No Shady Business Here!

- Hey everyone, Dr. Carrie here on cadre. Do you know what you value? I asked this question because I find that a lot of people don't know what they value. I recently talked with a coaching client and in figuring out what kind of employer she wants to work for, I challenged her with that question. What do you value? What are your top values? Because that's gonna help govern where you wanna work and help you make your decision. And it really makes a difference on everything we do in life. I wanna walk you through an example of telling you what my top two are.

There's five, but I'll tell you my top two. My first top value is integrity. I value this above everything else. And to me, integrity means doing the right thing when no one is watching. I am an Enneagram one, which means that I am very concerned about things being moral and right and just and fair. And so doing the right thing, even when no one is watching is super important to me. It's really important that I work in an organization where people have that motto, see something, say something. We really want everybody to be just operating with such a high degree of integrity and just moral compass.

That everybody has that and that there's no shady business going down. And so it's really important to me to work for an organization that also values that. It maybe doesn't have to be number one, but that's a huge thing for me. And then it also shows up in relationships because I want to be around people who also value integrity. It doesn't have to be number one, but they need to be morally ethical just people. If you are the type of person that doesn't follow through on what you're gonna say, that is not a high degree of integrity.

And that's a really big deal for me because I value it so highly. So if you're gonna cancel on me last minute, let me know and maybe don't do that often. So as you can see, what I value comes out in everything I do, my relationships, the workplace. And then number two for me is honesty. I want you to be brutally honest with me. I grew up in a family where honesty was key. It was, I grew up in the Midwest, but it was kind of like an East Coast Italian kind of family where you just said what was on your mind and you didn't worry about hurting other people's feelings.

We had thick skin. And so honesty was just a really big deal. There were no secrets. I mean, just be brutally honest. Just tell me the truth rather than sugarcoat it and trying to like beat around the bush, like just give me the harsh truth. And so that's another thing I really value, especially in relationships, is that people are gonna be honest with me. If you are trying to protect my emotions by, you know, skirting around the truth or like adding fluff language, I'm probably gonna call you out on it because I just wanna know your honest thoughts.

And that's a really big important value to me in everything I do. So you'll also note that that's who I come across, which doesn't always work well with some people and different cultures. And so just know that that's just who I am because it's something I really value and I wanna be true to myself. So I hold true with that value as well and how I come across to other people. And I just wanna encourage you that if you have not figured out what you value, it is so vital to do this because it'll show up in everything you do in life.

I'm gonna delve more into this topic as in how it applies in different areas of our life, but it really does show up in every relationship. It shows up in every setting you're in, even how you relate to strangers at the grocery store. So spend some time thinking about this, thinking about what you value and then just maybe start to reflect on how it shows up in every area of your life. And I guarantee you're gonna be amazed if you've never done this exercise before. So thanks for tuning in with me today, guys.

I hope this was helpful. God bless.