You Got What You Wanted.. Now What?

Hello. It is Friday. It's nice and sunny here in Minneapolis. And yes, I always have to start with the weather. I don't know why, but I hope that everybody is having a great day so far. I know that there's been a lot of energy shifts and a lot of going on and I know that I've felt really busy lately. So I'm excited to just get some R and R. Relaxing, relaxing this, this weekend. So I will kick us off with what are you grateful for? What? Hey, Speak Wonder. Just wanted to start with gratitude and ask what are.

What are you grateful for? That is always something that I'm trying to remind myself that I should be so grateful to have the problems that I have. Right? That I should be so grateful to have a house and roof over my head and food in my fridge and people that love me. Right? So if you have something you're grateful for, I'm grateful for your flowers. Speak Wonder. I think that's awesome. I love a good flower emoji. But today wanted to dive into since we're getting towards the end of the month with harvest.

Grateful for wild birds in my feeder. Yes, I love that. I love being a bird watcher. It's so fun. Or there's like a bird app where you can listen to the call. It's the best. But wanted to discuss how we can move into the next phase. Right, so you've harvested, you, you put out your intentions, you planted seeds, and now it's your time. It's cropping right, You've got it, you've got what you wanted. So now what do you do? First off, I will mention that the human psyche or ego mind is tricky because it always wants what it wants.

That's a big sign of ego, is it wants more. If it wants something, it's typically ego. Soul is generally content with a lot of things. And when you want something, as soon as you get it, you're either afraid you're going to lose it or you want something else. And so this is the tricky part about getting what we want. And in my opinion, why it's completely overrated because you're always gonna want more or you're gonna be so afraid you're gonna cling to it and hold tight to it because you're so afraid that you worked so hard and now you lost it.

And it's really freeing when you can see that and notice it and let it go. And it brings me to a good point of where, where our North Star is. Are we following a North Star that Is, like, superficial, very egoic. You know, manipulating the world so that we can feel better. Hey, Handy Mac. Or are we trying to harvest more of a. From. From the soul, from a. A place of clarity, of peace, contentment and love and openness. Not the latter. And I've had to work a lot on where my intentions are coming from and noticing if it's from this place of, like, scarcity or this place of jealousy or envy or perhaps, or fear.

Fear is a really big one. It's like, well, I need to do this because otherwise I will not get paid or whatever. That's just an example. But knowing your intention of what you're trying to cultivate is good. Is it coming from ego? Is it coming from your soul? Or, like your heart, your higher self, whatever resonates with you. And so that's a really big piece of. When we get something, you can tell if it is a soulful accomplishment or an egoic accomplishment, because you will immediately chase something else.

If it's ego, you will chase something else. Or you will be so fixated on trying to keep everything in this cookie cutter. Keep it just as it is. Don't change it. Oh, my gosh, that would be the other sign. And so it's tough, but taking inventory on some things that you've accomplished and then see how you have reacted once you got there, once you've accomplished something, once you accumulated something. Right? Like, that's also a American cultural thing of. We just want more. And, you know, our status is revolved around our job.

Not a lot of other cultures do that. They. It's like, so what do you do? And it's like, you know, an Italian would be like, I play tennis. It's like, oh, so are you a tennis player? No, I just do that for like a professional tennis player. It's like, no, I just do this for fun. So it's interesting to think about the cultural shifts of how they are, how different cultures harvest things and accomplish what their accomplishments mean to them and their identity. Because in America, we identify with our work so much more than a lot of other cultures.

And so to say that, okay, I've. I did this, I harvested, I. I put my work, I put my effort into this, and now I've got it. Now what do I do? Right? Sometimes we have to be a. Have the capacity to hold on to it, to accept it, to not, excuse me, eff it up. And that takes a lot of, like, self awareness, and it takes a lot Of. Of work to honor. Okay, I really came here. I really put my all into this, and now this is my time to enjoy it. I'm not gonna cling and think that it's gonna go away or be afraid.

You know, it's harvest what's yours and then just release everything else. And speakwinder says there's also a feeling of let down immediately after following an accomplishment. Yeah, it's just. Unfortunately, that's just how our brain, our. Our psyche works. Is that like we. The analogy I'll use is like a shiny new car, right? You get. You get this new car, you're super psyched about it. Then the first payment goes through, and you're like, ah, a little bit of buyer's remorse, maybe? Nope, it's still cool.

You get past the payment issue, right? And then you. You're. You're driving around and like six or seven months later, it's. It doesn't matter. It's like a letdown. You're like, wow, this is like, totally. Hey, Luke. It's like a letdown. And so we just have to be really careful of how our mind can trick us like that. You know what I mean? It's very. Our mind can manipulate us sometimes, right? And it can sometimes steal our joy from the things we do accomplish. Because even if we are, you know, driving towards something and there might be a little bit of ill.

Ill intentions, not on purpose, but just like, maybe subconsciously, we should still celebrate those accomplishments. Right? Speak. Wonder. Like, we don't want to. We did. We worked really hard to get to where we are, and now we should enjoy the fruits of our labor. There's no reason that we should just, okay, let. Let it. Let it down or feel like, now what? Right? But oftentimes when I talk to people, it's like, yeah, now, especially in their careers, they're just like, yeah, here I am. I've got this great job and do this.

But, like, now what do I do? Right? And it's like if they're not building and going higher or accomplishing more, they feel like, to use speak wonder words, let down, or they feel that they aren't able to accomplish anything else besides that arena. And life is so vast. There's so many different seeds we can plant and different corners we can play in. And I would challenge you to try to harvest something different, like, each. I try to do something like quarterly, because monthly is a little too much, but quarterly is something that I try to work towards something.

And of course, it's because it totally aligns with corporate America. Q1, Q3, you know, but nonetheless, I roll with it. But just know that, like, our desire doesn't. Our desire for continuing and growing isn't going to stop. It's going to evolve. And if we can clean up our drive, clean up our intention onto how we're moving forward, I think that's sweet spot, because that way we're going, we're coming at it clear. We're feeling that, like, yes, this is aligned with me, my soul. This isn't just me trying to like, get this one thing so that I'll feel better or fill a void inside.

Right. This is about me honoring my path, my North Star. And really, I encourage you to maybe journal or contemplate a little bit. Like, what is your North Star? What is your like, one tagline? Not some like, you know, advertisement, like one liner, catchy motto thing. No, no, no. Like, think a little bit deeper than that as to like, what really lights you up, what opens you up like that, whatever that is for you. It could be a whole paragraph or maybe it's just two sentences. Whatever it is, like, that is what you go towards.

And I think that is the greatest harvest you can accomplish in this life. All the other ones that you're working on, I think lead you to that big one, that big North Star push, that big. Like, I'm living in alignment with my purpose and connected to whatever, who, whatever you're connected to with the help and being really clear and working on your inner stuff. That is how you are the most grateful for anything you accomplish. If you're putting your all in it, you're putting your heart into it, that is how you get the sweetest fruit, sweetest fruit of your labor.

And so that's really all I wanted to share, was breaths of joy. I harvest these. Yes, I love that. And the little things like that. Because when we clean and if we work and clean up our side of the street, then every little thing is. It's like, oh, at the end of the day, it's like you almost like created this perfect day. They're not all perfect, but you're still grateful for everything that came across because you worked on it. You worked hard, you worked through your tasks and everything you had to do at work.

You tried to communicate well with your family. You. You worked on your things that come up for you and you have to let go. That type of stuff. That is like the true win, the true harvest of just accomplishing and being good at life. And not that that is an easy thing right now or ever, but it's wisdom right Everybody wants to hang out with people that are really good at life and really good at understanding themselves and working on themselves. And that brings me back to gratitude. You have to be grateful for this journey, that the road it took you to get to cropping the farming, that is what we have to be grateful for, not the destination.

Cause again, as soon as you get what you want, gonna want more, you're gonna want something else, or you're gonna be afraid that it's gonna leave. And so wanting isn't necessarily the goal. It's working through ourselves and our heart to find our North Star and just go towards that so that you are harvesting your purpose all the time. And I know that gets thrown around a lot, but I do believe in it and I have seen people live it because some of the most successful people that I know are the most grateful people.

They are the most connected people and they are the ones that are, they're like, yep, I finally figured out what my purpose was and I just went all in. And it takes time. Don't like worry about like, oh, I don't know what it is, or it's like, I still don't know mine, I'm pretty close, but. And that's the thing, it's like you just take one step, one step, one step a day, one day at a time and it comes and you figure it out and then you get connected to all these people and it's just, it's great. But I'll leave you with, contemplate what is true for you in your soul and in your body.

Really feel like this is what I should be sharing with the world. This is what I love about life. This is what lights me up inside. Anything like that, just jot it all down, try to narrow it down and then do one thing a day, or one thing a week, even, maybe even one thing a month. If that's all the capacity you have for it right now to go towards that, towards your North Star, towards this higher thing than what you want right now to maybe make you feel better. Right, like food, right? Sometimes we overdo food.

I'm getting on a tangent again, sorry. But just contemplate and I would love to hear what your North Star is. And I will definitely, I can share my North Star. And again, it's always revising, right? We're evolving and growing and so your North Star today was, will probably get fine tuned in another year or it might look completely different. And that's fine because we're all learning with and growing through exactly whatever we're going through right now. And that's the beautiful thing about life is it's different for everybody.

So I hope you all have a great rest of the day and the week. It's been awesome to talk to you. I am actually going to New Zealand for two weeks here and so to be gone the next two weeks. But I will post in Cadre and share some Mayori culture. I'm very excited to learn more about it, but I'm very grateful to have that opportunity and grateful for Cadre as well to have that opportunity to share it with you. So would love to hear anything that you're grateful for and hear your North Star and enjoy the rest of your day.

You're awesome. Remember, you are great. You are loved. You are on fire. Thanks. Week Wonder Cool.