing yourself, knowing your triggers, your needs, and those patterns that make you happy and those patterns that make you successful.

So you can be the best of you. So the more you know, the better you will grow. So this is going to take us looking within ourselves, some introspection, figuring out who we were, who we are now, and then our goals in regards to personal growth. So something that I want you to think about, I want you to create a two minute daily check in. I want you to ask yourself, how do I feel today? You know, we're creating that emotional intelligence. You know, am I happy? Am I afraid? Am I mad? Am I sad? What do I need emotionally to help pour into yourself and to feel that personal growth.

And then what am I avoiding? And when we say, what am I avoiding? It makes me think of that sense of vulnerability where those moments that we are fearful but we have to be courageous at the same time in order to allow ourselves to take our personal growth to the next level. So when we talk about mastering personal growth, it's not about being perfect. It's about being present. It's about being honest and committed to becoming the best version of you. So if today's episode spoke to your spirit, I definitely want you to send it to a friend who may be on that same journey.

And remember, make sure you follow me on the Cadre app where you can find recorded content, where we're talking about family, where we're talking about workplace, but then also when we're focusing on personal growth. So until next time, I want you to keep growing. I want you to take it one step at a time and continue to be courageous, continue to have compassion, continue to be courageous and have a awesome and fabulous weekend. See you soon.