Does it even matter? It’s so easy to point the finger in relationships. Add our childhood stuff and it’s more reactive than anything. But if you get to blame someone and be right who really wins?
Cadre Community is still on the theme of freedom. What does freedom have to do with conscious coupling? The title of this week's show is who Burnt the Cookies?
All right, Happy Saturday. Cadre Community. I am in Upland, California today for a little all day meeting. And where is Upland, you may ask? I don't know. I respond, Happy Saturday. We are still on the theme of freedom. And if you follow what I do, we are on the third week. We are on the third week, which means it's conscious coupling, right? So conscious coupling. What does freedom have to do with conscious coupling? Well, I think it has everything to do with, with conscious coupling because the title today is who Burnt the cookies?
Right? Who Burnt the Cookies? And it actually comes from a real situation that my wife and I just had. But as I was thinking about it, and I was thinking about like the theme of freedom, like a true, like when my wife and I are truly in partnership, you know what we're free of? We're free of the need to blame. And as a result, like, we're just, we're freer, right? Because it's just like we're not looking for the other person to be wrong. And frankly, we're not looking for the other person to be making us wrong.
And you know, no sound. Is anybody, is everybody else getting sound? Oh, I wonder if that makes a difference. So I had my phone silenced. So I wonder if that was making a difference. So now I have no idea what was heard and what wasn't heard, but I'll just repeat very quickly, and that is the theme this, this month is freedom, right? And as I think about conscious coupling and I think about 21 years of marriage and being with my partner, one of the greatest freedoms, right, is the freedom from blame.
Blaming each other and being blamed. Blaming my partner, needing to make her wrong, her needing to make me wrong, and then both of us taking on when the other person has done that, because that's a, that's a part of it too. And so the title of my little live stream today is who Burnt the Cookies? And it's a, it's a real, it's a real life thing where my daughter was having her 16th birthday party and my wife's making some cookies and she left the kitchen and I was, I was very focused on my duolingo.
And the bell went off for the oven and I said, hey, the bell's going off. And then I went back to my duolingo and changed.
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