Cadre Today - The Consensus Trap

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It truly is a gift to spend time with you, and I hope you hear that often and from many different people. I'm glad that I'm here. I'm glad that you're here. I know what I know and I care about you in the Cadre sphere. That's what's always spinning around a bunch of people who find benefit and joy and positivity and perspective because you're here, each and every single one of y'. All. So connect in ways that. That seem authentic, that seem courageous, that. That follow your curiosity and your intuition, and I hope you find what you're looking for if you don't reach out to us here at Cadre, because we're growing and we're shifting and we are responding to the world that desires to feel a little bit better.

So on Tuesdays, I often kick off the day with the idea of the outward facing click. So often in community creation, we go, okay, we need to create something that people want, that people run towards, something that people, you know, can't wait to be a part of. And then, as people who are different than what we've established walk in, we either do one of two things. We either say something like, all are welcome if you're willing to change who you are to become who we are, or. Or we create that layer, that invisible layer that.

That makes there be a click. Something that's very hard to walk in. You can't see it, but you can definitely feel it. So I always like talking about the outward facing click. The. That membrane, that energy level that actually pulls people in rather than keeps them away. Why? Because if you're creating something that you care about, some element of you is going to say, gosh, I wish more people could experience this thing that I care about so much. The headline of the outward facing click is the more that you're a part of something, the less it is about you and the more it is about the people who've yet to become a part of it.

That makes a lot of people angry or feel uncomfortable. But if you think, if you think, if you care about something so much that you go, this is changing my life. How would you not want to open the doors for others to have their lives be changed as well? So, as you can see in the title of today's livestream, it says consensus. Consensus as. As. As a trap or consensus as. As the. Whatever kind of negatively connotative word that I used. If you're looking, if you're a community builder, one of the things that you can use as a good amount of evidence that maybe a tweak needs to be made is if all of a sudden you raise a concern or a question, if you raise opportunity, that should evoke some positive conversation.

And there is quiet, but it's like, yeah, that sounds good. There's an opportunity to mindfully, positively agitate the group. I will say I was in a group that I helped facilitate yesterday, and there was a person who had joined the group about a month ago, but has been ill and has been moving. And yesterday was the first day that they could really dive into being in the group. And by golly, they walked in the group and they were a storm. They were raising their hand. They were offering perspective.

They were using words like they and us and them and you to create polarization and perspective. That some of the perspectives were right, some of the perspectives were wrong. Meaning, like, what they were perceiving about what was already in the room was not true. And I had the opportunity to do two things. Number one, celebrate and amplify and engage others within this rich conversation of positive dissonance, but also offer some information, some correction, some exposition to this person and going, hey, you got these things right.

But actually, I'm going to, with a smile on my face, push back on you here because actually, I can see you are really excited to be a part of the thing. So I'm going to give the information so you have a really clear understanding of what the thing is. And the whole room was anxious and excited. You know, anxiety is a type of energy and excitement, but there is anxiety, like, ooh, I don't like this. This is challenging our normative. This is challenging the inward facing who we've always been. Click.

But they loved it because they were seeing progression and evolution and creation happen in front of their eyes. That's your opportunity. That's your opportunity in this space. In any space that you're in, where you have influence and power to go, who's not here, and rather just saying, hey, anyone who wants to come in and be exactly who we are can do that. That's not what we actually want in this world. We want people to walk in, positively agitate and amplify and grow the things that we care about.

Because the longer that we're part of a group, the less it is about us and the more it is about the people who have yet to be a part of it. So today, Cadre, if this is your first day here, please positively agitate us, grow us, change us, challenge us, and make us who we are becoming. We'll see you tomorrow. Never hear another word.