Monday Motion w/Roe Acceptance of Who You Are Becoming

Cadre, Cadre, Cadre fam. Good morning. Good morning. Hope everyone's having a good Monday. Let me turn my music down. Good morning. Happy Monday. Happy Monday. Turkey day is right around the corner. Good morning. Welcome, welcome. We'll give people a couple minutes to see who pops in and hangs out with us. Today it's Monday. It's interesting. I just watched JC's live stream this morning and he was talking about never miss a Monday for the good reasons as well. Today is one of those days. I missed my Monday, my 5am get up.

My body was like, yeah, we need. We need to save all the energy. It's gonna be a long week. And I listened to my body today, so I missed a Monday for a good purpose. And I'm not. I'm not mad about it. Welcome. Hope everyone's doing okay. Hope everyone's got their coffee in them if they're a coffee person. Tea, whatever it may be. Today, what I wanted to talk about is another aspect of acceptance, specifically about acceptance on who you're becoming. I think a lot of people, including myself, it's something I've even struggled with recently is, yes, it was one thing to accept my past or my current situation, things that let me turn this music down.

This is some cardi b. I don't know why this is on. That's not the vibe right now. Not the vibe, but it's one thing to accept the past and things that we struggle with, feelings, emotions. But it's like, what about the things that are coming up are coming down the pipeline? For me, when things, when I become a different person or different version of myself, even a better version, you start to move different. You're around different communities, your community shifts along with you and you have to accept that.

Right? I've had to accept that when I started moving different, whether it's I got a new job or, you know, I ingrained myself into a new community, it shifts and you get to meet. Not a lot. I mean, you get to meet a lot of good people and it could be different from the people that you're currently around. And it's not always a bad thing. Yes, there's some times where it's negative, but shifting isn't always bad. Specifically when it comes to the community, I've had to personally accept the person who I was becoming.

Right? The person I was becoming, the person I was starting to talk, like, to be like the person, the version of myself, Myself, Right. And that meant I had to grow. Crap. That was my clip mirror. That wasn't freaking anyways, Speak Wonder. Good morning. To the, the person that we're becoming, right? There's a lot of times where we meet new people, new community and we have to leave some behind, right? For me, I used to swear and talk a lot in the garage talk, if you will, right? Or my super dark humor.

And just, it was the type of language I wouldn't use around my grandma, right? Let's just put it that way. And not that that's always bad, but there's a time and a place where I have had a group of friends where we'd be out in public, hanging around at the gym, you know, out in public and it would be F bomb this and F bomb that and it'd be all this crazy talk, right? And the point where you would see it and you would hear it, it would be abnormal, right? And I'm not saying that a bunch of guys, you know, messing around with their buddies, shooting the s***, talking crap is bad.

But when you guys have a collective lang of that specifically, and it's like that, what's up, Luke? Good to see you guys. Speak wonder. But when you have a commonality amongst that group where it's just, it's not conducive to where you're trying to go, where you're trying to be. I had to separate myself, right? So these group of guys that I still love and call my friends, it's just there's not the ones that I invite when I'm going into a professional setting or when I'm going to that self development arena, so to speak, right?

Because there's a lot of people I surrounded myself with that don't have that foul, super foul language that, that me and my buddies had. And it exposed it. I'm not saying that the relationship was bad, but it exposed me to a new level or a new version of myself that I could be. And I had to accept that. It's like, hey, I'm moving around. Different people, different lifestyles, different toxic conversation. I'm talking about, you know, substance use, mental health policy change if I'm around Jason Lennox.

Revenue cycle management, shout out Jason Lennox. There's all these other things that when I'm hanging out with my boys in the garage shop, it's like they're talking about just girls and who they got into arguments and just a lower level quality, right? And now I just want to use that example because I've accepted that like, oh, I'm outgrowing that style of communication. I'm out, I'm outgrowing that style of just the topic of conversation and that I had to sit with that, okay, I'm accepting that I'm growing into something bigger and better, but at the same time, that doesn't mean that I dislike my friends or that I look down on them, but I'm just, just my community.

My life's shifting and it's. That's. We have to accept that, right? We all, we. We're constantly becoming different versions of ourselves. And I, for me personally, I don't know if anyone can attest to this, but for me, one of the biggest challenges was the community. When I was becoming the person I was, I am the biggest. One of the biggest challenges for me was finding the community, right? Finding a community with my people and accepting that not everyone in my new community is going to look or talk like the ones in my old community.

And that's not always a bad thing. All right. Even when it comes to switching workplaces, you know, I've been, I worked in unhealthy workplaces. I worked in super good ones. And when you go from one workplace to another, when you're leaving a negative for a positive, it really exposes the negatives in the last one. And that's not always a fun, a fun time to sit in, right? So I asked you guys, I got a question for you guys this morning. When it comes to acceptance, is there something about you guys self recently that you had to accept that's part of the version you're becoming?

Okay. I'm growing into this person. I've had to accept, you know, the geographical change. I had to accept a new type of communication, a new friend group. There's all these different things I've had to accept. Like me growing up, where I was from as well, my family. I've had to accept that my family can't go to all the places that I'm going. My old friends can't go to the places I'm going. And that's not always easy. I've learned to step out to be a leader, to try to be a thought leader and also lead with humility.

My emotions on my sleeve, my feelings. Not just because I'm a person that just wants to like cry on everyone's shoulder. But there's so many people that I force myself to be strong for so they can see the humility and try to replicate it or not even replicate it because I want them to do better than me, right? But I lead that way so that people can see it and almost get a sense of Permission. Like, hey, it's okay to be the badass in the gym and still be sad. Sometimes it's okay to go and bench press £300 and you're feeling a little bit of depression today.

Like, it's okay. I try to be that person because I know me growing up, I didn't see a lot of people that gave me that physical permission to unlock my feelings, right? But once I started moving around different people in different communities, and I saw people that were tougher than me, more successful than me, and they're like, hey, I'm just having a bad day. I'm kind of sad. I'm dealing with these feelings, and I'm like, oh, like, it's okay to have these feelings. And I know that might not be the case for everyone, but for me, I needed that, right?

Because the way I grew up, I didn't. I didn't have the permission, right, to feel sad. I grew up in the, you know, suck it up, buttercup. You know, like, don't. You know, don't be this. Don't be that. You know, feelings are for. For, you know, for babies or for kids and all that. And I'm cleaning up the language, obviously, if you guys know me and my family, like, at all, like, I'm cleaning up the language, but you guys get the point. But we have to. We have to accept that, you know, in the loss and grieve those relationships in those communities and the fact that we're not the same person that we were five years ago, a year ago, we might not even be the same person that we are 90 days ago, and your community might not be the same.

Like, I'm grateful now, for example, for the Cadre community, right? Jumped into the Cadre community, and there's people that I see out and about out in the wild, so to say. And I'm like, oh, like, okay, that's. That's a part of my new community, right? So it's not like this big thing, like, you have to go to a gym and sit inside of a class for them to be your community. If you engage with someone, you know their name, you know their story, you've exchanged words or word, like, stories or anything with them, that you're a part of that community, even if you don't see them every day.

And I'm grateful for this one. I see all kinds of people out in the wild, and it's. It's cool to see, but. So I'm getting off track. But back to the acceptance on who were, you know, the version of us were supposed to be right. For me, once I finally reach a level of acceptance, it builds safety. Because once I accept something, then I get to own it. It's like, all right, these. You know, this is who I'm becoming. That means that I can't be around this person, this person or that person as much to protect who I'm becoming.

Because when we're becoming someone, we're vulnerable. We're open to influence. We're open to things misleading us. And when we accept that, when I accept it, it's like I get to grab onto that and protect it. Right? Let's wrap this around safety. This version of myself I'm becoming because I don't want no one to growth, right? And I start putting myself around people, places, and things that will help protect me, right? Physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually, all the things. Because once I accept something and the feelings, the emotions and things that come along with it, oh, yeah, I'm.

I'm putting that thing in the headlock and. And it's not getting away from me. But accepting growth is uncomfortable, and it's. It's a part of the journey. So I don't know about you guys, if you guys ever felt, you know, anxious or insecure or not knowing what the future is gonna hold, it's. I try to think of myself as that. That. That little butterfly that's in the cocoon still. Like, we're just in there rattling around, trying to break free. But once that first wing gets out there, we're flying now.

We're flying. So it feels like that emotionally sometimes, too. Might not look as pretty, but that's growth. So I just wanted to jump on here quick, share a little bit about acceptance of the versions of ourselves that we're becoming. Yeah, I think I am gonna be switching times. I will update and drop a post in the Cadre sphere. I'm gonna pick something a little bit more towards the evening, just because I'm firing on all pistons a little bit differently. I get a little bit more. What's the word I could use?

I can't think of the word. I get a little bit more philosophical. I guess that's when I sit down, I'm like, I'm gonna write a book. I'm actually working on a children's book, actually. I don't know. From 8 till 9, 30, 10, I just go in this philosophical mode. And I feel like, I don't know, Aurelius or something. No, but that's all I got for you. I just wanted to come check in. Happy Thanksgiving week. If you're celebrating, it's Turkey Day. If anyone's doing the Turkey Trot, I will be there. But also, I just.

Full transparency. I signed up out of peer pressure, and I had an idea when I had a super extrovert moment and it came back and bit me because people held me accountable. Shout out, community. Sometimes. It's not always. I don't. They always hold me accountable, and I don't want them to, but I'm running the Turkey Trot. I haven't. I haven't ran more than three blocks in about two months. So we're purely off discipline, a little peer pressure, and a whole lot of communities. So if you're at the Turkey Trot, I should have a pair of drumsticks on my ears.

I gotta go get that today. But thank you guys for popping in with me. I hope you guys have a good week. Be grateful for the time that you spend with family and eat lots of food. Lots of food. And move your body. All right, y', all, check it out. Check you guys out later. It.