Live w/ Dr.Charryse 🧠: “Rewiring Limiting Beliefs”

Hello, cardio sphere. It is another day, another opportunity just to support yourself. I think that's always so important for us to remember. How are you today really? Right. That's a true question. I'm always going to check in to see how you're doing and I want to give you an opportunity to be really honest about how you're doing, what you're noticing and what you need. In the Mindset Matters journal that I created, one of the primary things that I often do will be to ask yourself, what do I want to experience?

I want you to think about that. How am I doing really? What do I need and what do I want to experience? Those are anchoring questions that I want to invite you to answer today as you rate yourself for the week. One meaning the week is working. You, you're now working the week and. And 10, meaning you are having a fantabulous week given the context of your life. So come in, let me know how your week is going. Let me know where you are in the world and answer one of those questions. What do you need?

How are you really? And what do you need to experience? I will say for myself this week, sleep was a challenge. So I probably need a little bit more, which is a big thing for me to say. Cause I don't really love to sleep, but it's true. But if I had to rate my week overall today, well, you know what, if I take my week overall, let me be honest and transparent, I would say it's probably like a two and that's being nice. But it's rising and I'm confident that it will be better later. Good morning, Georgia.

Good morning, Erie, Pennsylvania. By the Harvard speak Wonder Andrea and all of those who are joining, it's so wonderful to see you. We've been talking this month a lot about just freedom and kind of what that looks like in different contexts of our lives. So one of the areas I want to focus on today is rewiring your limiting beliefs. And oh, let me say this, I try to make sure I do this on a regular basis. I don't always. If this is your first time on a live, I'm so glad that you chose to come and show up in this space.

I'm here twice a week and all are welcome. You're always welcome with your listening to this live in the replay. And more than anything, and I say this to all of you, Jamie, way to go with having an eight week and having great weekend plans coming. I want to encourage your participation. It's very easy for Us to want to be listeners. And I know some of you may be taking notes, but I also want to remind you to make sure that you are participating in your own healing in your own life. Because as humans, we can be significant collectors of information and then not always apply the things that we here.

So that being said, let's get into today. Opening quote. A belief is not your identity. It's a memory of a meaning you gave to a moment and you're allowed to change the story. Oh, I love that. I feel like I could just stop right there. I'm gonna say it again. You're. A belief is not your identity. It's a memory of a meaning you gave to a moment and you are allowed to change the story. It is so important for us to recognize that there are beliefs that we need to set ourselves free from in order for us to continue to experience life in a way that is healthy, in a way that is positive, in a way that is adaptive.

Meaning that you're not stuck in the same patterns of thought. Because when we have an unhelpful or unhealthy thought and we allow it to replay in our mind, it creates this imprint and can become really harmful to us. I was actually having a discussion with someone the other day and they were talking about their experiences with trying to take care of their health. And one of the things that they mentioned was because it's been a big challenge for them and something that's happened back and forth in their lives where they felt like they were successful and then non successful, they had this belief in their mind that I'm just going to fail.

And as a result of that, then it made it difficult to even try or to believe or hope for better. Because the limiting belief that was there was I'm going to fail. Of course we had some conversation, we were able to work through some things and really open that up to remind this person that if you constantly tell yourself something that limits your ability to grow and to change and to be more, then it's going to hold you back. And then you can waste a lot of time being filled with regret or being filled with thoughts that will kind of choke out what life could have for you.

And we don't want that for you. All right. So one of the most powerful aspects of being mentally fit, your health and well being, are your beliefs and how to break those mental chains of limiting beliefs that are not there. So here's something that I want you to consider. Early narratives, or yeah, that's true. Early narratives shape your Current behavior, meaning a lot of our ways of thinking started when we were growing up. And so of the beliefs that really hold us tightly often started in our early environments, in childhood, in culture, in family systems, or in trauma.

I'm not going to ask you, of course, to pull up something that was that damaging, but I do want you to answer this question for me. If you're comfortable. Can you think of an early belief, things that have happened to you early in life and early depends on how old you are that you know, because of this experience or this conversation or this incident, it shows up in the present. Right. Has that ever been a part of what you've noticed? And so I don't want you to out yourself too much. If this is something that you've experienced, just pop in the chat and say, I have.

Right. You don't have to give detail. But again, I want you to take a moment and pause and go, where am I in that dynamic? Have I ever stopped and recognized that a lot of the things or some of the things that I believe that cause an issue or pop up, things I think about myself or other people, are a direct result of things that I have experienced early in life? Speak wonder. Thank you. And it is incredible if you are able to know those moments. That is very helpful. But of course, you know, this is a space that we want to be welcoming and vulnerable, yet private.

So I would never ask you to pour those things into the chat. But it's important to recognize that. So these narratives become mental default settings, and they tell us who we are, what we think we're capable of, and what we're worthy of. And so they'll often sound like, I always mess things up. People like me don't get ahead. I can't change who I am. Here's a big one. This always happens to me. Now, truly, always is a big word and rarely true. But when we have experienced something over and over and over and over and over again, it's going to feel that way.

But I hear that one a lot. When these beliefs are there, what happens is they get wired into the basal ganglia. This forms automatic patterns like our subconscious software. So our brains prioritize efficiency over accuracy. So these beliefs, if we don't challenge them, become our perceived truth. Next question for you. This one's a little bit deeper. You can decide whether or not you want to answer it in the chat or to yourself. How is the health of your perceived truth right now? Are you perceiving yourself through a lens of hope and health, or do you recognize that you're currently perceiving yourself through a lens of hurt and pain.

Again, you decide what, how you want to respond. But there can be two distinct places. Now, don't get me wrong, we might have areas in our life where we are hopeful and feel healthy, and then we have other areas of our life where there's still a lot of hurt and pain. But I just want you to think in general, what is the nature of your self perception so that you can kind of decide, man, how does that need to be guided along the way? So here's two reflection questions that I want you to be able to use as you go throughout the rest of the week, the rest of the month.

What's one belief about yourself that feels like it's always been there? Right. What's one belief about yourself that feels like it's always been there? This is a really great question. If you don't have an automatic answer somewhere, really great for, you know, something really great for you to process. Love your responses. Yeah, Hurt and pain, but working towards help and hope somewhere in the middle. Hope and struggle on some days. Yeah. And little infusions. It's never all one way or the other, but helpful to realize.

All right. Second part of that reflection question is who or what taught you that? What's one belief about yourself that feels like it's always been there? And who or what taught you that? Now, typically I would go through and give us a bunch of techniques to disrupt them and a call to action and all the things. But I want to pause right here because I don't want to rush through this process out of today. Where I really want you to kind of land is to take some time, take inventory, and write down a few of the limiting beliefs that you recognize that you're carrying.

Then identify who or what taught me. Now, you might start off with identifying something that happened in the present, but I also want you to know that a lot of times what we think about ourselves in the present is attached to something that happened in the past or reoccurrence. Write those things down, put them in a voice note, or put them on a note on your phone, however you're comfortable. Because I want us to use those when we reconnect next Wednesday. And then I'll give you a few more techniques to disrupt those limiting beliefs.

All that being said, back to our original quote, I want you to hear it one more time. A belief is not your identity. It's a memory of a meaning you gave to a moment I could even add. It's a memory of a meaning that someone else gave you in a moment, but you are allowed to change the story and that's the piece. If you remember nothing that I want you to carry as you move throughout the rest of the week. If you notice yourself feeling a certain kind of way or speaking to yourself in a way that is harmful, I want you to remind yourself I am allowed to change the story, right?

You get to write and to conjugate and to decide what you believe as you go throughout the week. Please take care of yourself. Please be reminded that you are important, that you are valuable, and that you are human. Which also means that you don't have to be perfect and it doesn't benefit you in any way to limit yourself in life because you have great purpose and the world would not be the same without you. Thank you for joining me today. I hope you heard at least one thing that will encourage you or something that will support you as you support yourself and I look forward to connecting with you very soon.

Have a good one. It.