Comedy Through The Chaos

Hey everybody, happy Thursday to you. Welcome to our normal time for comedy through the chaos that I somehow managed to forget to schedule again. So, hey everybody, maybe you'll be catching me in the replay because you're like, was she gonna join us today? I don't know. Did she even know if she was gonna join us today? But I am here and hopefully you are doing well wherever you are. I am Ms. Shannon Paul. I am a variety of word related things like a comedian, a corporate speaker, a voice actor, an event MC and a benefit auctioneer.

I am also the proud parent of an adorable 17 year old kiddo that happens to be on the autism spectrum. And so I'm happy to be joining you here in the Cadre sphere for this Thursday edition of Comedy through the chaos from the caregiver's perspective. I appreciate you. This song came on on and I was like, okay, I'm a jam to that one. I also thought I'd share with you. I am a fan of inspirational phrases. If you ever see a bunch of those things, if you go to a store. Hello, speak wonder. Yes, I am here today.

I was just saying that I got a new cup today and that I'm a friend, a fan of inspirational phrases. Like I'm the one of those people that buys all the live laugh love signs and things that you see at different places. And so here is my new cup. I think she's beautiful. Like, that was good. Hello, hello, hello. So I will read to you the phrase that is on this cup. So on one side as her and the other side it has this. So since you don't have to read this in reverse, I will read it for you. It says, be fearless in the pursuit of what sets your soul on fire.

It says, be fearless in the pursuit of what sets your soul on fire. And so that is what I will cheers to all of you today is that you are fearless in those pursuits. So cheers to that. I do not believe that there is anything that is. I know that sometimes you hear that it is. Thank you. I appreciate him. It's an artist named G baby. And so I have been following her for a number of years. So I believe that there is some sort of negative connotation attributed to doing toasts with water. I don't agree with that.

So I'm a toast with whatever. This does not happen to be water. It is additional hydration. It has some tea in it and some chia seeds because chia seeds are supposed to be good for your hydration and your digestion. So thank you Very much. And so I am very happy that as a present to myself lately, I hope Speak Wonder that your retreat went well and that you enjoyed the quiet time and some time inside your own head. I appreciate that for you. So what I always toast with water. I heard someplace, like somebody mentioned at a wedding or something that you're not supposed to toast with water.

We'll have to look it up. You know, there's always something to ruin a ritual for all of us. But I'm a big fan of people making rituals, whatever it is that they need them to be for them. So I thought Speak Wonder and this will come into play for what you do. I appreciated your comment about your Christmas tea this morning. I'll be able to watch more of that later. For me, I. I like the prompts that they had given us for the month of December. And it's been an interesting process for me because, as I mentioned before, reflection is not something that I organically am good with.

So it did go well. Yes. I met so many nice people and always had plenty of wonderful. I'm glad that it went well. So congratulations, Kathy. I appreciate you. So for me, it's been an interesting month. I don't have a lot of emotional. We'll use the word baggage. I'm very big fan of having our baggage turn into experience and not stay baggage, but I don't have a lot of that, even though I know that this time of year can be very complex for a lot of people. It's layered. You're welcome. It is layered for me, but it's not.

I'm not one of those people that has a lot of grief regarding this particular time period. But it does really draw to light a lot of the complexities that I have with my family, especially Mom. And so that'll come into play more on Saturday because I'm noodling on something that I think is appropriate to share here in the Cadre sphere, but how do I share it in a way that can be of benefit to all of us? So I'll have time to noodle on that between now and Saturday when we do the parenting edition of Comedy through the Chaos, because I feel like it's more appropriate to plop there.

But as far as where I am today, you may have seen I was just. That's what I was about to move into. So I was just about to say that for the, for the, the purpose of today's conversation, you may have seen a video that I dropped into the Cadre sphere. Wonderful timing. Speak Wonder. You have wonderful timing. And so in that video, I talk about how a lot of the process that I've gone through with my mental wellness journey and my personal journey has been really working on things from the inside for a variety of reasons.

And I was talking to. And I'll re tell the story that you may have seen in the video. My son has a weekly visit from an adaptive personal trainer who of course, since he's been. She's been coming over here for years. She's a friend of mine. Her name happens to be Tanya. So Tanya was over on Saturday and she's adjacent to my age. So we are talking about a number of things from the perspective of perimenopausal women and working on your hormones and all those things. So I was talking to her about how I had done a lot of things as far as my mindfulness practices, my gratitude practice and compassionate practices and working on my particular healing.

Working on. As you remember those old school stories about there's a hole in the bucket. Dear Liza, Dear Liza, I worked very hard on filling the hole in my bucket so that things could actually stay in it. And then I also told her that one of the things that had really worked for me was the fact that I got my hormones in check. And so she's like, oh, yeah, that totally all makes sense. She goes, I had noticed something was different. I thought it was that guy you were dating. I don't like what guy?

What? There's no guy? Like, what guy? And so I had to really think hard. Speak when I had to think hard about what guy. I'm like, who was I even hanging out with short term that I would have told her about. Maybe I mentioned that I went like out to happy hour with somebody, but there's no dude, there's no guy. There wasn't anything like that. It really was the work that I had been doing for me. And sometimes I kind of feel like the fact that I've gone on this healing journey has actually made me slightly less appealing to certain guys.

So it certainly was not the impetus to why I am a calmer, kinder person than I was before. And that I thought was really funny that it's wonderful that people externally could see that there are changes in my demeanor and how calm I've been able to and how I've been able to manage my relationship with my anxiety. But I do think it's funny that they would give it credit to something that had nothing to do with it. And I think that some of that that comes back to us where we don't necessarily explain our journeys because not everybody needs to be be in our business.

We also don't necessarily give ourselves credit for things. We are just organically accustomed to giving credit to outside forces whenever we have something good happen to us. Maybe part of it is you don't want to seem like an eomaniac. You don't want to seem like a narcissist. You're just accustomed to being humble to the point of being in the position of your own self detriment. And you're certainly not accustomed to saying in a way where you are bold and proud about what you did or for yourself.

So it's not anybody's fault that they would attribute that to some outside force. But I was like, no, there's no dude. There's no no, no dude. All me. All me. So what I would like to encourage you to do as your homework assignment this week is to think on this. What is one thing that you've done for yourself that you should give yourself way more credit for? So what is one thing that you've done for yourself that you should give yourself way more credit for? Maybe it has been your, your mental wellness journey.

Maybe it has been your rest and recovery journey. Maybe it has just been your ability to manage any of those difficulties that we have, our anxiety, our depression, our all of those things that we are constantly handling. Maybe it's giving yourself more space as a caregiver so that you can care for yourself as where as well as the person that you love. So there are a variety of things that maybe you aren't even giving yourself enough credit for. So you certainly can't expect anybody else to notice that you deserve the credit.

So again, just think on this over the next few days. What is one thing that you should give yourself way more credit for that maybe you're not doing? And then we can always later down the road look into the reason why you don't give yourself credit. That's a longer conversation that I think that we can always double back to. Because maybe you're like me and it's something that you just don't give yourself enough credit. Good timing. This song just came on. I sent this to our friend JC Lippold, who we see often here in the app.

It's by a group called ajr. They are a trio of brothers formerly out of New York, New York City. And so this particular song, it's called Way Less Sad. We'll have him run it back. Alexa, play the preview song again. I was thinking about this song because it really does kind of just sum up and I didn't time it this way, but we'll do really does just sum up. A lot of what we just said is don't you love it? You know, I'm not happy yet, but I'm way less sad. And that's something you should give yourself credit for.

So I'll play a little bit. Alexa, turn it up. I'm probably always kind of sunny out, he says. So I set my bar real low, is what he says. How many of our bars are too low? I'm a okay, you just don't mean it. And then here's the chorus. Just enjoy this feeling. Don't you love it? But I'm way less sad. But I'm way less sad. Hopefully you are way less sad. Give yourself credit for that. Continue on the journey. Figure out what you need to do to take one more step forward. And if that's hanging out with us, we are so happy to be that for you.

We will continue this conversation when I am back with you on Saturday at 10am I'll make sure I put it into the schedule so people know that I'll be here. Well, I'll be here for the the Comedies of the Chaos Parenting Edition. My Conversation. What I plan is for us to pick up this conversation on the other side of this button, but also to talk about how we can break some of those cycles from what our parents did to what we do as parents. So we'll pick that conversation up on Saturday at 10am Central.

Speak Wonder I adore you. Thank you so much for everything that you do here in this app. Thank you for everything that you do out in the community. Thank you for the wonderful job you do caretaking for your mom, so I'm sure she appreciates it. But I want to tell you how much I love your stories and everything that you share and happy yet but I'm way less sad. See you on Saturday, friend. When I can't fall asleep and I'm losing my mind.