Cadre Today: Kind > Grind

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I hope you're all doing great. It is Wednesday and this week is a blur. It is a straight up blur. Blur in my world. And yet we take moments. We take moments out of the watercolor. Teresa, nice to see you, my friend. We take moments out of the watercolor, out of the ebb and the flow, the go, go go to say, huh, I hope you're doing great. If you're not doing great, know that that is okay too. I hope when you jump into the Cadre sphere, you see people all over the spectrum of how they are doing and yet they tap that moment and they share the nectar of the moment.

Whether it's sweet or sour, whether it's hot or cold, whether it's thick, whether it's diluted. No matter where you're at, it's always worthwhile to take time to be where you are with what you got. I'm glad I'm here. I'm glad you're here. I know what I know and I care about you. Those 17 words are the formula for creating this space. Us being glad and that we get to share time together. Us risking to say that we know things through experience, through professionalism, pureness, and then to say, hey, and we care about one another as a bold act that slows us down and forces us to see that there's not one way to be well and that we can learn from other people's pathways.

On Wednesdays, you see a lot of clinicians and therapists jump into the live stream and share their magic, to share their experience, share their aha. Earlier this morning, about 90 minutes ago, the one and only Dr. Shareese jumped in and shared a little bit. So if you're needing a second scoop, go Ahead and watch that and replay. We live in a world that, and I guess any world, as if there are more worlds. The one we're living in today, the One that was 10 years ago, 20 years ago, the ones on different planets, the ones with different beings, one with.

Right. There's lots of different worlds, but I bet every single world has this reality. The things that get loud sooner or later get taken as truth. Like, are you supposed to work harder or are you supposed to take. Take things easier? The answer is harder. Are you supposed to want more or want less? You're supposed to want more. I remember when I was youth directing, there was the old adage of, you know, you get good grades in school so you can get to a good college, you get into a good college, you can go and get a good job, you get a good jobs, you can make a lot of money.

Make a lot of money so you can buy a big home. You buy a big home so you can have a big family, you have a big family, so can go ahead and da, da, da. Then you retire, right? And everybody knows those answers. And quite often, whenever we attempt to do the other thing, the opposite or any derivation of, we go, ah, this isn't the right thing to do. And I think one of those loud voices is that we are supposed to grind. We're supposed to when the going gets tough. What's the rest of that? It's not.

People realize that sometimes it's not worth it, so you give up. I've never heard that said out loud, although I think it's a really great idea. No, when the going gets tough, the tough gets going. And we live as if that's truth, absolute truth. So I invite you, I put a little free write of mine in the community feed yesterday about the comparison between grinding and kinding. If you've been grinding a lot and you feel like it's. It's not working, or you literally can't grind anymore and you go, well, if I can't grind, what am I supposed to do?

Try some kindness. Try the opposite of holding on or pushing, which would be letting go and letting be. And you may just find that the finish line is found or the next step is found, or the completed project is found, or the resolution is found not by you grinding, but by you kinding. Even when I say that, I go, huh? Our language doesn't work that way. Grind is a verb. Kind is a what. What is kind? Right? I guess it's a descriptor. But. But I think kind can be a verb. As well. What would it look like if in situations today, rather than grinding forward or grinding through or grinding down, you placed a K where the GR is?

What would your action look like? What would your thought response look like? I don't know, but that's normally where I leave you. I normally leave you in that place of. Consider this. Today, if you see yourself grinding, consider what would happen if you kinded instead. Jules says, I'm at the age of my life. I want to have a more simplistic life. Jules, I'll tell you, I have wanted a more simplistic life since I was 5. And I know other people who start wanting a more grindy, complex life in their 80s.

You know, the next couple of days, I'm going to be sitting in a room with 65, 59 to 95 year olds and they're walking into a room of stress, of potential success or failure to audition for a rock group. And I think of them and I go, why would you want to do that? Speaking from my own, like what, what I would want or what I want currently and what I wanted my whole life. Now, again, even though I've wanted simplicity, a lot of times I've chosen complexity because it's felt right. There's a lot of times I wanted kindness and yet I've chose grindness because in the moment it's seemed right and it has been.

But that's the beauty of this journey, right? We get to the place where we go, huh? So what's going to get me to where I want to be? And when we assume, and it's always this, this binary, it's like, well, if you want to get where you want to go, you need to do this and not this. We end up missing out on the potential pathway that gets us there. So no matter where you are, no matter what's going on, I hope that these minutes you take in the Cadre sphere invite you to go, huh? Even when the days are dark or hard or mucky or ducky, you go, all right, well, what if.

If you're a grinder today, I invite you to try a little bit of kinding, Be kind to yourself and see what happens. Just lightning deep in your bones. Y' all have a good Wednesday, we'll see you later.