A host opens with music and community check-ins, then explores caregiving themes—access, agency and autonomy—sharing stories about supporting others and practical ways to create access points for people who need help.
The best left handed lead singing drummer of all time is Phil Collins. Happy 18th birthday to Starsky and Hutch. No matter where you are, no matter what's going on, we're glad you're here.
On Thursdays so often we talk about the act of caring for others. Do you have at your fingertips the tools that you need to do the things that you feel called to do? Autonomy. Access, agency, autonomy, all these things that some people have and others don't access.
One of my friends in the group can't remember their lyrics. Give people agency, giving people tools of support so they can continue to do things that they want to do. As you consider those people that you are caring for, what access points can you create for them?
Name this tune. He walks on. Good morning, Mel. Triple B. How are you, my friend? Name this tune. Name this tune. Here's the chorus. Oh, think twice. How's everybody doing this morning? A little play in. Oh, think twice. It's another day for you. You and me and par. You recognize that tune? It's a cover of one of my favorite artists. The best left handed lead singing drummer of all time. Can anybody name the best left handed lead singing drummer of all time? I'll give you a moment to figure it out while I remind you that I'm glad I'm here.
I'm glad you're here. I know what I know and I care about you. Those 17 words kick off our Cadre today. Every single day. Gladness that we are in this experience together. Risking to think that the experiences that we've lived have value. And also being brave enough to say, hey, even though we may not know one another like the best of friends or like family, we can care about one another. So some shout outs. First of all, happy 18th birthday to Starsky and Hutch. Wow. 18 years. I have a friend named Penny.
She's a dog. She's turning 15 years today and her human is throwing her a quinceanera. Speak wonder. I am a huge fan of Animal from the Muppets, but animals actually right handed. The best left handed lead singing drummer of all time is Phil Collins. Phil Collins, Genesis. Phil Collins of everything else that Phil Collins did. But the song we listened to was a cover of Another Day in Paradise by Phil Collins by Michael Shines S H y nes who's a Minnesota artist. But yeah, it's always nice to start out with a little bit of music.
No matter where you are, no matter what's going on, we're glad you're here. We hope you're doing well. But even if you're not, know that that is a okay as well. On Thursdays so often we talk about the act of caring for others, the act of. Of saying, hey, I have stuff that I need to do for me. But because of the way that we're connected to one another, all of a sudden the importance we have in other people's lives become more and more important. So a little story about caregiving today. I love all the all the a words.
Access, agency, autonomy, all these things that some people have and others don't access. Do you have at your fingertips the tools that you need to do the things that you feel called to do? Autonomy. Do you have the right, the open door, to do those things? An Agency, do you have the ability to go? I'm going to consider, I'm going to consider if I want to do this or do this. Or are you regimented down a certain pathway by how other people have given or taken away privilege? So quite often I talk about this really awesome group of people that I get to work with called Alive and Kickin.
They are a rock group aged currently 62 to 90. But we have auditions in a couple of weeks, two weeks from today. And that group may get a little bit older, a little bit younger, but they're old. They roll their eyes when anybody calls them years young. Like no, we're old. We've lived more years than most humans, therefore we are old. So I honor them by, by calling them old just as they wish to be called. And in this group we have people who are having their abilities change every single day. They're losing cognitive ability.
Yes, Hendrix was left handed, but the very specific weird prompt, because I'm a weird specific prompt person, was the best left handed lead singing drummer. And of course Hendrix was here as opposed to here. Yeah, there's not a lot of lead singing drummers in the first place. And all of a sudden you make one left handed. Ooh, Jiminy crickets. So back to Live and Kickin. We have people who can't remember stuff anymore, can't remember lyrics, can't remember where they're supposed to go. And giving people agency, giving people tools of support so they can continue to do things that they want to do is a really powerful gift.
One of my friends in the group can't remember their lyrics. It's just not something that her brain holds on to anymore. In the olden days, the group kept pushing her to go, work harder, work harder, work harder. Remember, remember, remember. Which did a couple of things. Number one, it caused her to go inside so she wasn't connecting with her audience anymore. Number two, it stressed the h*** out of her because she knew she was going to fail. And then she tried not to fail. And then she'd feel really, really bad, which is the third thing.
Attempting to put the square peg in the round hole made her sad, made her, made her stressed and set her up for failure again and again and again. It removed her from doing the things she wanted to do and that was to connect with her audience. So this past season I told her, write your d*** lyrics down on a cue card and bring it with you every single time you come up to the microphone. She thought it was a trap. She's like, that's that's not allowed. And I go, this is rock and roll, baby. Rock and roll is about breaking rules for the audience to see you doing something that's equipping you to be in your power.
The audience is going to light up and you're going to light up, too. And the light that you are feeling as the person who's being cared for and the people that you are caring for, even though you are cared for as well, because we are all cared for, all of a sudden, this room is going to go electric. And all year long it has. So as you consider those people that you are caring for, what access points, what access points can you create for them? In other words, what doors can you open? What tools can you provide them to be what it is that they want to be?
Because so often we feel like we have to be the access point. We have to be the one doing for them. Caregiver. This is not a caregived live stream. This is a caregiver. We're talking to you. How do you do what you do better, more sustainably, more happy? What access do you have to give yourself in order to live another day in paradise, y'? All? No matter where you are, no matter what's going on, I hope you have a great day. But if you're not, that's okay, too. Jump back in the Cadre sphere whenever you need, because we'll be here.
Have a good one.
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