Cadre Today - Enoughness 101

No, it isn't. It's plain. Well, part of our trip to the Met is I get to explain. So this is a painting of what? It's a painting of apples. That's right. That's right. So the artist has us looking at what? That's right. The point is that things aren't beautiful all on their own. Beautiful comes from reflection. Beautiful takes a person who makes a connection. Do you know what I mean? For beautiful to happen, the beautiful has got to be seen. I love that line. I love that line a lot. Listen to it.

So these two people are looking at a painting, and the one is saying, you could pick the most any painting in in the Metropolitan Museum, and you pick this one as being the most beautiful. And the guy says, yes, this is the most beautiful. And then at the end he goes, so what's this painting of? It's painting of apples. So the artist has us looking at what, boring, everyday things. The point is that things aren't beautiful all on their own. Beautiful comes from reflection. Beautiful takes a person who makes a connection.

For beautiful to happen, the beautiful has got to be seen. Chris, Carrie, Jules, Kefe, Marisa, all y' all jumping in on this Saturday. Good morning. Right now, I'm seeing beautiful. I'm seeing something through my reflection, through that I think is really, really perfect. And that is what we're doing right here at Cadre. People who don't know each other yet, that's what I like to call strangers. Or maybe people who didn't know each other who do now through this platform. Or maybe people who knew each other before who now get to know each other in a different way.

That's beautiful. Because right now it may be happy or sad in your world it may be gloomy or sunny in your world you may be busy or lazy in your. Hey, speak, wonder no matter how you are in your world we know that we jump in here for a few minutes and something changes. And that something is beautiful. That song is from a musical called Ordinary Days. In this musical, there's four people who are all kind of living their New York life. And all of a sudden, their worlds weave into one another. Good morning, Jen.

Nice to see you. This musical takes like epoxy. These two things don't happen until they come together. The person seeing the beauty and the beauty being there with enoughness kind of works the same way. You have to believe. You have to see something in yourself that has worth four. It's to be put into action for it to be true. You're the one who has to go, you know what? Here's what is enough. You know, the genesis of all this enoughness for me started about when I was five and I was standing on the three meter diving board in the deep end of the Brooklyn Center Community center public pool.

I'm standing on the diving board as the little sissy nonverbal kid going, I need to jump off this diving board so that I could be fill in the blank enough because all of the, all of the other kids, especially all of the athletic, you know, masculine boys are already down the deep end of the pool treading, looking up me, saying, hey, just jump, just jump. It'll be fun. And the word they use just set off in my brain. Wait a minute. This is a just act for them, meaning it's a minimal act. It's not a life changing act for them.

It's a fun act. It's a, it's a, it's a common act for them, but it's definitely not a just act, a only act for me. If I could have jumped off that diving board, then I would have been enough. I would have been a normal boy. I would have been like Pinocchio. And in that moment I realized that a, I really didn't care about being enough in that way. Now again, it wasn't this like aha moment. It was filled with years of torment to me realizing this. But I ended up never jumping off of that diving board.

I walked back down to the stairs and I scarily got down the stairs and I got back down to earth and I was like, ha. And over the next 15 years I realized it's like, oh yeah, you know what? I'm not enough in the way that the cultural normative entity is enough. But I found my own enoughness in that moment. Jumping off the diving board was maybe the Mona Lisa. It was what everybody else would be like, what's the most beautiful painting in the world? And I was standing up there looking for my bowl of apples.

The good news is, is that traumatic moment really set me on course for finding bowls of apples that I thought were beautiful. So my question for you is, what is the thing that you keep trying to do that you keep trying to find beauty in, that you actually don't freaking care about that you actually don't think is the most beautiful thing in the world yet because it's the cultural normative, it's the dominant thing that everybody's supposed to do. You keep trying to put your square peg into the round hole.

That's my invitation for you. Today to take the opportunity to find a moment of reflection, to see something you see as beautiful, and then maybe share that with someone else because they too, may find that it's beautiful. Or they may go, huh? Not everybody sees beauty in the same thing, y'. All. Or part of our trip to the Met is I get to explain. Here they go. Here we go. So this is a painting of what? It's a painting of apples. That's right. That's right. So this painting has us looking at what boring every everyday things.

That's right. The point is that things aren't beautiful all on their own. Beautiful comes from reflection. Beautiful takes a person who makes a connection. Do you know what I mean? For beautiful to happen, the beautiful has got to be scene. Go see that beautiful day, everybody. Bye. Okay, Sa.