Cadre Today - The Outward Facing Clique

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Pretty remarkable. That, that this platform has been here for me to be able to connect with all of you. In the early days, in the early days of the Cadres, Tuesdays was always the day when I would talk about one of my favor concepts that I made up. Back in my youth directing days it was called the outward facing clinic. And I had a couple moments yesterday where this concept came to front of mind in front of groups of people and I was like, gosh, it's a good, it's a good message to raise up again.

So yeah, we're facing click. What is it? Well, let's start with the cultural normative of, of what a click is in the first place. A clique is a group of people who all have a shared interest and excitement on something. Think about the different cliques that you are part of now again, clicks are not adolescent groups of people. There are adolescent cliques and often cliques get put into that sphere of, of age, of life, chapter of life. But guess what? If you are 5 or if you're 50, or if you're 70, you are also a part of cliques, my friend.

We normally don't call them cliques when we get older because we want to seem more dignified or act like we have more things figured out. But think about the groups of people that you are a part of that have shared excitements and interests and passions and experiences. 9 of the time, unless we are thinking about it. The gravity pulls us into the center, right? It's like these little magnet little magnets that I have here. Oh. Hard thing about magnets is it's hard to use them for a demonstration.

Oh, this is funny. Real live television. Oh my gosh. Okay. Well, I'm just going to do it this way, right? Once we have a shared interest, what happens? Right? We face one another. We become an inward facing group of people. And for people who are not a part of it it's really hard for them to get in. We often say things like, oh, all are welcome here. Or like you, like you do you. This is a space for everybody. But if you're one of the new people, you look around, you go, w no easy pathway for me to get in.

There's no opportunity for me to pick up this thing as if I am equally as important as everybody else here. And because of that, clinics are often undesirable groups of people because there are groups of people that have low access points for people who are not already part of them. So the outward facing click is a concept to invite your beloved thing to grow. Here's the headline of the upward facing click. The longer that you're a part of something, the less it is about you and the more it's about the people who have yet to be a part of it.

Now, sometimes people clutch their pearls when they hear me say something like this. It's like, how dare you tell me I'm not as important? I've been here since the beginning. I've given my life to this thing. And I go, yes, you have. And why did you do that? They go, because I care about this. This is so important to me. And I go, yes, it is because of that. Wouldn't you want it to foster and grow and, you know, get stronger and to reach more people? Because you actually think this thing is something that could change people's lives, like it's change yours?

And they go, well, yeah. And I go, they can guess what. It needs to be less about you and more about the people who aren't here yet. Otherwise this beloved thing is probably going to disappear sooner as opposed to later. And people go, okay, got it. And then they go, I'm just afraid. I'm just scared that I'm going to lose this thing. And I go, yeah, how often do we hear those things in life? If you love something, you got to let it go. And it's not as scary as we think it is. 97 doesn't. And that is, wouldn't we allow opportunities to other people when we take our organization and we go, hey, person who's been here when I put my org design hat on, whenever I'm facilitating, I always invite leaders in the room to go think about the person that you lead, that you oversee, who's been in this organization for the least amount of time, or b think they're the least important person in the organization.

Answer the questions through their lens. Think about what we're talking about through their lens. And all of a sudden people go, yeah, that's good. Because at the end of the day, you care about a lot of things in this world, and I know that your head and your heart goes, I want people to pick this up. I want people to be seen. I want people have the change happen to them. That happened to me when I found Fill in the blank. So it happens to me every day where I see groups of people who are. Because they're afraid they're going to lose the thing that's special to them.

I invite you today, when you have that moment, rather than facing inward and protecting, open the door and let people in and introduce them to the thing that is so special to you. And all of a sudden, that thing, it'll grow. Y', all, wherever you are, whatever's going on today. Emily, 1% better. Awesome. 20, 25. All y' all out there, have a great day. I'll see you tomorrow. If you got some snow coming, be safe in it. If you got some sunshine and palm trees, be safe in it. Make today exactly what it can be.

And when in doubt, bump right here to the Cadre sphere to come together with those people who are part of this very special thing called Cadre. You know me. One thing I can tell you is you got to be free. Come together right now. Over me, Saint.