Host reflects on grief and balance after Juneteenth, noting the long summer day, sharing two friends’ perspectives—grief as evidence of love and moving forward with grief—and offering a brief balance exercise.
For many of you it's a one day work week just beginning after the Juneteenth holiday yesterday. Today also is the longest day of the year, I do believe. If you're in Michigan, get ready for a really, really long day.
On Fridays, we often talk about a rather polarizing, unbalanced experience. The experience of loss. How can we add some balance into the way that we move through the inevitable phase of grief? If you are in a state of grief, I'm sending you energy and love.
There are times and seasons for all stages of the process of grief. When you can get to a place where you can tell the story of what is happening to you or through you, there's potential healing. I hope you find some lightness amidst the heaviness.
Hey, good morning Cadre. How are we doing today? How are you? How are you? How are you? I hope you're doing well, I really do. It is Friday for many of you it's a one day work week just beginning after the Juneteenth holiday yesterday. If it feels good to know that your start line and finish line for the week is on the same day, bravo. This week is felt never ending for you. And maybe yesterday wasn't a holiday. Guess what? You're still doing it. I'm really glad that I'm here. I'm really glad that you are here.
I know what I know and I care about you. Today also is the longest day of the year, I do believe. And I'm in Michigan, which I just found this out yesterday. Let me know if you knew this Henry Ford like of Ford Motors cars requested back in the day that Michigan be in the same time zone as Wall Street. Because I've always wondered anytime I travel to Michigan why it's in the eastern time zone because it definitely ain't very east. And it's because Henry Ford with his power and privilege convinced the government to let it be in the Eastern time zone.
So I say that because when it's 10pm in June in Michigan, the sun's still up. So by golly, if you're in Michigan, get ready for a really, really long day. Update. How are you doing? I hope you're great. Well hey, I'm glad I'm here. I'm glad you are here. I know what I know and I care about you. That's how we start off this journey here in the Cadre sphere every single darn day. If we've never shared time and space together before, thank you for the opportunity to spend some time with you right now.
It truly is a g We've been talking a lot about balance this month in our pre recorded content, in the community feed and here in the live streams. But on Fridays, we often talk about a rather polarizing, unbalanced experience. And that is the experience of grief. The experience of loss. So how can we add some balance into the way that we move through the inevitable phase of grief? Something I share every Friday is two thoughts from two of my nearest and dearest friends. First of all, Kelly Grosclogs says that grief is the evidence of love, right?
So if you love, you will grieve. Kelly also says we love for a lifetime, we grieve for a part of it, right? So in other words, grief enters the story, but love never leaves it. Second, friend Nora McInerney always talks about how we don't move on from grief. We don't, like, get done with grief and then go, okay, now I'm ready to be in my post grief phase. No, we don't move on from grief. We move forward with grief. So if you are in a state of grief, I'm sending you energy and love because we know that it often helps when you know that there are people who are thinking about you, not just in states of grief, but these states of highs and lows and all the things.
Matthew, nice to see you, my friend. Here's a little bit of balance exercise in the grief space and I'll share it in terms of, of change of life grief. I have a friend who, within one calendar year, and it was the year 2024, went through the last chapters of a breast cancer story and then got smacked around by a very major newspaper with some work and research that I worked on with them. And then they got thrown around by their job after coming back from medical leave with breast cancer and ended up not having that job anymore and then went into the new job search phase.
That was 2024. Four really big hits. The loss of normal life due to cancer, the loss of passion project because of slander, the loss of job because of that stuff, and then having to lose kind of your sanity when you go into a new job search. Well, we caught up yesterday and they spent a little bit of time telling their story, post the story, the chapter of the story finishing, and they spoke without breathing. They just went at it, telling what happened and how it happened and how it felt and so on and so forth.
And there's something really cathartic about that moment. I'll use the word healing, but not like, oh, look, it healed. But healing as in, it was progressive, it was positive. And then we went on with our day. There are times and seasons for all stages of the process of grief. Times to talk about it, times to not talk about it, times to be rational, times to be irrational, times to have hope, times to be hopeless, time to be forgiving and loving, and times to be p***** off. Hey, junk food junkie.
Nice to see you, my friend. Yesterday was one of those moments where the story had to be told as part of the I'm holding it in and I'm letting it out. But also within this storytelling from the past, how often do we hear the, you know, hindsight's 20 20, I'll say this. When you can get to a place where you can be far enough removed in the timeline that you can tell the story of what is happening to you or through you. There's some potential healing there, some potential to let elements or fragments of it go to go.
Now I'm ready to move forward. A little bit lighter, wherever you are. What's going on today? I hope you find some lightness amidst the heaviness. There's your balance. Y' all have a great rest of your day. I'll see you soon. Ah, come on, come on. There we go. The button ain't working. All right, have a good one, y' all.
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