Cadre Today

Hey, hey, hey. Good morning, Cadre. Ray Ray. How are you doing? How are you today? I hope you're good. I really, really do. I've navigated that part of the morning where you wonder if you're gonna get out of the door at the right time to get to the right place and bring all the things with you and muster up the energy to go, okay, this day is happening. Even though there's lots of things and I passed that point. I'm at the gas station parking lot, and I'm ready to go. Huh? Let's check in with the Cadre.

Ooh, lots of y' all showing up today. Say, hey, how are you doing? Let's. Let's do a round of favorites. Let's do. This is always my favorite one. What's your favorite gas station snack? Oh, my favorite gas station snack is. It's the evidence of it. Sleeve of donuts. I love sleeves of donuts. When I was growing up, my family would go to the Hostess outlet, so it'd be all of the. The bakery goods that were past their point of. Of being able to be sold, and we'd be able to get things. And I love me a sleigh of donuts.

Oh, my gosh. You are checking in this morning. I have to scroll back up. You're taking this. You're jumping in. This is a serious topic. All right. We're getting into it today, y'. All. Okay. Favorite gas station snacks from around the horn. We got. I can't scroll back fast enough. Speak of wonder Chicko stick. T North, 66 donuts. Marisa, specifically barbecue corn nuts. I love my corn nuts, but I go ranch. Amar's got the turkey sandwich. Ooh, we got Matthew going with the chocolate chipper sandwich.

That's ice cream, right? Is that ice cream? Oh, Swedish fish. So, Carrie, are you give me orange, green, red, and yellow Swedish fish, or you give me the bag of only red Swedish fish? CSM Zob's going classic here. Hershey bar. Okay, but with chocolate. Do you want it in the freezer, or do you want it room temperature? I'm a give me my candy cold person. T. North coming back not only with donuts, but donuts and chocolate. M and M peanut butter. Yeah. Ooh, M and M peanut butter. See, it's all about the specificity.

I'll take M and M peanut, but not peanut butter. Carries dabbling. Yeah, right. It's just like all of a sudden, they've overspecified. Now all starbursts are pink, and all Swedish fish. Are red. I miss the days. I miss the light brown M and M. Yeah, you know what we're talking about. And at the same time, here's an old millennial spirit. I miss the old light brown M and M, but I also love a good blue M and M. All the colors of the rainbow in my M and M's bag, y'. All. Yes. Freezer is best. Smz. You got it.

Wow. Can you see what just happened there? The energy shifted because we had someone to connect with in a special way. That's what. That's what a Cadre is. A special group of people with a special intention. And that special intention is to show the world that there's lots of ways to be. Well, you'll meet people in the Cadre who think and feel very differently than you and arrive at a place where they go, and here's how I navigate this life. I'm glad I'm here. I'm glad you're here. I know what I know and I care about you.

Those 17 words are what I hope to be. That squeaky voice in your head with that. This works because we have a shared appreciation that we're here. All of us. We risk to think that what we know has. Has value. Our experience, our understanding. Not that it's the answer, but that it may be our answer for a moment, for now, forever. Forever. But it's in the idling of the mind that we go, here's where I am. That we are verbs, that we are not nouns, that we are evolving and that we care about one another.

Not only it's like, yeah, we're all here together, but that we risk to go, wow. We can unravel the idea that social media bad. That it's like, no, that's too simple, actually. We can convince ourselves of lots of really bad, unhealthy things being true. Or we could go, things are tools. The world is galvanized into reality with our perspective and our perspective of seeing that connecting this way has power, makes it have power. My most near and dear relationships have been created by and are daily fostered through social media, more important than any relationship I've ever had in person.

One on one, this is where I find my magic. That's my truth. On Wednesdays, so often, a lot of the conversations are around kind of that big bucket of mental health. And I always say it that way. If we've started time together before, you hear me talk about the big bucket of mental health. And I'll tell you, as the person who's on Cadre seven days a week, 365 days a year. This is the day I struggle the most with. Because in my mind, in my spirit, when the aperture is too big, when there's too much exposition, I often go, I don't know what to do, I don't know where to go, right?

Mondays I talk about boldly. Following Tuesdays I talk about that outward facing click. Thursdays, I often look at family caregiving through the lens of 80s and 90s sitcoms. You know, on Saturdays we talk about enoughness and Sundays we talk about thin space, right? All these things have really comfortable playgrounds and sandboxes where I can create it. Wednesday, talk mental health. So big. I think there's something there. If the way you're looking at your life is too big for you to consume, please reset the aperture.

The aperture on your camera is how much light is brought in in order to produce the photo. If too much light is being brought in, you can't see where you're going, you can't notice the lines, you can't appreciate the colors. In storytelling, we often talk about exposition. Exposition is information. If you give the audience too much exposition, too much information, what do they do? They go, do I really need to know that Sally's third aunt likes to eat the blue M and Ms? Is that gonna be important to the story?

Am I supposed to remember that? Is that supposed to be the front of my mind? And all of a sudden, if we're thinking about Sally's third aunt liking the blue MMs, which actually isn't important to the story that we're telling right now, then we get confused, then we get lost, then we turn off, then we feel not enough, then we feel like we're not a part of the clique, then we don't know how to boldly follow, Then we can't be in the thin space. See what I just did? I took all my small apertures and I used them to describe the lack of aperture of the big story.

So my invitation for you today, everybody, is if you're going, this is too much. It's a taking less. I started, I live with many jobs. Yesterday, another hat that I wear came on my head a few weeks early. I am doing a long term paternal leave fractional marketing director job for a very, very large youth mental health support company. It's supposed to start mid August and it started yesterday. Baby came early and the person I'm going to be partnered with, her mother's in palliative care. She had a near death in the A death of a near family member last week.

Her dog is very, very sick. My dog is very, very sick. I had surgery last week. All these things are happening. And yesterday she's like, hey, can we talk on the phone for a little bit? I was like, yep. She's like, okay, we're starting today. I'm like, huh? Okay. And we shared. We're like, whoa. So much is going on. And all of a sudden we're like, okay, here's what we need to do right now. So we did that thing right now you're doing that hopefully small thing and you're getting ready to run to the gas station to buy some snacks as soon as we finish up here.

And you've chuckled a little bit and you've connected a little bit and you're like, oh, that's right. I need to jump back on and see Carrie's livestream. I need to go ahead and find Speak Wonders livestream. I have to go and be like, I've never chatted with T North before. I'm gonna go ahead and reach out to T North. I need to go ahead and Dream Big 30 is on live stream next or find some pre recorded content. Or I need to go take a spin class if I live in the Twin Cities. Or. And all of a sudden you go, oh, yeah, like, hey, Cafe Marisa, maybe you're going, you know what?

I am going to go take a spin class with Dream Big 30. I'm going to mix that into my Pilates schedule because I'm going to see a face that's going to be friendly. And these little things that you do allow you to see that the big things are happening, but you don't need to be the one aware of all the things all of the time. And actually, that'll probably sometimes slow you down, y'. All, I hope you have a great rest of your whatever the heck of the day. It is Wednesday, Wednesday. And I will see you tomorrow morning.

Have a good one, y'. All. Talk to you later. Peace boost.