The Thin Space

Hey, there. Good morning, Cadre. How are we doing on this Sunday? It is Sunday today. I hope you're doing great, but if you're not, someone actually messaged me on Instagram yesterday saying, hey, how do you. How do you navigate the hard times? How do you. How do you keep seeing the good stuff amidst the bad stuff? And I shared with them one of my favorite quotes. It's funny, I only have, like, two or three quotes. Brittany. Good morning, my friend. Nice to see you. I only have a couple quotes that are always kind of that Rolodex front of mind.

And one of the ones is this. Bertolt Brecht was once asked the question, will there be singing in the dark times? And Bertold said, yes, there will be singing about the dark times. Hey, Jules, nice to see you. And I think that's a really good. A really good grounding place. We have outlets, output systems in our being that no matter what we got, is a fruitful kind of processing tool. And I think expression or emotion or music or art or whatever our equivalent of expression looks like is a really good apparatus we possess to deal with the stuff.

So if today is a good day, awesome. If today's a hard day, I invite you to use the things that you got to express to move the things that you got that you need to move and express. Say, I'm glad I'm here. I'm glad you're here. I know what I know, and I care about you. Every single Cadre today starts out that way. And in this month where, you know, we're focusing a lot on. On this concept of balance. Things that resonate when they resonate, lather those things on heavy, knowing that for everything normally there is a season.

Some things last a really long time, you know, for about a year. We kicked off Cadre today by saying, hey, I hope you're okay. Hope you're doing great, but if you're not, that's okay, too. That's very Cadre. And then all of a sudden, it was like, oh, here's a new really wonderful way that makes sense for how we should start off Cadre every day. And that is, I'm glad I'm here. I'm glad you're here. I know what I know, and I care about you. Those 17 words really are the formula for how this beautiful Cadre, this Cadre sphere, is formed.

So on Sundays, we talk a lot about the idea of caring for yourself. And while I most often talk about this idea of thin space, today, one of the concepts I often bring out makes a lot of sense in the month of balance. And it's this idea of lessishness. I love making up words. So let's break it down. Lessish L E S S I S H if I was going to ask you, are you more encouraged in this world, Sarah, to be selfless or to be selfish? If you're going to say which of those two things you're more encouraged to be, does the world try to make you into being a more selfless person or a more selfish person?

I will say trick question alert. Trick question alert. You know, your brain maybe ran a couple of different places there. Maybe your brain went, well, I know what the world tries to get me to do, but I know what feels more like the right answer or, you know, and all of a sudden we go, yeah, but actually both of these things are. Are kind of intertwined. They work together. But it's one of these questions. Yeah, like Sarah said, Sarah didn't only say selfless. Sarah said selfless. Of course. Yeah.

We live in a world where what is noble is to always give of ourselves. Give, give, give, give, give, give, give. How does that normally end up making you feel? Maybe then the pendulum swings the other side. It's like, you know, I always think about everybody else first, and that's made me into, you know, unhealthy or unhappy person. So I'm going to put myself first and we go to the other side. But here's the deal. If we aren't balanced in our selfish and our selfless acts, we lose our self. Let's play the linguistic game here.

If you remove self from selfless, you're left with less, right? Remove the self, you're left with less. What happens if you always give of yourself? You don't have anything left to give. We know those people who continue to give, yet they become hollow shells of themselves. They become reactive, they become cold. What about if we remove ourself from the selfish self? Take it off, we're left with ish. Ish. Well, we're not supposed to be selfish. Selfish is a bad thing. So what do we normally do when we're doing something good for ourselves?

Something that's innately designed to fill us up, to make us strong. We hide ourselves. We wrap ourselves in shame or guilt, or we try to over explain why we're doing something good for ourselves. But if you remove yourself from selfless, and if you remove yourself from selfish, we're left with less. And ish. Those seven letters, less. Ish. Who's felt less ish? Before because they burn out. They hide from when they're trying to fill their tank. My invitation for you today on this self care Sunday in this month of balance is to go ahead and really consider.

Do you have stuff in your tank that you can give? Give it. Is your tank empty and you need to go ahead and lather yourself in self that you need to give yourself stuff? Do it. Yeah, right. And full of herself is hardly a compliment. Exactly right. All of a sudden, if we are empty, we feel like that's the. That's the badge of honor. If we are a hollow shell, we feel like now we've done enough. But in reality, it's cyclical. We need to go ahead and place ourselves in spaces where we go, huh? I need to give right now or I need to receive right now.

Less ish is the worst made up word of all time because it hits so hard. So for each of you today, how can you refrain from becoming less ish? Nourish yourself in the moments of being selfless. Dive into that big beautiful pool of selfish and give yourself what you need. Y' all have a good one. We'll see you later.