Cadre Today

Hey, good morning, Cadre. How are we doing today? I hope you are well. I do. I really, really do. Because feeling not well is kind of. Kind of something you never get used to. Let me say it differently. You may get used to not feeling great, but it's never a feeling that. That gets easier to. To navigate. Andy, Smz, Amar, Mafi, Speak, Wonder. Marisa, Nice to see y'. All. Hey, Shannon, Nice to see everybody this morning. I'm glad that I'm here. I'm glad that you're here. I know what I know and I care about you, y'.

All. If, if anything, having those consistent reminders, actually not jazzy spiked hair, but depressed, rolled out of bed, don't have the energy to fix it here. And feeling okay to say that out loud. Isn't that divine? Hey, you see a lot of our friends who are clinicians in the, in the mental health and human care space that jump into the live streams on Wednesdays. Today's a really good day to go ahead and spend some time with individuals who swim in this world from a care space. So if livestream is your deal, that's a really, really a good way to focus your week, right?

We have layers and layers on how we kind of do our programming, right? All month, you'll hear contributors weaving in ideas of liberation and freedom and moving away from things that, that don't serve. But also you can kind of see where people fit into the live stream schedule. On Wednesdays, you get a lot of people who, who exist by, by profession in the space of caring for people's mental health. But if you go, gosh, that's not really what I'm. What I'm jiving with today. Join a community, right?

You have those three little lines up in the corner. You can go ahead and find a community on a specific topic or a community around a specific contributor. Or if you're like, hey, I just need to share some thoughts and share some words, jump into the community feed and add your own vibration to the Cadre sphere today. And then, of course, every single morning, you got a little Cadre today. Whether you're here for your first time or you're here for your millionth time, this is an opportunity to level, set and go, huh?

So what's going on right now? So no matter where you are, no matter what's going on, like, look in the chat, see names flying in, see people saying hey to one another, people who know each other, people who are saying hello to everybody, and also those people who aren't saying anything the people who maybe you see their name pop up, but they don't, they don't comment in. They're here too. There's not one way to do the Cadre thing as a reminder, right. A Cadre is a special group of people with a special intention.

What is the special intention that this group of people holds? That we're all attempting to navigate this life in order to maybe feel a little bit better. This morning when I woke up and I didn't do my hair and you know what, Speak, wonder. I don't feel like I'm styling today. I appreciate, as always, your positivity, I appreciate your emojis, but I'm feeling kind of not super great today. And as I was kind of stumbling around this morning, I thought about the creation feels like in the last, especially in the last 10 years.

But it started entering the conversation even before that, the idea of a mental health day. And we heard it and we saw people kind of leaning into the idea of going, you know, I don't need to have a cold, I don't need to break my ankle in order for me to take some time, take some time to do different or take some time to not do. And I invite you to think, what are those things that you allow yourself to take time for? I'm reminded of a TED talk by a gentleman named Guy Wench. And Guy talks about a time that he went to his friend's house for dinner.

And while his friend was making dinner and you know, Guy was sitting in the living room, Guy saw his friend's small child get ready for bedtime. This small child, 5 years old, walked into the bathroom, got the little stool out in front of the vanity, grabbed his little toothbrush, started brushing his teeth. And all of a sudden a little kid falls off of the stool and bumps his elbow and starts crying. This kid on his own. Which kind of shows that, that the parents had been working on, you know, establishing some, some freedom, some responsibility and also some expectation of how we respond to when we get owies.

So you parent popped his head around. Parents saw kid was not seriously hurt and was doing the things they need to do to go ahead and be better. So all of a sudden this kid starts crying and while they're crying, they grab a, you know, open the drawer, grab a band aid, put a band aid on their owie, put the stool back in front of the of the sink and proceeds to finish brushing their teeth and then goes to bed. For 5 year olds to be this self reliable, pretty impressive, but also trained skill Right.

This was established in, in the house. And Guy makes the point, you know, after reflecting on this story, that 5 year olds are really good at taking care from an early age of the things that they need physically. Kid fell, got an owie, took care of their owie, and then Guy moves on to go. We don't do the same thing with our emotional needs or with our spiritual needs or our mental needs. You know, if we fall down in the mental equivalent to getting an owie from falling off the stool, what do we do?

I would say most especially adults don't know how to respond and it's this idea of what constitutes a need for taking some mental health time. Now the beautiful thing is you have a Cadre here, right, where you can take minutes and moments. What if you need more time? Beautiful thing is if we start planning, if we start thinking, if we start having conversations around, well, what do I do when I need, what do I do when I need to say? How do I say it, who do I say it to? That I need time, that I need space.

I invite you to start thinking about those things today and to share them in the community feed. Give people ideas on how you can take time. Who do you say stuff to? What do you say when you're taking time, what do you do with that time? It's really important to give yourself the time to consider what are you going to do when you need something. Because that five year old, they knew, they were trained that if you fall down and you get an owie, you put a band aid on it. They knew that if you fall down and you're feeling big feelings, that you share your emotion, that you cry, that you make noise, they learned those things.

So I'm even asking you today when I'm going, I don't know what to do, I don't know what to do right now when I need some time, share those things with one another. Because when you do, the Cadre sphere, this community of people with a very special intention, activates more and more and grows further and further and more and more people go, that's what I'm looking for. Everybody here, you're what other people are looking for. Thank you for being those people. We'll talk to you later.