Live w/ Dr.Charryse 🧠: “Giving yourself Permission To Grow”

I hope you can hear me. Let me try to scoot this a little bit closer. I am currently in Paris, France, at a conference. However, our time is important. This will get a little quieter shortly, but I still wanted to make sure that I took some time to come and to reconnect with all of you as we do each week. As you come into this time time, please let me know where are you? How are you feeling? It's a little early to rate your week, so instead, I want you to consider what are some of the intentions that you have set for this week?

What do you mean? What are you looking forward to? And of course, where in the world are you? It is super fun, right, for me to be like, oh, I'm in Paris. I wish I could let you see more. The place that I am in is incredible. I'm here speaking specifically about navigating uncertainty, but also health equity and the whole dynamic of how do we make sure that we continue to give ourselves great access to the things that we need. We're moving into a new theme for this month. It is July, and the theme that we want to focus on.

Hello. Not in Paris. I know, I know. I finally win the competition. Maybe, maybe for being in coolest place. No, wherever you are is great. Good morning, New Jersey. Great to see you. The theme for this week is freedom, which, of course, being a July baby myself, an independence baby. I love it. But it really is a significant dynamic and something that I feel like we talk about very cliche and we don't always put together how freedom is such a crucial dynamic to your mental health and, well, being.

Right. And so I want you to think about that. I want you to consider what's an area. Let me know this. What's an area in your life where you have worked to experience more freedom? Tell me that first. So it could be physically, it could be financially, it could be with your health, could be with your wellness. Maybe not. I would say in my own life, freedom is a constant journey. It's a constant process. But specifically, some of you will get this. I've had to learn to give myself permission over time to be free to choose what honors what my body needs.

And I say that because I grew up in a culture and a family setting that was very much finish every piece of food on your plate, eat what's in front of you. I was not taught that you could sit down and ask for what you need. So I always felt like whatever was put in front of me, whether I liked it or not, whether I was Allergic to it or not, that being kind to other people meant just eat it all, even though it came at my expense. And again, if you're not someone who deals with struggles and autoimmune dynamics, that can be a challenge.

But it actually takes a lot of courage to say, no, thank you. That's not for me. I cannot have that. Even though people are pushing. And even as I travel, one of the big pieces that I've had to learn and give myself permission to free myself from is not asking for the accommodations that I need. Right. So people will ask, hey, do you have any allergies? What do you need? I feel like the world is better with that than they used to be. But showing up in spaces and choosing to continue to operate in ways that allow you to continue to experience health and well being in your body, it's a big one.

I'm looking at some of you that are talking about the clean plate club as well that you can relate to pouring into yourself. Yeah, I really want you to think about that before I go any further. Where have you already started working to free yourself from a habit, from a thought, from a negative mindset, whatever it may be. And then I want you to consider this. I want you to create your personal definition of freedom. I love that, Audrey. Freedom to authentically live into God's call of my life. Yeah, no, not vague at all.

It's as much as you need it to share. And all that matters is that you know what it's like. Again, I think freedom is this cliche dynamic that we don't often consider. But I really want us over the next month to spend a lot of time parsing it out. But I want you to start with creating for yourself your personal definition of freedom. And I want you to think about what is your family taught you, what is your faith taught you, about what it means to be free and what it it's not. What are your goals and morals and how does that align with the level of freedom that you desire?

Because what you might find is that you really don't know how to define it. What you might think is or realize is that you've spent a significant amount of your time really focused on meeting the needs and expectations of other people. But at the same time, there might be a level of self abandonment there. And we'll talk a lot about self abandonment little bit later on in the month. But I want you again to really consider what areas of your life have you already incorporated some level of freedom, and you're walking in that or Working through it.

What is your personal definition of freedom? And I don't typically give you out of session work, but I am going to give you that and ask you to come back with it. Or if you're listening on play and you want to come back, you can do that because you cannot experience something that you cannot envision. And if you remember nothing else, that's what I want you to keep in mind. If you do not envision, what does operating in your level of authenticity and autonomy and agency look like, then that's when we spend a lot of time just working to be what everyone else wants.

You might even want to split that definition up. You might want to look at what does it mean to operate in a level of freedom financially? What does that look like for you physically, what does that look like for you mentally? And what does that look like for you spiritually? You can have an over encompassing definition. But then if you are struggling to really elaborate, I want you to think about how that shows up in different areas of your life. I want to leave you with a few signs that you are not operating in a level of freedom, or you may be, what's the word I want to say, Smothering the level of freedom that you have.

If you find that it's difficult for you to make decisions with you in mind, that is an example of operating from a mindset that is not rooted in freedom. If you are extremely fearful of what others may think about who you are and how you show up in the world, then that may also be an example that you're not experiencing the highest level of freedom that you possibly can. If you also recognize that there are areas and parts of your life where you are avoiding dealing with those areas because they're overwhelming, because you don't know where to start, that's another example of where you may benefit for some freedom.

And then the last piece that I want you to consider is where is your own thought life in the way of the freedom that you could experience? So what are the mindsets, what are the narratives that you're still operating off of? And as a result of operating off of those beliefs and mindsets, you put yourself into a spiral. You might ruminate, you might begin to feel anxious. It can be a number of different things. But I genuinely want you to consider what are those places where you know, hey, it's my own personal mental roadblocks that is limiting the amount of freedom that you can experience.

Right? That's going to be enough to get you started. Here's my call. To action or challenge for you this week. As you go through the week, I really want you to start your day and ask yourself, what does it look like to walk in freedom today? Your mind will automatically tell you where that needs to go. It's up to you. There's no right or wrong, but every single day I want to invite you. Never tell you what to do. Just an invitation to wake up and ask yourself, what would it look like to walk in freedom today?

Now, because it is today, one o' clock here in Paris, do you already have something that you can share with us for just accountability and support? Is there a specific area for you that you already know today that you doing XYZ would allow you to walk in freedom? I am already working on mine, which is just, again, to continue to be in this space. But I'm also giving myself permission to take time away from this space and the busyness of the space, to restore and then to come back and know that I don't always have to be out in the middle of everything.

But I want you to really practice walking in freedom. But first look at where you're already doing that work. Be proud of yourself there. Identify your personal definition of freedom. What does that look like in your life for you? Not based on what other people think. And then asking yourself over the next few days, until we reconvene, what does freedom look like for you and how can you walk in that today? All right. So, so good to pop in. I know this is probably the shortest live that I will ever do.

I have so many amazing things that I want to share with you over the next month, and we will get into all of that very soon. As always, thank you for being here. Oh, I love that, Audrey. Taking a slower morning to have the energy for the afternoon. Yeah, managing your energy is a big deal. It's a very necessary thing. All right, let me get out of here before security comes. No, they're not going to come kick me out. But we're getting ready to start back in for the afternoon. Have a wonderful, wonderful day.

See you soon.