JC explores the practice of enoughness, affirming that in this moment one is already capable of meaningful action while still pursuing growth. He frames Saturdays as personal development and discusses cultural pressures and habits for big dreams.
On Saturdays, we often talk about the idea of caring for ourselves in a developmental kind of way. On Saturdays, it is our personal development day. And it really is the formula for how Cadre accomplishes what it's attempting to do, and that is to help people feel better.
The idea of enoughness is affirming that you are already, indeed, in this moment, enough and capable of doing something pretty darn amazing. There are things in society that greatly impact your overall capacity to be well.
Having big dreams that don't have reality or scalable steps to them make you feel like a horrible person. How do you tackle big ideas and big dreams? Be more intentional and habits.
Amar, how do you tackle big ideas and big dreams? You ask yourself, are they aspirational? Do aspirational dreams and goals have a place in our world? Dan Griffin's coming up this afternoon in the live streams, but you can always find content right here in the Cadre sphere.
Good day, sunshine. Good day, sunshine. Good day, sunshine. I need to laugh. And when the sun is out, I've got something I can laugh about. I feel good in a special way. Good morning update Jules. Hey, Sarah. Nice to see you. Happy Saturday, y' all. All right, I'll hit the pause button. How are we doing today on this Saturday, y' all, I hope you are well. And if you're not, that is a okay as well. You're still worthy. You are still capable. You can throw anything you have into the world, and it will impact it in a positive way, because that's the beautiful thing about our energy.
Our energy creates and reflects and reminds others of the energy that they have and the capacity to. To. To do things that. That are meaningful. So, hey, my name is JC I'm glad I'm here. I'm glad you're here. I know what I know, and I care about you. Those 17 words are how we kick off Cadre today, every single day. And it really is the formula for how Cadre accomplishes what it says it's attempting to do, and that is to help people feel better. Speak wonder. Nice to see you. I didn't see a sneak on in.
So, on Saturdays, we often talk about the idea of caring for ourselves in a developmental kind of way. Sundays, we talk about caring for ourselves in a nourishment in being as good as we are right now kind of way. But on Saturdays, it is our personal development day. Mondays are professional development, thinking about how we do what we do better, and on Saturdays, how we do who we are better. I always kick things off with this idea of enoughness. The definition of enoughness and the way that I speak about it is the practice of affirming that you are already, indeed, in this moment, enough and capable of doing something pretty darn amazing.
It does not mean, hey, don't change. Hey, don't expect to grow or be better or to be different. No, it's actually the opposite of that. It's saying, rather than you having to become better in order to become better, right now, in your current state, you can do something pretty amazing. Yesterday I saw on the Instagram someone share this idea. They said, I'm paraphrasing a little bit. They said, wow, it's amazing how hard it is to. To have a mildly clean home and a mediocre physique. And I think it was meant to kind of self degrade and kind of poke fun at oneself.
But if you dig into that comment, it's amazing how hard it is to have A mildly clean house and a mediocre physique. Don't we often give status to ourselves and to others, by the way, we can make our world seem like everything is in place and perfect. Having clean house and having a body that looks socially and culturally acceptable, also known as skinny, those are the things that are the baseline culturally. Your house is always clean and you got six pack abs and you can run, run a mile and do a million squats.
And that's what culturally we have set as the baseline normative for being enough. And this person, who I do not know, they raised the point that it is really, really hard to have your house be clean. And to have a body that meets the standards that culture is selling you is first of all, potential and second of all relatively easy. If you just commit and have good habits and show up every day and never miss a Monday and be 1% better, yada, yada, yada, yada, yada. That's why this idea of enoughness is a good pair of glasses to look at the world through.
Look at how hard you work. Not like, oh, yeah, I guess I work pretty hard. No, like, think about how much you commit to the things that you do and the results that they create. You may go, yeah, I don't like the results. This may be one of those hard things that you're good at doing to go, you know what? I commit myself to doing the things I care about. We often talk about social determinants of health. Well, I do social determinants of health. In other words, there are things in society that greatly impact your overall capacity to be well.
Things include like, do you have a safe living environment? Do you have a grocery store in your neighborhood? Do you have transportation? Do you have support in caring for your children or your aging family members? All of these things change your capacity to go ahead and care for yourself and to be well. And in an ever changing world, these things are always changing for people. But I remember I did the first comprehensive research ever done on food, body and fitness shaming as part of this really wonderful team.
And we did a lot of qualitative research, so research that is based on people's conversational responses. So rather than being, it's three out of five, say this, but it's like, I feel this or here is my story. And there was this mother of two, single mother of two, who was going back to college and working two jobs, and she said something like, you know, at the end of the day, after I get home from my second job and I have homework to do. And I have to go ahead and make sure my kids do their homework and give them some love and play with them.
You know, at the end of the day, I just don't have the time to. To do xyz. And her whole statement was laden with guilt and shame, as if she wasn't doing enough. Single mother of two with two jobs, who's going back to college, and she's given herself a hard time that she's not acknowledging that she has the same 24 hours as everybody else, and that one hour is 4% of your day. And all these things that we're told that seem really simple, she's doing pretty, pretty amazing as a human being for herself and for others, for the world.
And yet the baseline that she was looking at her enoughness through was one that was skewered to this idea of your house should be clean and your body should be skinny. My invitation to you today and Jules. This is a great example. Jules says, my house looks lived in. I think that sounds like a beautiful house. I would even maybe call it a home. Live within your reality and the evidence that it provides that you are living a full life. If you want that perfectly clean home, make some sacrifices somewhere else.
If you want that, that culturally acceptable body, cool. Go ahead and make some changes and sacrifice something else. But realize when you sacrifice those other things, you may end up losing something that you actually care about more than that clean home or that skinny body. Amara says that's amazing. When going back to enoughness and balance, how do you tackle big ideas and big dreams? Be more intentional and habits. Well, the fun thing is, here's how enoughness works. It's a set of two questions.
The first question of am I capable? And if the answer is no, make the thing that you are considering smaller. So let's say Amar has a big dream of running a marathon today. If Amar goes, I can't run a marathon today, then the answer is no, you aren't capable of doing it. The end. Having big dreams that don't have reality or scalable steps to them make you feel like a horrible person. So a mar may go, you know what? I can't run a marathon today, but I can take my dog for a walk around the neighborhood.
Once you go, yes, I can do that. Then you ask the second question, and that is, so now what becomes possible? Yes, I can walk my dog around the neighborhood today. And then maybe I have a dog who would actually like jogging. So maybe over the next 100 days, I consider it's like, huh, you know what tomorrow is? Maybe the day that we jog 10 steps, me and my dog. And then maybe down the line, you go, now the answer to can I run a marathon today? The answer is yes. So what do you do? You run your marathon.
So, Amar, how do you tackle big ideas and big dreams? You ask yourself, are they aspirational? Aspirational is not rational. Do aspirational dreams and goals have. Have a place in our world? Oh, yeah, they do. They fill our cup. They. They make us see what may be possible. And then we can create the Gantt charts and the back patterns to go ahead and accomplish those things. But if we go, I need to do the thing now, most of the time, that's not you speaking. That's the world saying that you are not enough.
Speak. Wonder says, thank you for this reminder. I basically dwell in chaos, and I know where everything is. Yeah, but I mean. But again, speak, Wonder. Your statement contradicts itself. It's not chaos if you know where everything is. The world may see it as chaos. You go, this is my intentionality. This is my placement. So, again, speak. Wonder just gave a great example of us being in the space of going, ah, you're not doing it right. But then that little voice in your head saying, yeah, but I think I kind of am.
So no matter where you are, no matter what's going on today, I invite you to, if you ever go, wow, it's amazing how hard it is to do the things the world say. That should be easy. Give a big wink to the world and tell it to go somewhere else and then reset, recalibrate, and get living, y' all. So have a great Saturday. Dan Griffin's coming up this afternoon in the live streams, but you can always find content right here in the Cadre sphere. I will be back tomorrow morning, 8am to talk a little bit of thin space.
Peace, y' all. Good day, sunshine. Good day,
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