What’s Holding You Back? Discover the Secrets to Personal Growth 🌱

Hello, Cadre world. It is Dr. Jessica Green, and I am a few minutes late this morning, and today has definitely been a busy day. And good morning, Nikki. Oh, thank you, Nikki. I appreciate it. And you know what? We're all continuing to grow with that personal growth and identifying our sense of self, so we can definitely be our best selves. So I am actually. Good morning, Darnell. I'm actually on my iPad today. Funny story. So I generally connect from my cell phone, and I am. Good morning. Look, Connecting from my iPad, and if you all could have seen me in that moment, you know, connecting my iPad, trying to figure out, I don't know if anyone's ever used their iPad with Cadre.

Funny story. So you keep turning, and you keep turning. You keep turning until you find you know yourself where you're not upset upside down, whether you're not sideways. So just imagine, you know, me being in the office flipping my iPad as if I was a juggler in the circus. It was hilarious. But I had to share that in that moment. But as you all are coming in and I see there are some new people here, which is wonderful. Good morning, Emily, Nikki. You get it. So I was flipping this iPad as if it was a pizza, literally in that moment.

So those of you who are joining us for the first time or haven't been in the room in a while, I am Dr. Jessica Green, and I am. Good morning, Michelle. A licensed therapist here in South Carolina. I am a supervisor for LPC aids. I'm licensed from North Carolina in Florida, and I also teach continued ed courses for clinicians in South Carolina. And actually, after this discussion and we focus on some content, I am teaching a CEU for the next two hours. But, yes, this has definitely been a busy day.

And thank you, Michelle. That struggle was real. Life was life. And in that moment, just finished up at our local university talking about mental health with our football players. I'm hopping on with my family from Cadre and then teaching a ceu. But I am definitely taking in some self care this afternoon for me. So today I want to focus on personal growth, but I really want to hit on our ability to reflect and adjust, because generally, there is no day that's ever the same, no emotion ever the same, but being able to focus on what's working for us so we can be our true, authentic self.

So I'm going to ask you three questions that I definitely want you to reflect on. You know, if you are, you know, somewhere sitting down, and I'm sorry, if you hear the noise, there's some construction going on today. But definitely write down these three questions and if you're driving in your vehicle, definitely just listen. Unfortunately, no, but I'm responding to Luke. He asked if we were talking about the Gamecocks. I am a Gamecock by heart because my brother played football at the University of South Carolina with Sparky Woods, Raelyn and Brandon Bennett, Tannehill, Eric Sullivan, you know, when the roost was, you know, there.

And those were the good old days. But not that university, actually Costa Carolina University. That's who I've been speaking with the last couple of months about mental health, peak performance, resiliency and the importance of routine. And it was wonderful, wonderful, great group of students and we had a great time. But again, those three questions that I want you to think about, you know, what's working for you? What's draining you? So what is it that's not getting the best of you? And then am I aligned with the person that I am trying to become?

Is it based on my values? Is it based on my character? Is it based on those things that are important to me? When we talk about personal growth and when we think about reflection, it's not just about simple journaling. You know, it's thinking about your day and having those intentional check ins. And when I say those intentional check ins, it's not saying, okay, today's going to be a good day. You know, we think and we reflect. At the end of the day, what are five positive things that happen that day?

Because when we get to the end of the week, we're going to see there are, you know, 2015-20 positive things that happen that week when we feel like nothing went right. Were able to reflect on those quite those statements to know, hey, you know what? In that moment, I felt like nothing was going the way it was supposed to. But I also had to continue and maintain that sense of gratitude. One other thing I want you to think about is the power of adjustment for some of us when we talk about personal growth.

We're so used to that routine where sometimes it's hard for us to change and sometimes whenever we feel like we are changing, we take in that, that sense of failure as opposed to that sense of growth. So sometimes, you know, we talk about we outgrow people, places and things, but being okay with it, seeing it as not a failure, but realizing that we're evolving because, you know, the older we get, we outgrow people, we outgrow things in places. And it's not saying we're any better than they are just saying, hey, you know what, My goals are a little different than yours.

You know, when we see them, we speak to them, you know, simple conversations, and realize that, hey, it's okay, and we shouldn't have any inappropriate guilt if we outgrow people, places and things. You know, we take that as a growth moment. One other thing that I want you to implement on a daily basis before you go to bed, asking yourself and even writing down what's one thing that you are proud of that you did today? You know, it kind of aligns with those five positive things. So we, you know, I prefer five.

If you want to list one, that's fine. But I definitely am open to the five. And then I am so excited for tomorrow because that gets us excited for the next day. You know, we go to bed, we go to sleep, and we wake up knowing that, hey, there are some positive things that's going to happen the next day. So some takeaways that I want you to think about. Four things. Reflecting helps you check your direction. So whenever we reflect on our day, you know, I am so excited for tomorrow because we're asking ourselves again, is my personal growth, my activities aligning with my value and the person that I want to become?

When we think about adjusting, not thinking about that adjustment as a negative, but thinking of it as a personal growth moment. Also small changes. Oh, I love that. Speed Wonder, she attended a 6am Circuit training, and I love that because we can also allow that to become a part of our routine. A part of our routine, knowing what's coming, you know, when we talk about, I am so excited for today or tomorrow because, hey, speak. Wonder said, I attended a 6am Circuit training and I rocked it out. The small changes that we make lead to lasting growth.

A lot of times we hear individuals talk about that 1%. If we can make a 1% effort every day and keep building and keep building and keep building, that will definitely lead to that lasting growth. And then lastly, you don't have to get it perfect. You just have to keep showing up. Is there a sense of perfection? There's not. Sometimes when things work out, we're like, oh my gosh, that was perfect. In that moment, it happened to work out the way it needed to work out. So when we think about that word, perfection, to me it doesn't exist.

In that moment, we did the best we could with what we had. We were prepared. We had that mental blueprint of what needed to happen and it worked out. So when we again focus on the importance of personal growth. It's important that we reflect and that we adjust. And it may be something that we have to do on a daily basis, a weekly basis, monthly basis, but we're taking that moment as personal growth. Recognizing, hey, because I went through this does not have to determine who I am and where I'm going.

I'm going to reflect, I'm going to reset. I'm going to take that as a moment of personal growth and I'm going to bring my best every day. As always. Continue to be courageous, continue to have compassion, continue to build connections and be true to yourself. See you soon. And yes, I agree with you, Nikki. Sports can really help with aligning the mission and I am so happy to share. Increase that motivation, that drive, that ambition and allowing ourselves to be our best selves, even in those moments that we feel like we're not.

But letting that light shine and also recognizing your sense of self. So again, thank you all for joining and I will see you next Wednesday as we continue to grow as a family. Discussing personal growth.