Cadre Today and The Outward Facing Clique

Tiffany Norton. How are you, my friend? The butcher, the baker, the drummer and then makes no difference. But can you hear me now? Are we still there? T North Myers? I just got a connection lost moment. Let me know if you can still hear me. And never had connection loss problems right here. So hopefully we're okay. I'll keep going. Oh, good morning everybody. It is wonderful to spend some time. Rick, nice to hear hear from you, my friend. It is Tuesday in the Cadre sphere. I'm glad I'm here. I'm glad you're here.

I know what I know and I care about you, you Mel T nor thanks for giving me a thumbs up that I haven't been lost. You know, on Tuesdays we often talk about the engineering, the working, the building of community. You know, whether that be one on one, like forming friendships or relationships, maybe one on many. So maybe you're sitting in the seat of leader or the seat of inspire or mover or organizer, or maybe it's many on many. And that could be how do we work together? How do we bring different ideas into the same space?

It takes a lot of balance. So we're talking about all month here in the Cadre sphere balance. What I always talk about on Tuesdays is this idea of the outward facing clique. Cliques traditionally, culturally, are seen as, you know, a group of people who have a shared interest or idea or belief. And it's really hard to break into that group. It's like the kids in the lunchroom where there's no open seat at the table, but the outward facing click says, hey, you know what? Yes, We're a group of people who have a shared belief or idea that we really love, that we're really excited by, and we believe that it is something that more people should know about or care about or participate in.

So rather than facing in that first definition of click, we face out, we leave seats at the table, we create doorways, we do more listening than talking. We allow the space to become manipulated positively by people who aren't there yet. The headline of the outward facing click is this. The longer that you're a part of a group, the part of the group part of the idea, the less it is about you and the more that it is about the people who are not there yet. Yet. I just played Slice Sly in the Family Stone.

Sly passed away at 82 this week. And it's always amazing how the story kind of kind of connects to the greater world. If you tuned into any of my lives in the past week, you know, I've been in production mode with a group called Alive and Kicking. It's this group of 33, 62 to 90 year olds who use rock music to say, hey world, we're A, not done yet, and B, have a perspective that other people don't get to have. And that's looking at life from a later stage rather than a mid stage or an early stage, yada, yada yada.

There's a group member named Marty and Marty's told a story in the show about his reunion with music. How when he was younger, music was, was, was kind of the, the first love of his life. And now in this group that he's in Alive and Kicking, it's allowing him to have a reunion with, with a lot of music from his past, but also to be introduced to music that he's never heard before. And then at the end of his story, he quotes Sly and saying, we want to take you higher. And then Sly just passed away the day after we closed the show.

The, the person who welcomed him into the. Who welcomed Marky Marty into his music. Love has left the world. Let me tell you, Marty's a rather new member of the group. He's been here for I think three years and this group's been around for 15 years. Have you ever tried to break into a group and I notice I use the word break. How often does it feel like you have to break into something or you need to hold on until you're now welcomed or you need to be quiet until all those things are antithetical?

This idea of the outward facing click. So how do we allow people who are not a part of something yet to become a part of it? Well, you have to think about why you're doing what you're doing in the first place. Right? You may go and say, oh, this is what we do. What we do is very different than why we do it. What we do is very different than as we spoke about yesterday, where and when we do it. And often the people who are best at focusing in on the why we do what we do are the new people because they're the ones who are going to write the assumption.

It's like, oh, well, I thought your mission was X, why are we doing Y. Oh. From the outside looking in, it seems like you care about fill in the blank, but apparently you don't. Those are the voices. Those are the voices who make us go, oh my gosh, you're right, we've lost our way. Or it's been a while since we've talked about, or we've been in the work so long that we've kind of become blind and to what's going on around us. So my invitation today is, if you're attempting to build movement, if you've been in the trenches doing the thing, who's attempting to break in, who's attempting to find the door, who's sitting quiet in the back because they think that's.

That's how that group works. And you're going, oh, my gosh, no. I want you to be a part of it. I want you to mess it up. I want you to change. I want you to evolve this thing to be bigger, better, brighter, because we are all everyday people. It'd be easier for some people if we weren't, but we are. Invite people into the things you care about, if you truly care about them and the impact that they can have. Because if you don't, maybe you don't actually care about it as much as you think you do.

Y' all have a great Tuesday, and I'll see you tomorrow. We gotta live together. I'm in the. And neither are you. We're all the same. Whatever we do, you can't figure out the bag.