Monday Motion W/ Roe Navigating Big Life Changes And Transitions

Good morning, Cadre. Good morning, good morning. Today we're starting the music off with a little Californication, but the lo-fi version. I don't know if you guys can hear it. Good vibes for a Monday morning, nice and chill as we ease into the day, get the morning going, turn the brain on, oh yeah. Give it a few minutes, let some people roll in today. Lately, I've been listening to a lot of lo-fi spin-offs of original music. Speak Wonder, good morning, happy Monday. Yeah, so right now, the theme for me lately has been lo-fi rock and 90s grunge, lo-fi music.

That way, I hear the song, the melody playing without the words, I still get the vibe of the song, but my brain doesn't get lost in the words. So I get to carry the vibe, but without the distraction. It's kind of like a little cheat code to my brain. I kind of like it. Yeah. So good morning. Good morning, everybody. Hope everyone had a good weekend. Happy Monday. It feels like a good Monday. It's fall. It's hoodie season. I love it. I love it. I challenge you if you're in the chat, drop a number from one to 10.

How is your morning going? 10 being best day ever. Feeling like a million dollars won is like, hey, I might need some support, whatever that looks like. I like to check in with myself. Today, I'm at about an eight and a half. Yeah, eight and a half. Once I hit the sunshine, I think it's gonna be a 10 day. I've seen the weather today, so I think we might have a 10 piece today. Tuning in from beautiful Erie. Okay, okay, nice, nice. There we go. So today, what I would like to talk about is safety in transition.

Specifically big life changes. Hold on, we got Carry the Vibe. Speak Wonder says, yeah, the lo-fi without the words to my favorite like grunge 90s like rock songs. You get the vibe without the distraction of the words, but you're still kind of humming along. It does it for me. Six plus, nice. So someone asked me one time what my number was for the day and I was like a seven and they asked me like, well, what would it take to get to an eight or a nine? I was like, oh, that just made me think a little bit.

5. 5. Once I get my body moving and grooving a little bit, get the blood flowing a little more, I slept in today, which I usually won't do. I think it's gonna be a 10. 10 is on the horizon for sure. So hope everyone had a great weekend. So today I wanted to talk about Safe in transition, being in transitional times in life and feeling and experience safety when it seems like there is no safety. But one of the things I've noticed is sometimes safety means moving and not sitting still, right? For me, just to recap, so I have a really big transition coming up.

Last November, I was working kind of my dream job doing the things I love in the mental health space, substance use and recovery space. I loved it. I couldn't ask for a better job, right? But it was one of those jobs where, you know, the work culture kind of just shifted a little bit and things weren't, it wasn't the most healthy environment, right? Love the people, love the mission, but sometimes organizations get going in so many different directions. It's just, it gets hard to feel safe in them, right?

So got laid off of that job, about 30 people, which it sucked and I realized that what I was experiencing. I've heard of people say church hurt, right? Where they've been hurt by a church. And I think I've experienced what work hurt was. And it took me a long time to figure that out. So I left that job and did a couple side jobs with contracting, working in the community, doing a bunch of different things to kind of get me by as I had to navigate my feelings and emotions and not you know, be, not carry that hurt into a new space, right?

And for me, that looked like, you know, I juggled a bunch of different jobs, all good stuff still, but things that I wasn't passionate about, right? And so I took the last almost year to finish school and also, you know, still have to work to pay my bills, right, because you got to keep the lights on. But one of the things I noticed is I had a chip on my shoulder for the industry because of the place that I worked. And it took me a long time to figure that out and undo all those things. I really had to sit with myself and identify where my boundaries of safety are, where my boundaries where I should have communicated better, where I should have had good internal and external boundaries.

Speak Wonder says, yes, I've experienced work hurt, injured, and emotionally. Yes, I didn't really know it was a thing. I mean, I knew it was a thing. I preached it, I spoke it, but I never experienced it. But to be someone who thinks they're pretty tough and strong to be like, you know what, this place overall kind of hurt me. And it's not like one person or the organization like just did me bogus or anything, but there was just a collective of small decisions and small things that turned into kind of a big hurt at the end.

And I had to sit with that because I love the mission, I love the people, I loved all these things, but I still experience hurt. And what I've noticed that in life, that's going to happen sometimes, right? But what can I do to protect myself going through that experience? And I do believe it's made me a stronger person and it's made me more aware. So since November, I worked side jobs to pay my bills and did some times to just finish school after working full time, school full time, and kind of just sit with myself and kind of figure out which direction I wanted to go in.

And I think that I came to this point where I didn't want to just work in a job for the sake of paying my bills. I'm one of those people, like if I'm speaking about something, talking about something, involved in something, I'm passionate about it. Like if I'm doing something, the whole world's going to know about it, right? In the last couple of jobs I've done, it just really wasn't like that. And I felt like I just kind of was existing. I hit that level of life where I'm just complacent and I'm just checking the box.

And I'm like, well, this isn't fun. I'm not going to do this anymore. So let's see, speak wonder. That's hard, important work, sitting with yourself and processing information. Yes, it is. Especially when I don't like to play the blame game, right? There's situations that were created that I couldn't control, but there was a lot of situations that I continued to stay in because they were comfortable. Let me say that again. There's situations that I continued to stay in because they were comfortable.

That doesn't mean that they were safe. That doesn't mean that they were the best place for me, but they were comfortable because it's what my body knew and was used to. And there's a difference between staying in a situation that is safe and staying in a situation that is comfortable. And I think that's what it I was comfortable with the status of the position and the paycheck and the corporate grind. I loved it, but there was things that say, All right, but are you safe? Are you emotionally safe?

Are you psychologically safe? Do you feel safe to speak out in leadership meetings or in team meetings and things like that that I really had to sit with? speed up but there's just some context so that's what I've been experiencing so now I start a new position on the 6th basically the same job for a different organization in the mental health space mental health recovery substance use and criminal justice that is like all the things that make my heartwarm where I have a soft spot for people, right?

So I'm starting that on the sixth and this week I'm transitioning out of my current roles. I have a wedding, I have a speaking engagement at Duluth. It's a very strenuous transitional week and I'm kind of not having anxiety about it, but I'm more excited because for me, I'm one of those people if I do make a big change, I go into it full steam ahead and I full send it, right? and with change when it comes to professional and daily change like that, that's going to affect every area of my life. Kudos on the new position.

Chase your passion. Thank you. Thank you. I've had to chase it like the, what is it, the turtle and the rabbit analogy. I couldn't go full-fledged just jump in any job or things that I could have, I could have jumped into many jobs, but I was like, what's something that it's passionate about that's going to check all the boxes that I'm going to be excited to wake up and go to work, not like wake up and be like, Another day, I need to pay my bills. So yeah, I chased it slowly, but we found it. We found it.

But the transition of going into a new job, I get to create that new normal, right? Instead of working several contracting and consulting jobs and the side gigs like that, I got to set my own schedule. I got to go to work in my gym shorts sometimes, and I got really comfortable in that, but I'll sacrifice that for doing something I'm passionate about. So I challenge you, whoever's in the chat, let's drop something. You drop the number of what you're at for the day. What's something you're looking forward to or what's something that when you're in transition that you hold tight to, carry on to that next phase.

For me, I like to talk to people about what I'm going through, about what's next, and kind of talk my way through it. I'm A talker. I like to talk and communicate. But like when we're going into these transitionary phases, I get to phase out of one, take a day or so to breathe and then build out what the new normal looks like. So I like the term new normal. It really wasn't a term for me until COVID. And then we're all forced into a whole lot of new normals. But like with new normals, I feel come new opportunities, new structure, new disciplines, new opportunities.

and new ways to get creative with who you want to be, how you show up in the world, and also when it comes to communication boundaries that you're setting, all these things. So I learned so much last year, over this past year about the professional setting myself, how I show up, how I was affected. and how I want things to look like. So I got to, I was blessed with the opportunity to take that year off, finish school, do side gigs, because a lot of people can do that. So I'm super grateful for that, but it was a grind.

But I'm grateful because I got to sit with myself and reflect. It's like, okay, how do I want to show up in the professional setting, in the corporate space, in that space, considering what I've been through? 0 now. And that's how I look at a lot of obstacles. Because yeah, we're all gonna go through things, whether it's personal, professional, we're gonna experience hurt, we're gonna experience challenges. But for me, I don't like to take those hits or those challenges directly in the chest and just Accept it.

I like to harness that energy and ricochet it off, right? It's all right. Let's take that energy Let's process it deal with it and then we're gonna bounce it right back into the world But we're gonna do it through the lens of positivity and showing up better and preventing other people from going through situations that that we've went through right so Life, let's see, Speak Wonder says, my daughter moved away to Nevada clear across the country. I miss her and I'm excited to continue our tradition of a harvest party by shipping her a harvest basket of fruits.

And she's, oh, that's awesome. That's a good way to stay connected. And also I'm a silver lining type of person. So now you have an excuse to go to Nevada. I'm just saying, Nevada's nice. I'm actually going out there in March to go to a concert and to go to Moab to go jump off a cliff because I like to do extreme things and jump off cliffs, I guess. But so right now, I don't know what you guys are going through, if you guys experience big transitions, but sometimes when things are shifting all at once, everything can feel kind of chaotic and you don't know what's next.

But I look at it as, okay, let's look at this as the glass half full. I get a chance to recreate my new normal. I get to recreate a bunch of new friendships, working relationships, and show up in the world and do something different. And I like that and it gets me excited. Sometimes that safety means moving, means transitioning into something different, taking those steps and walking into that safety. Sometimes the circles that we're in, we have to walk out of them, the unhealthy circles and step into those healthy ones and realize that sometimes we stick where we are because we're comfortable.

Yeah, I plan to travel there, but no cliff jumping. Cliff jumping is extreme. I highly encouraged. So I'm a big face of my fears. If I'm scared of something, I lean into it. So yeah, but like I was saying, change doesn't always feel safe, but it does when we take new opportunities on and walk in the things that we know around safe people that we trust, we can create those safe spaces. And I feel like stepping into new spaces, we can allow If we're intentional, we can allow safe spaces to grow. And that's something that I've had to learn to do.

It's like not every situation I walk into is going to feel safe right off the bat. 0, I can walk into a situation and give it a chance to make it grow into a location of safety. Because sometimes we might be that pillar that make a situation feel safe. So I love the theme of safety. There's so many different ways it can go. I wanted to share just a life update that, transitions happen, big life changes. I'm chasing something I'm passionate about and that's helping people that have been through things that I have or worse and showing up and just being a cheerleader for them.

I've never thought that I would be a cheerleader back in the day, not pom-poms or anything, but I love cheering people on. It's what I like to do. And if I can support someone and cheer someone, I'm just a natural coach. Like fitness, faith, mental health, all the things. I guess I'm just one of those guys. I like to hype people up. So just a quick check in. I hope everybody has a great day. Next Monday, I will be seeing you guys again. I am going to start doing a little bit more lives and posting a little bit more.

I've been dragging my feet a little bit. So be on the watch for that. Other than that, I hope everybody has a great day. Let's see, what are we going to close this session out with? How about some scar tissue by Red Hot Chili Peppers? So Speak Wonder, it's a six plus. Let's see what we can do to get that day to a 10. The sun's shining. I think it's supposed to be really nice today. To everyone else who's out there, cheers. Hope you get your coffee, and if you're a coffee drinker, let's have a great day.