Improve Your Self-Confidence

Hi, folks. How are you? My name is Nick the poet. This is my live stream tonight. I'm so happy that you have taken the time to join me. So I'm going to be talking about how to improve self confidence. And this is a topic you've probably thought about before, and it's something that maybe you've tried try to improve. And it's something, if you're anything like me, is different on different days. In the twelve step step recovery movement, they have an expression, egomaniac with inferiority complex.

And so I can relate to that, you know, because sometimes I feel very confident. I feel very assured, you know, and at other times, I feel, you know, less than I feel doubtful. I feel like, you know, am I up to the occasion? Am I up to the task? Can I do this? You know, and so for me, that's how I'm wired, you know, between those, those kind of different levels. And you may be somewhere in between there, and maybe you're someone who has great confidence, and maybe you're someone who struggles, you know, a bit with it.

And so I just have some different ideas that I want to give you. Like, my friend James Ronan from the the catch it on Cadre podcast says, you know, if you like any of these ideas, catch them and, you know, use them. But, you know, I think we've all struggled with this at some point in our life. So here's some tips that can help you boost your confident confidence. So, number one is to get rid of the negative self talk as much as possible. And so we all have this. This voice in our head. We can call it the inner critic.

We can call it the judge, you know? And so I think to improve our confidence, we need to find a way around that. For me, it's taking action. You know, if I'm having trouble with public speaking, you know, maybe I need to take a speaking class. You know, maybe I need to ask for help. I maybe need to talk to a therapist. I have this negative self talk. What can I do? You know, talk to a friend about it. Affirmations can help. Meditations can help. Spirituality can help. But we need some way to silence, you know, this.

This inner critic that we all have. Because the truth is, no one's thinking about us that much. If people are judging us, it's none of our business. And so I think if we can find a way to silence that critic, and I think it, you know, the more that we can have affection for ourself and realize that we're doing the best we can and that, you know, hey, we're trying, you know, to live a life of any kind requires courage. And so we've got to get over that self talk to help us with our confidence. Number two is be mindful of your body language.

So the more we can stand up straight, make eye contact, smile, you know, this is all good stuff. In sales, there's a technique called mirroring, where you try to mirror, you know, what the person you're talking to is doing. And we don't want to use tactics that are inauthentic, but I think there just is something when we have that good body language. I know when I get tired, you know, I start kind of hunching over and, you know, but if we just kind of let our body, you know, and this can help us get out of the self talk of the mind, too, you know, get into that body.

And so, like, oftentimes I'll find if I have something that I'm nervous about, if I work out or, or maybe take a sauna beforehand, then even take a shower, I'm going to feel better and feel like I'm more confident for whatever is going to come next. So keep thinking about that body language. And to tie into that is to take care of yourself. So when you look good, you're going to feel good. You're going to do better. Once again, we don't want to be inauthentic about it, but, yeah, speaking on this, this platform, which I'm very honored to do with Cadre, and so I put on a nicer shirt, you know, for me, I try to make sure my beard doesn't get too wild.

You know, I don't have as much hair up top, but I try to, you know, get it together when I can. And I do feel better when I, when I do that. So if we're taking care of ourselves, you know, it's going to be a little bit easier to be confident. Another thing is to set realistic goals for yourself. You know, another thing in the twelve step verbiage is to, if you want more self esteem or more self confidence, do more esteemable acts. And so if we're taking these actions and setting goals for ourselves, whether it's a new job or a certain amount of money we want to make, or a spiritual goal or an emotional goal, whatever it may be, set those goals.

And then maybe it's a five k, you know, maybe it's a marathon. Shout out to the Cadre run club. If you do want to start running or walking, you should join our Facebook group, the Cadre run club. We're having a lot of fun over there. So I'm a bit of a salesman. I can't help it. So, yeah, you might want to check that out, but set those goals and see if you can go after them. You know, kind of tying into that body language thing is, you know, making eye contact, standing up straighter. All these things can help us build, you know, rapport with people, as can smiling.

Right. And so I believe it is scientifically proven that if we smile, it releases, you know, dopamine. And once again, we don't want to be inauthentic if we're not feeling well, we don't want to be smiling to the world and feeling terrible inside. Right. But all things being equal, if we can bring that smile, that attitude of gratitude, right. We're going to feel more confident, we're going to feel more at ease and more able to bring something to the table, you know? And that brings me to another point of confidence.

Something that helps me is if I'm thinking about myself, I lose confidence. But if I think about service or about what I can give in this situation, to use another term, is what. What can I pack into the stream of life, right. Then I'm gonna forget about the strife in my mind, and it's gonna be very helpful. So smile. And, you know, you might be surprised what happens when you smile and bring some gratitude to the table. Number seven, dress for success. So I mentioned this a little bit earlier. You know, I definitely feel better if I am, you know, dressing better.

And, yeah, my fashion sense is certainly not always the greatest. And I think some people have called it grandpa chic before. You know, it's like what a 70 year old would wear, but that's just what makes me feel good. And so dressing for success is going to look a little bit different for different people. So just something to think about. And lastly, number eight, speak slowly and clearly. So when we get nervous, we tend to talk faster. And this is totally what I do, especially after I've had a couple cups of coffee in the morning, you know?

But if we have a presentation or we have an important thing to say, the more that we can slow down, the more confident that we appear, and also, we're going to be able to get that point across better, you know? So those are some tips for you. And I don't think there's a silver bullet for confidence. It's something that we can keep getting better at, and it's something that we don't need to do alone. You know, you can ask your friends for tips. You can research it. You know, you can try different things.

You can share, you know, your tips with other people. We're all in this together, you know? And the other thing is, if someone appears to be super confident, it doesn't necessarily mean that they are. It just means that they're, you know, they're, they're working with what they have to work with, you know, in that moment, which is what we're all trying to do. So thank you so much for taking the time to view this. We have some absolutely awesome live streams coming up this week. You can learn more about that at Cadre IO or on all of our social media channels at Wecadre.

And I'd love, you know, if this moved you at all to please send me an email. Let me know what you think. Nhanson, h a n s e nre IO. And I want you to try one of these tips right, and post a video or a picture of it on social media tagicadre and tell me how you've improved your self confidence this week. So that's all I've got for you. Have an awesome rest of the day. Sending you peace and positivity and prosperity while still acknowledging that we've all got a lot of work to do. Okay, bye.