The Thin Space

Hey, good morning, Cadre. How are we doing today? My car seat is moved up nice and close to the steering wheel because I got a full load of equipment in my car today. So I'm a little bit closer to you than I normally am, literally, not figuratively. And I'm still on the other side of the screen. Isn't that the great thing about Cadre? We don't have to be close to be close. C Mercer, 900. How are you doing this morning, my friend? Amara. Nice to start another morning with you as well. Well, hey, I'm glad I'm here.

I'm glad you're here. I know what I know, Mafi, and I care about you. Those 17 words are how we kick off every single day right here in the Cadre sphere. I'm glad I'm here. I'm glad you're here. I know what I know, and I care about you. On Sundays, most of the time, we talk about in the live streams some perspective on caring for yourself, on doing those things that maybe culturally we think of as things we should keep secret, things that we shouldn't do too often. That self care is something that is only reserved for the holidays or the birthdays or the times when nothing else is going on, and that it should always be served up with a little scoop of shame or guilt or embarrassment that we're, God forbid, doing something for ourselves.

But then we look at every other species. You see species, you see beings, you see animals, you see things that have life doing things for themselves, and you also see them doing things for their mates and for their. For their babies. Right. It's kind of, I think, one of the things I love most about watching nature, you see. You see them do one of two things, them being other living beings. You see them either take care of themselves or take care of others. Why don't we do that publicly? Take care of others and more.

More so take care of ourselves. I have this family of bunnies that's living in the backyard. I have this kind of gaggle of ducks that I see when I walk the dogs around the neighborhood. And I just. No, Jess. I stop and I stare and watch these wonderful little creatures and everything they do. Like, I literally. This is how my process brain works. I watch them and I go, okay, right now, are they doing something for themselves or are they doing something for someone that they care about? It's always one of those two things where I think humans have a third category, and that is they worry and they ruminate and they stress over what they should be doing.

I've never seen a bunny go. They don't do it. They either go, hmm, I am cleaning myself or I am eating or I am resting or I am playing, or they go, I'm going to clean my brother and my sister. Or I'm going to go ahead and gather. Gather some food or gather some, you know, some. Some things for our. For our nest, for our bed, for the little place under the front bush in our house where they live. I think it's a really great reminder. Good morning, Jules. Hank. It's a great reminder for us that humans very rarely have.

Have things figured out in the. In the easy way, the best way, the. The realistic way. But we have lots of really great teachers, like the bunnies in the backyard or the ducks down the block. Today I invite you to do this exercise that I do. When I look at these little creatures that I share my plot of Earth with. Go ahead and stare at yourself and go, right now, am I doing something for myself or am I doing something for somebody else? And that third human category, or am I sitting here dwelling and ruminating and going, what should I be doing?

Oh, my gosh, I can't believe I'm doing this. Oh, my gosh. Tomorrow's Monday, and all of a sudden I, ah. Hey. Speak, wonder and assess how much time you spend any of those three things. Because you don't get any bonus points for doing everything for everybody else all the time. Actually, that normally turns you into a pretty awful version of yourself. If you are always doing everything for everybody else because you think that's where the prize is or because you need to. And then what do you need to do?

You need to work even harder to spend some time on not doing things for other people and. And refilling your cup. Otherwise you become that awful version of yourself. At the end of the day. It's that ruminating time that also sneaks away hours of our lives. Do something good for yourself. Do something good for somebody else. Let those be your options. Y' all have a good one. I will see you tomorrow morning. I got a really big, busy week of production ahead, and I got that lump in my stomach. But you know what I'm gonna be doing?

Spending time today, which is also very busy because we're already in production, even either focusing on doing stuff for other people or finding those moments where I can do something for myself. I hope you do the same. We'll see you later.