Ufff. I Feel Out Of Balance (again).

Foreign. Hope everyone is having a good week. So far. It has been cloudy all week here in Minnesota. Such an interesting summer solstice, to say the least. So was gonna see. Here we go. Hi, Amar. Hi, Anila. Hi, Mavi. Wow. Got a lot of people coming on in. Jules. Yep. Hello. Good afternoon. Good to see everyone. Sorry, my dogs are, of course, as soon as I put on a video, they want to, like, play all of a sudden. So if you hear some background noise, it's dogs being joyful with one another, so. Hi.

Speak wonder. Well, happy Friday. Wanted to continue our talk on balance and what it's like when you're just like, oh, my gosh, really, I'm. I'm out of balance again. I'm here. Come on. You know, can be kind of frustrating. And I love Erie pa. My. My mom is traveling to meet my aunt there today, actually, so she's an Erie PA right now. Yes. Joyful dogs are the best dogs. Oh, my gosh. And they. My dog helps me when I'm imbalanced so much. Helps bring me to balance, bring me to life, bring me to joy.

Yeah, Nikki, I'm with you. I. I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling out of balance today. And I. I feel a little bit of the same way. I was like, oh, man, what am I going to talk about when I don't feel imbalanced? But that means I have a lot to talk about. It's the reminder that balance and out of balance all the time is a roller coaster. Yes. That is so true. And it's a reminder that balance is a practice. Balance is a practice right. Of. Of letting go, of bringing on, of saying no, knowing when to say yes.

You're. You're falling off, you're getting. You're recalibrating. You get back on the horse, you know, and it is a roller coaster. You're. It's. It's. Life's always got its ups and downs, and our bodies, we're not going to be in complete homeostasis all the time. That's just not realistic. And our minds are going to be a little spastic or neurotic sometimes more than others. And it's part of learning to adapt to this practice of knowing when you're in balance and knowing how to get back on. And so last.

Last night, my mind was just extra yappy, just like, going, going, going. And I'm just like, oh, my goodness. Like, just breathe, let go. And like, we've. We. I've been here before. I know what it's like, I don't love this feeling. But you know what? It's. It's just. It's too much and work burnout. Yes, Jules, I totally feel that I. It's. Thank God it's Friday, right? Like, I just feel like my brain is fried from doing too much. And I know that that's why my mind was just. And maybe some of yours.

You get that way when you're just kind of overworking and not really giving yourself enough solo time or self care or nourishment. And so last night, that was my. My reminder of like, okay, I've been here before. Boy, this is really increased. Wow. I must have not taken care of myself. Where did my self practices go? And so I reflected on the week and I was like, oh, yeah. I. Way overworked and way under. Under served myself. Right? I did not deliver to myself some of the things that I should have.

And so, you know, I wanted to feel better. And so I was like, well, okay, I notice that I'm imbalanced right now and that I need to kind of get it together. Otherwise I probably won't sleep very well because that happens a lot when my mind's yappy. And so I just laid. I came home, I went to an event. It was an amazing event, met some people, but again, it was another thing where I was on, right. Like, it wasn't work, but I was still on and came home, I laid down and I put my legs up the wall and I just like, kind of breathed, put some soft music on, and I just did it for like 10 minutes because I was like, I don't have enough time.

Like, I have so much to do. Right? Right. But I just told myself, I can do. I can do something for myself for 10 minutes and then I will go back and I tell you that 10 minutes was so helpful just to like, I still didn't sleep very good. And that was like, it still. It. It wasn't perfect, but I felt like at least like 4% better. And so that helped. And like, 4%'s better than no percent. And so I tried and I told myself, no, I'm not going to watch tv. And that was part of me serving myself as well as putting legs up the wall.

But it's. It's just the energy is very right now, I think, just in the world in general. Everything's kind of up in the air. Everyone's waiting. Everyone's just a little insecure, right? And so it's. It's good to do what you need to do for that. And I served myself yesterday by saying no to something. Yes. Heck, yeah. I am right there with you. I am guilty of saying yes too much. And the worst is when you say yes to something and then it's in the future. And then when the day comes and you're like, I have no energy left for this.

And so sometimes we have to say no to that. But sleep in the afternoon when I'm on balance and wake up late in the day or late at night. Yeah, sleep is like. Sleep is a tough one because sometimes it can keep you feeling refreshed and you're like, you know what? I do need a nap right now. You know, and sometimes you go in, you take a nap, and you wake up and you're like, I shouldn't have done that. Now I'm groggy now. You know, it's. I think it's finding what is right for you. Like if you know that 20 over 20 minutes of a nap is going to be too much and you're going to feel groggy, then that's probably too much, you know, put a limit on that, you know, and just saying no, knowing what, what your things are.

So I know that putting my legs up the wall and deep breathing automatically gets me to calm down. It gets my mind to calm down. And so it's important to find those things that help you. It's going to be different for everybody. Yours won't look like mine, mine's not going to look like Speak wonders. It's just not going to be the same thing. But I would say, like, know when you're in a good state, like the next time when you feel complete, like bliss, balance, harmony in your body and in your mind.

Take note. That is your pulse star. That is what your, like, best feeling version of yourself is. And so when you know that part of you really well, you'll be able to catch when you veer off and slowly trickle into the imbalance zone. And then once you know that you're there, you do you find those things that help you. Even if it's only 4%, even if it's only 1%, you, you, you come back in and it's not gonna be perfect. And sometimes we have to live in balance for a little while so that when we come back to balance, we can be like, oh, yeah, you appreciate it more.

Right? Like if we were in balance all the time, balance, we wouldn't need it. Right? Like, we need to veer off. We need to try things. We. We need to also Challenge our bodies and stuff too. And not that I. I should take that back just because, like, I feel like in this day and age, we're getting extra challenged with everything all the time, so we'll see. But my point is, is that, like, focus on what that state is for you so that when you're off of it, you can start to take note. Okay, maybe scrolling is really not helping me stay imbalanced.

Maybe my jaw starts to clench up or you start to have physical symptoms when you're, like, slowly starting to get imbalanced. I know my body's tired. My nose starts to drip, and I'm like, oh, man, I'm doing too much right now. Everyone has different things that happens, or you'll start to get tight in your shoulders or something like that, but usually your body will give you some nudges. My physical therapist always used to say, listen to the body's whispers before it screams. And so I highly recommend, like, staying knowing your pulse star and then listening to your body as you come back.

Try to come back into balance. But sometimes, if you want, like, sometimes you just got to feel the gunk. Right? We're going through a bad time. Something really hard and difficult happened in our lives. We have to feel that too. And so honor. Honor whatever space you need to give yourself for that. And. But don't live in it, right? Like, let's. Let's use the tools we have to try to. To try to get back and some of those tools. Sometimes it's saying no. Sometimes it is sleep. Right? We just need to sleep and just cool down and calm our system.

Sometimes it's eating a bunch of strawberries because it's. They're so good. Right? Or watermelon. I had the most delicious watermelon the other day, and I was just like, oh, my goodness, yes. Like, this is helping me. I feel it, like, brought me back to life. It was awesome. And so it's gonna look different every day, but it's. It's. It's a fun and difficult journey at the same time. And so know that I know when I'm a little extra chatty or I'm just not feeling right. Talking to somebody really helps my friends, my mom, my therapist.

Cadre. We now have coaching here. Yay. Like, you can literally book direct coaching appointments right through the app. And there's so many resources just within Cadre alone, but also just the community and the chat here. Like, learning to say no to others to isolate your mental health. Yeah. That is. Saying no is so powerful, especially As a recovering people pleaser myself, Speak Wonder. I've been there and I still struggle with it, to be honest. But there is resources just like what you're on today, just like your friends or family.

And I will say that there's a big community out there that we don't even know yet and that we haven't touched the surface of. And so putting yourself out there and being vulnerable about your struggles too is really important. And not just in this platform, but just going out in the world and like introducing yourself to somebody that's waiting in line in the grocery store or something. Or you just never know where you're going to meet somebody and maybe make their day. And so being imbalanced isn't just about you, right?

It's about when we're in balance. We're going to serve the world and the people that we interact with better. Also when we're in balance, we're going to feel better and do that. But we can help others when we're not imbalanced or when they're not imbalanced. I think I talked about it last week or the week before, like if someone's imbalanced this week and you're not, hopefully can help lift you up and vice versa, maybe, maybe it's not your day to day and you need them and hopefully we can help each other balance out.

You know, overall, I love you Cadre family. Yeah, love the, the shout outs here, the RPP to all my recovering people pleasers. I feel you. Big N O to you because you can speak it, you can be it and you can say that to people without feeling guilty. That being said, I'll leave you with a question of. So it's been a month now we've been talking about balance and I'm curious as to like what shifts you may have made or any like breakthroughs or anything that any contributor has said that has just really stuck with you.

I would love to hear that if you want to put it in the comments and. Or just something that you're working on imbalancing in your life. I know that I really liked the Artist's Way talk the other day. That was really great. Gene had a really good authenticity one and Speak Wonder. I only made it to one of yours and I had to leave early so. But there's so many great contributors on here and yeah, I just want to leave you with yin and yang, be in balance and leave a comment of, of what struck you and what you're working to balance.

I know that everyone would Would love to hear it. But with that I will definitely. Let's. Sorry, just reading the comment here. Unbalanced, imbalance. But I've been getting better. Yeah, I love that. Yeah. Yes. It's better than just being. I will say the oscillations are better than being stuck. Right? Like, you don't want to stay stuck. It's best to move like we are. What's the saying? A shark that's. Shark keeps swimming. It has to keep swimming or it dies. And I. I think humans are the same way.

Like, we have to. We have to move. Not necessarily physically, but shift. We ebb and flow. And so not feeling stuck and not being anxious is always, always good, especially when you have an outlet. So great to hear about that. Vulnerability, balance. Yeah, that's awesome. I will watch that talk then, Nikki, since you spoke so highly of it, but I've been to a couple of speak wonders and I know that they're great. So. So opening your heart. Grief is in your body and it needs to move. Yeah. And grief is so hard because it comes in waves and it'll just come like that too.

So it's. It's never, never easy. And. And sometimes we can't move, right? We just want to sit on the couch and eat potato chips and watch a rom com. Like, I definitely had those, those moments in my life. I'm not ashamed to admit it. So whatever we have to do, it's going to be different for everybody. But I hope that this whole month has helped you find some aspect of balance and that you continue to stay with us for next month. Really excited to dive into that, but hope everybody has a great weekend.

And yes, be brave and allow yourself to have some chips that are some good, good ones out there. Some good, healthy ones too. So be brave, stay straight, stay moving, and do your best to. To be imbalanced. Hope everyone has a lovely weekend. Bye. And thank you all so much for your contributions in the chat today. Loved all the chats. You guys are awesome.